Earnest, candid, honest, and direct (but not rudely so, for reasonable values of "rude"); I actually care about things -- sometimes, too much. I value trust and mature, reciprocative dealings. I'm rational and thoughtful, self-aware and self-consistent, but also plenty emotional: I see many sides of things, many futures, and with distinct empathy. I can be a rock or an ocean. I can be at once bitter and/or sarcastic (generally playfully) as well as the most caring and kind hearted. I fall amusingly out of touch with common culture, and have little skill in small-talk, which means I want to talk about something, not that I won't talk easily. I don't care for make-up, but I use grammar, spelling, AND capital letters (more personal hygiene than make-up).
I'm open to many things, but my decisions are not all unmade. I can reconsider, but I don't really argue for fun. I value quality, but not pretense. I try not to look down on things just because they don't follow what I want (although some things demand derision). I still pick at things that undermine what I value, especially when pointlessly so. I'm low key, but still passionate. Friendship and dating don't have hard boundaries with me: I can handle a friendship/intimate relationship, and I consider friends commitments, so "dating" is more just labeling something as going well. Callings seem to include programming (but not enamored by technology) and teaching. Forests and mountains beat cities, though cities do have tastier restaurants, and a larger hope for kindred spirits, or at least activity friends. I don't seem to want to just be--I need to do, to make, to engage. Hope keeps me alive. Literally.
I favor polyamory: the idea that responsible, committed multi-partner relationships are not just possible, but worth the effort. Personally, I feel that the monogamous world-view, while a nice simplification, is generally more an unfortunate and insecure denial of people's value. Real connections to people are rare and very important to me -- I couldn't see limiting someone else's finding them just because I like their attention. Practically speaking, my mate (VioletChimaera) and I have an open relationship, and we figure things out as opportunities arise. Of course, this is only relevant for people that might like to step outside friendship to one degree or another.
I am a gamer, which is to say that I seek interesting decisions and actively engaging challenges, and the various avenues of gaming do more for me than anything else I've found. I don't require everyone to have experience here, but someone that has no interest at all lacks something I need and expect in people.
There are a lot of negative views of gaming, but I stand far from the obsessive, obnoxious, or militant prototypes and have no real interest in gambling or manipulating for gain. I interact with people directly: they are neither tools to explore a fantasy nor dumping grounds for trivia. I enjoy doing things with people because I enjoy people enjoying things, and games provide more engaging situations and frameworks for opposition. I also like sharing the things I enjoy, and I know how to teach and deal with the inexperienced so they feel involved. I don't teach people to play games just to squish them, and I don't play by alternating between doing nothing and wiping the floor with them. I try to keep things interesting. My video games, card games, and board games (mostly European games, wargames, and such strategic fare) are carefully chosen for things I value: you won't find Cards Against Humanity, Poker, Pictionary, Trivial Pursuit, Fluxx, Munchkin, or their ilk here. Such casual games don't do enough with my time.
Similarly, I value role playing games for making interesting characters, doing interesting things, and building stories. RPGs--the pen and paper kind, not computer RPGs or LARP--are good for people less satisfied by just taking things in, but they still usually get played by people who want to kill things and take their stuff, or those who just glory in themselves. This also makes it difficult to find much opportunity to play.
I also like Japanese animation (anime), and when I say that, I mean good anime and not the insipid stuff or the tentacle-/bimbo-heavy genres (redundant, but worth noting). There is probably too much bad anime out there for mentioning this interest to be as helpful as I'd like, especially as weak and poorly dubbed anime has become increasingly available, but even as dreck flows ever upward and outward, anime is still where I can most reliably turn for longer and more engaging stories, for interesting settings, and for meaningful emotions. Also, just because I like a fair bit of anime does not mean I am a Japanophile. I rarely favor things just for their relation to something else I like, except perhaps people, and I really don't do the excitable fan thing.
I enjoy being outside, walking/hiking around pretty places and taking pictures, although left to myself I don't get out too much. I would probably enjoy other such things, like maybe kayaking. Biking and skating are fun ways to get around.
So. I am decidedly not for everyone. Yet, someone might want to know me because I am a rare caring and emotionally available individual, mature and irreverent, flawed and accepting, intense and authentic, interesting and attentive, searching and reaching... I've been told a number of times that no one's really like I am, which confuses me because, well, there I am.
I've dealt with severe depression for a long time now, and both improvement and fortune come fleetingly, something I have to accept about my life, even as I work against it. Sometimes the losses come particularly harshly, and even as resilient as I am, it can be difficult to mask properly (especially, I've found, while e-mailing and attempting to be personal). That said, it has been less obvious of late, and I am thankful for the respite and always work towards keeping it like that; I just think it important to mention.
Myers-Brigs-Jung tests call me an INFJ which has some accuracy, if you care about that. Some say I am practically dead even on the F/T, J/P, and I/E axes; others skew me way, *way* towards I and N as well as being pretty far into the F and J. The latter claim better testing, but it's hard to tell which has the less horridly invalid world-view projecting questions. The "best type for you" test says I want an INFJ, which I suspect as pretty accurate, because I consider the best judge for myself to be how I would feel as my own friend/partner, and I don't accept being someone I wouldn't want. That leads to who I am, and I'm definitely not the type to view my own flaws more harshly in someone else. Rather, I sympathize and enjoy teaming up.
I long for those who can stand steadily by and say truly, "I know you. You are welcome here." I imagine someone like me will appreciate that I can and will return the favor. Even so, each new friend to share favorite games, stories, or ideas enriches my life, even the ones that can't really know me. So it goes.