Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
My first favorite joke is this and it gets me every time:
Q: How many surrealists does it take to change a light bulb?
A: A fish.
My second favorite joke is this, taught to me by my
Yes, I love to laugh and be silly. I think we humans are goofy.
I've done stand-up comedy and I teach improv comedy to adults to
help them reclaim their sense of fun.
My partner and I are non-monogamous and she is happy to talk to any
prospective lovers about her support. We don't live together. I am
looking for adventurous, open, and sensual women who are okay with
non-monogamy. Extra points if you're bisexual or bicurious. I love
the complexity and possibility. It's okay with me if you have
another primary relationship or other relationships, as long as we
are safe, kind, and responsible, and respect agreements and
boundaries. I bring my my whole self to the party (body, mind,
spirit, heart) and I hope you do too, but that doesn't mean we have
to be heavy and serious. I am also looking for people to play and
sing with for grins, and to start a band with.
I am not your standard number ten envelope.
I've been struck by lightning. I've hitchhiked across the U.S. I
write and sing songs in the tradition of John Prine. I love being a
DODO (Dad Of Daughters Only) to two teenagers. I love people who
are different and exceptional, especially creative people. I do
contact improv dance weekly and it changed my life and got me in my
body. I spent 20 years writing advertising. My life has been a
cross between my two favorite movies: Aliens II and Raising
Arizona. I usually read about 10 books at a time. I've written a
book or two myself, called "Perfect Phrases for Sales and
Marketing" and "Marketing, Advertising, and P.R., both published by
McGraw-Hill. I have made many mistakes, most of which I have
learned from. I can't bear meaningless suffering. I'm the person
strangers walk up to ask for money or directions. I had a stroke at
age 49 and I started waking up with entire songs in my head, which
had never happened before. In the E.R. as I lay dying, I vowed I'd
leave something beautiful behind if I lived. I just put out my
first album of songs, recorded with some amazing musicians in
Nashville, and my health is good. You can check them out on itunes.
I'm living proof it's never too late to start over again!
So many of my women friends have commented on this that I feel I
should mention it. I have a strong masculine side and I love women,
but I also have a strong "feminine" side that is emotionally
sensitive and articulate and compassionate, and I love beauty and
and conversation and feel deeply to a degree that is apparently
unusual for dudes. I am not a wuss, but I do have a pretty high
Emotional Intelligence. If you don't like this, you should avoid
I am Open, Soulful, Sensual, Courageous, and Improvisational
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Exploring non-monogamy and sexual and sensual adventures.
Redefining wealth as more than money.
Learning to love myself first, then others.
Listening to spiritual guidance and maintaining my sense of
Completely changing my entire life.
Being a better role model for my kids.
Bringing out the best in my friends and myself.
Leaving something beautiful behind.
Putting out my second album, assembling music videos, writing new
songs, playing and singing out, putting together a band, looking
for people to play and sing with just for grins. If you sing or
play, contact me!
Reclaiming my visual art side by painting and drawing.
Working on my eating habits and weight.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening. Observing. Improvising. Accepting. Creating. Joking.
Singing. Articulating. Learning. Innovating.
Being sensual, romantic, open, and adventurous.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Intense crazy eyes. Big round Charlie Brown head. Low-register
voice. Shit-eating grin. Outside the box behaviors. I usually dress
entirely in black, but not in that goth piercing blood-drinking
kind of way. Laughter and joking.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Book: The Man Who Mistook His Wife For A Hat by Oliver Saks
Movie: Raising Arizona
Music: Anything by John Prine, especially "In Spite of
Food: You can not have a totally bad day and drink a chocolate
Comedian: Steven Wright
Sense: Touch. I am a lover of massage, contact improv dance, and
Sex: I love sex, women (especially bisexual women), connection, and
playful intensity and experimentation.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sex and romance.
My sense of humor.
God (but not the stuffy judgmental irritating kind)
6.6th thing: friends.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to be a better person.
Learning how to ask for things for myself, receive graciously,
rest, and love well.
Sexual/emotional adventures and non-monogamy.
How I can leave something beautiful behind: art, music, stories,
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Eating dinner and laughing with my daughters or laughing my ass off
at a standup comedy show, going on a date, writing songs, or
playing and singing at an open mic.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have been homeless enough to eat garbage and I have been wealthy
enough to own a building and a business.
I love bisexual or bicurious women and have had interesting and
My lover dandelionwishes1 wants me to have lots of lovely
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are looking for sexual, sensual, and emotional adventures and
you are comfortable with non-monogamy. You are a thoughtful
interesting and kind person with wild life experiences, a sense of
humor, a love of conversation, and a desire to learn and explore.
The more open, unconventional, thoughtful, and articulate you are,
the better. I love "exceptional" people in every meaning of the
word. Let's chat! I find OKCupid a very interesting way to get to
know others and oneself.
You want to get together and play and sing, either just for fun or
to start a band. I just put out my first album of songs on itunes,
CDBaby, and Facebook. If Roger Miller and John Prine had a bastard
child who went to college and sang like Johnny Cash, you'd have my
sound. Send me a message if you'd like to get together and play and
sing. I live in Madison WI.
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