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formertexan

38 M Somerville, MA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:26pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Hispanic / Latin, White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Atheism, and very serious about it
Sign
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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I'm just testing the waters here. My current thought about having this account, to paraphrase a beloved movie quote: "Sleep well. Most likely delete you in the morning."

Okay, a little more. I'm trying my damnedest right now to break some of the following lifelong habits: worrying more about other people's notions of the "right" way to do things than whether I'm actually happy, or even interested in what I'm doing; settling for the first career and set of friends to come along and being deeply unsatisfied with both, because I'm too afraid to experience the pain of risking and trying and failing; not flossing.

I am introspective, nostalgic, and tentative.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've spent my career doing environmental consulting work, specializing in outdoor air quality, mostly for electric power plants and other sources of industrial air pollution. It's primarily a desk job-- I help clients obtain operating permits and file emission reports with EPA and state agencies-- but occasionally I put on a hard hat and boots for a site visit. I'm currently working on a very interesting project that involves periodic visits to offshore LNG tankers, including a two-week ocean voyage a couple of summers ago doing emission tests on a ship's boilers.

But you know what? I don't really enjoy it much. The work itself involves very little engineering or science, and consists mainly of dotting i's and crossing t's. And sadly, while the Clean Air Act has been tremendously successful-- the bureaucratic paperwork is what forces polluters to reduce their emissions-- I think our biggest environmental problems are so grave that we can barely even talk about them, let alone regulate them. Anyway, doing something about my career is on my mental to-do list.

Most of the rest of my life I spend reading and thinking and listening to music, and trying to come up with better answers to this question.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
* adding and subtracting medium-sized numbers in my head.
* making guacamole.
* drawing things, although it's hard work and I haven't tried for years.
* explaining complex subjects in a way that laypeople can easily understand-- at least, I like to think I'm really good at this.
The first things people usually notice about me
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This is an uncomfortable subject, but it's probably my ambiguous ethnicity. Strangers sometimes try to guess where I'm "from" and are always wrong. It annoys me occasionally-- I don't usually think of myself as being "from" anywhere, despite my OKC handle. (At times I barely even felt like a Texan growing up there.) As Butch said in Pulp Fiction, "I'm American, honey, our names don't mean shit." But I know what people are getting at, so I say, yeah, my mom's family was originally from Mexico. Or if I'm in a hurry, I just say Mexico. Sometimes it's touching. People ask if I'm from wherever they're from and then look disappointed when I'm not. Or someone will greet me in Spanish, in a restaurant or on a subway platform, and I have to sheepishly explain that I don't speak Spanish!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Actually veering into "most private thing I'm willing to admit here" territory....

BOOKS

Why I Am Not A Christian, Bertrand Russell. My favorite moral philosopher, not that I've read much of anyone else. Discovering him was a "where have you been all my life" moment.

Dune, Frank Herbert. The best science fiction book ever written?

Toward a Psychology of Being, Abraham Maslow. Especially Chapter 4, Defense and Growth.

MOVIES

Don't see many movies or TV shows these days, and tend to be snobby about my choices. That's embarrassing to admit, I guess. (And a personal hangup, too, extending to other areas of my life-- I avoid things that seem "trashy" or low-brow out of fear that I might have to admit enjoying them.) Anyway, a number of my recent favorites have a single pivotal moment that really sticks in my mind-- this might be what I really hope for in a film now, a genuine climactic moment. Some movies that did this for me:

Metropolis, Fritz Lang. (The 75th anniversary restored edition)
A Moment of Innocence, Mohsen Makhmalbaf.
Ratatouille, Disney/Pixar.
Me and You and Everyone We Know, Miranda July.

Also currently making my way through the HBO series "Six Feet Under."

MUSIC

I feel so grateful when I rediscover long-ago favorite songs whose names I'd never learned on the radio, or when I try artists I'd ignored forever and find they're wonderful. Recently made grateful by these albums:

Who's Next, The Who
Hounds of Love, Kate Bush
Best of the Doobies, The Doobie Brothers
Solitude Standing, Suzanne Vega
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
There's practically nothing one could never do without, right? I'll reimagine this answer as particular things I would hate to substitute for (yeah, I'm sure that's what they really meant, but it sounds funny to me):

* My 6-year-old pair of leather fishing sandals
* Chef's knife and cutting board
* My Charlie Card (but the multi-colored monthly passes were more fun)
* My Zipcard
* Google

* Bonus item: My Hewlett Packard 32S II scientific calculator! Reverse Polish Notation (this feature alone makes me hate calculators without it, which is almost all of them). Purchased in 1995, discontinued some years back. I thought it was broken for over a year, but I just needed to reset it. I was happy about that for literally days. Still happy about it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I feel urgently aware of time's passage right now, and I'm trying to reconcile the painful sense that I'm missing so many of the experiences available to a young, healthy, educated American living in a big East Coast city, with the equally painful sense that if you love life and humanity and want the future to be worth a damn, you should be forgoing most of those experiences! I feel this conflict most intensely about travel and about food, which of course are some of the experiences people find most precious and valuable. I envy my friends who have visited far-away parts of the world, yet I feel guilty about the thought of doing so myself. And I love food, almost all of it-- trying new things can be so thrilling-- yet the thought of fully embracing my desire to cook new dishes or visit new restaurants makes me feel a little ashamed.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
wishing I had the courage to call someone up and make plans. Sad but true.

...And once that feeling passes, I'm reading a new favorite blog, catching up on one of the films I've heard about but never gotten around to seeing, or falling asleep in bed with a book.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I think I've said quite enough already, but okay, here's another: I really liked _Wilson Phillips_ but haven't listened in 15 years out of complete embarrassment about this fact.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 27–46
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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you identify with this sense that so many choices in life involve a painful trade-off. My social world sometimes seems to consist either of vegetarian, politically aware, bike-riding climate change activists who are *totally* comfortable with those life choices, or of hedonistic, steak-eating, tropical-island-vacationing, "after me the deluge" types who are totally comfortable with *those* life choices. I enjoy things about both of these kinds of people but they make me feel lonely. If you're either one of these types but feeling *really conflicted* about it, I'd love to talk to you!