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53 San Jose, CA Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 40-55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
Post grad
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
English (Fluently), Chinese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Would like to find someone to do things and go places with. My parents blessed me with a good balance of left brain (logical) and right brain (creative); I find myself fairly adaptable to anything. I'm divorced and would like to meet new friends or special someone and explore what adventures are ahead; hope that involves a lot of laughter and fun and even connection at an intimate level. Hope to find good chemistry that will lead to something meaningful and long term. I have a wide range of interests and am multifaceted; been told I'm a renaissance man (polymath).

I enjoy the arts, live performances (bands, plays, musicals), cooking, outdoor activities, sports (playing and spectating), music, movies, museums, zoos, and even home projects. But most of all, quality time with my two teenage sons (who live with their mother).

I'm still old-school and appreciate all the things that the younger generation never experienced. I prefer face-to-face conversations and interactions, and try not to be a slave to technology. I prefer pinball machines over video games, real sports over Wii sports, homemade over gourmet.

Would like someone who is health and fitness conscious, not only for the appearance, but for the mindset and lifestyle. Being fit takes desire and dedication, just like all the other aspects of life.

BTW... PLEASE have a picture (or two) where I can see your eyes. I do believe "honesty" and "integrity" start with pictures (along with the profile) on a dating site. And you can't expect it unless you can offer it; it goes both ways, like "respect".
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
After a long hi-tech career, I became a school teacher (and coach tennis at the school). I'm also a freelance photographer, graphic designer, and an actor. Always try to seek and enjoy what life has to offer.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being a friend (listening, understanding, and accepting)
Art projects and home projects
Figuring out how things work and how to fix things
Assembling IKEA furniture
Kissing (I've been told; references available upon request, LOL)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Positive attitude and energy
Easy going and open minded
Humbly confident
Physically fit and athletic
My presence and vitality (which you can't see or feel online)
I love what I do and do what I love (passionate)
Most people are shocked when I tell them my age
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
TV: Diners, Drive-ins, and Dives; Big Bang Theory, Hawaii Five-O, CSI's, documentaries (like 60 minutes, 20/20, Nightline), ESPN, How I Met Your Mother, Family Guy
Movies: Avengers/superheros, James Bond, Mobsters, Jackie Chan's, action movies (like Die Hard, Lethal Weapon), Star Wars
Shows: I'm a stage performer, so I appreciate all productions
Musics: Oldies, Motown, old-school soul R&B, 70's, 80's, Beatles, Green Day, Beach Boys, Michael Jackson, ska, reggae, classical, jazz, big band.
Food: Pretty much anything; sushi, Thai, Chinese, dim sum, curry, Korean, Vietnamese, BBQ, spicy food
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My kids (especially when they say, "I love you, Dad.")
My family
My health (physical and mental)
Great friends
A balanced life
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Things that matter
"What am I going to do when I grow up?"
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing whatever comes up. Don't really have a "typical Friday".
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Ask me when we meet.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.'re looking for good conversation, a friend, someone to laugh with or at, an activity partner, a date, something casual, or someone to explore the possibilities and experiment with and see if it will turn into something meaningful and long term.

I'll be impressed if you initiate the messages, and I won't think you're being forward, but see it as a sign of confidence.

Please do not message me if you don't have any pictures posted, or posted pictures with you in sunglasses only or your feet. I'm a photographer, so I'm all about the eyes.

Please do not message me if all you can write is "Hi", "Hi there", "Hey there", and nothing else. At least make a comment about my profile or pictures or something, so I know at least you've looked at my profile.

Please do not message me if you get paid for your services. You know what I mean, and you know who you are.

Please do not message me if you need US citizenship.

**WARNING: Any institutions using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects - You do NOT have my permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a serious violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications. It is recommended that other members post a similar notice to this**