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frabjousdai

48 M Seattle, WA

My Details

Last Online
Aug 24
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Cancer
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Cosmopolitan, literate, open minded urbanite who loves the city but runs with the wolves, likes non-mainstream media, alternative thought, honest, frank conversation, politics, massage, film, sensuality, aliveness, litheness, the heat of existence, heat, period. Very active, blasphemous, corrupt vegetarian: will consume goulash at your grandmother's, plus I eat fish. Passionate about life, participation & affection. Friends first, not looking for a hookup, but more of a long-term part time situation with a graceful realist to make a strong connection but not shack up with who wants richness, vibrancy and a mellow aplomb. Fond of run-on sentences.
What I’m doing with my life
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I run a bookstore in Seattle with my partner/lover/confidante of a great many years. We're not hitched, or attached at the hip, but we share an apartment in the building we own here and are very close. We've always seen other people. I also stay busy with what I call "light renovation and construction" activities, which take place in both Seattle and on an acreage I have that I bought as raw land and is now not quite so raw, about an hour out in the boonies, where the big trucks live and espresso stands show more than the rosette in your cup's foam. I camp and work there a lot. I also do a lot of yoga, dance, read a good deal, bicycle, hike, watch movies but not TV, write and play. I have a play ethic that incorporates work.
I’m really good at
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Communication, writing, not lying: to myself or others, standing on my head, Bikram yoga, eating well (this means naturally, not haute cuisine), talking back, (nicely usually), bicycling, playing in the body, not repressing, rolling around, open water swimming, political analysis, relaxing, keeping my ecological footprint small(er), critical thinking, collage, appreciating a foreign point of view, jacking the dominant paradigm, learning, defying authority, romping in the wilderness, masssge, dancing, wrestling: in all its myriad applications.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm not checking my messages.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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As an English major and bookstore owner I've read and continue to read a great deal, and I don't know if I've ever tried to list what I've liked most, but some of the authors I know I'll read just about anything by are Mikhail Bulgakov, Anton Chekov, Margaret Atwood, Paul Bowles, Charles Bukowski, Kurt Vonnegut, John Stienbeck, Noam Chomsky, Edward Said, Abbie Hoffman, Oliver Sacks, Bertrand Russel, Barbara Tuchman, Malcolm X, George Orwell, Tobias Wolff, Gore Vidal.
In movies I like documentaries and non-pop drama, foreign film. I like seeing good character development and/or interesting plots as opposed to a lot of smash n' flash. I'd much rather see a low-budget film that's quirky and interesting or that takes place in a culture I know little about rather than the latest shovel of media hype Hollywood cranks out. But that said, as in music, I've got pretty eclectic taste. Some good flicks I've seen recently have been the Future of Food and Our Daily Bread; ODB was like a Koyaanisqatsi of food manufacture, very cool; the Coen Brother's Man Who Wasn't There, Jackie Brown, Synecdoche, with Phillip Seymore Hoffman, who does a great opening scene. All time favorites include Brazil (which I took my mother to) Being John Malkovich, Harold & Maude, Trainspotting (the book is better) Ghandi, Truman Show, Happiness, Dogville (a great and terrible film), American Beauty.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Headlamp, clean water, a place to be alone, affection, imagination, irreverance, someone to love, a body to play in, 400 billion stars in just the near constellations.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
1) Why and how popular culture specifically and humanity in general is so completely bizarre.

2) The entirely impossible and absurdly vast, complex and intricate marvels of nature: from Pluto to the tap of a cicada's wing to the slow rhythm of my diaphragm.

3) My navel, navels near my own and their nearby accoutrements.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Atypically tipping protuberant paradigms. Wait, I do that on Thursdays. Fridays I type topically as I toe pinch quixotically, typically.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have a deeply disturbing fetish for pretending to admit sexy and mildly deranged but very interesting predilections in completely public corporate-sponsored media.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–64
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You think a relationship is more about fellowship than bondage. If you want to be intimate with someone for the joy it brings and not the bargain it strikes. If you interest in not to own and control but to foster and encourage. if you thought we could reinforce in each other the best things we can offer the world: in a playful, creative, amused and alive comradly conjunction, born of desire and flowering in passion. A high mark, perhaps, but with practice it can be routine.