Cosmopolitan, literate, open minded urbanite who loves the city but
runs with the wolves, likes non-mainstream media, alternative
thought, honest, frank conversation, politics, massage, film,
sensuality, aliveness, litheness, the heat of existence, heat,
period. Very active, blasphemous, corrupt vegetarian: will consume
goulash at your grandmother's, plus I eat fish. Passionate about
life, participation & affection. Friends first, not looking for
a hookup, but more of a long-term part time situation with a
graceful realist to make a strong connection but not shack up with
who wants richness, vibrancy and a mellow aplomb. Fond of run-on
What I’m doing with my life
I run a bookstore in Seattle with my partner/lover/confidante of a
great many years. We're not hitched, or attached at the hip, but we
share an apartment in the building we own here and are very close.
We've always seen other people. I also stay busy with what I call
"light renovation and construction" activities, which take place in
both Seattle and on an acreage I have that I bought as raw land and
is now not quite so raw, about an hour out in the boonies, where
the big trucks live and espresso stands show more than the rosette
in your cup's foam. I camp and work there a lot. I also do a lot of
yoga, dance, read a good deal, bicycle, hike, watch movies but not
TV, write and play. I have a play ethic that incorporates work.
I’m really good at
Communication, writing, not lying: to myself or others, standing on
my head, Bikram yoga, eating well (this means naturally, not haute
cuisine), talking back, (nicely usually), bicycling, playing in the
body, not repressing, rolling around, open water swimming,
political analysis, relaxing, keeping my ecological footprint
small(er), critical thinking, collage, appreciating a foreign point
of view, jacking the dominant paradigm, learning, defying
authority, romping in the wilderness, masssge, dancing, wrestling:
in all its myriad applications.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm not checking my messages.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
As an English major and bookstore owner I've read and continue to
read a great deal, and I don't know if I've ever tried to list what
I've liked most, but some of the authors I know I'll read just
about anything by are Mikhail Bulgakov, Anton Chekov, Margaret
Atwood, Paul Bowles, Charles Bukowski, Kurt Vonnegut, John
Stienbeck, Noam Chomsky, Edward Said, Abbie Hoffman, Oliver Sacks,
Bertrand Russel, Barbara Tuchman, Malcolm X, George Orwell, Tobias
Wolff, Gore Vidal. In fiction I like grungy stories with lots of
detail. Just read a very good short story by Thomas Mcguane.
In movies I like documentaries and non-pop drama, foreign film. I
like seeing good character development and/or interesting plots as
opposed to a lot of smash n' flash. I'd much rather see a
low-budget film that's quirky and interesting or that takes place
in a culture I know little about rather than the latest shovel of
media hype Hollywood cranks out. But that said, as in music, I've
got pretty eclectic taste. Some good flicks I've seen recently have
been the Future of Food and Our Daily Bread; ODB was like a
Koyaanisqatsi of food manufacture, very cool; the Coen Brother's
Man Who Wasn't There, Jackie Brown, Synecdoche, with Phillip
Seymore Hoffman, who does a great opening scene. All time favorites
include Brazil (which I took my mother to) Being John Malkovich,
Harold & Maude, Trainspotting (the book is better) Ghandi,
Truman Show, Happiness, Dogville (a great and terrible film),
The six things I could never do without
Headlamp, clean water, a place to be alone, affection, imagination,
irreverance, someone to love, a body to play in, 400 billion stars
in just the near constellations.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
1) Why and how popular culture specifically and humanity in general
is so completely bizarre.
2) The entirely impossible and absurdly vast, complex and intricate
marvels of nature: from Pluto to the tap of a cicada's wing to the
slow rhythm of my diaphragm.
3) My navel, navels near my own and their nearby accoutrements.
On a typical Friday night I am
Atypically tipping protuberant paradigms. Wait, I do that on
Thursdays. Fridays I type topically as I toe pinch quixotically,
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a deeply disturbing fetish for pretending to admit sexy and
mildly deranged but very interesting predilections in completely
public corporate-sponsored media.
You should message me if
You think a relationship is more about fellowship than bondage. If
you want to be intimate with someone for the joy it brings and not
the bargain it strikes. If your interest is not to own and control
but to foster and encourage. if you thought we could reinforce in
each other the best things we can offer the world: in a playful,
creative, amused and alive comradly conjunction, born of desire and
flowering in passion. A high mark, perhaps, but with practice it
can be routine.