I’m an independent, opinionated, very smart, highly creative woman who wants to learn to love a man like he’s possibly never been loved before – with deep empathy, tenderness, generosity and kindness. I agree with Harville Hendrix’s conclusion that the purpose of intimate relationships is to help us heal ourselves and each other. While I’ve done a lot of healing on my own, there is some healing that can only be accomplished in an intimate relationship. I’d like to take some time to get to know this special guy really well. I’m willing to be completely transparent, and I imagine he’ll be willing, too.
I’m lively, sensual, and funny. I love word play. I know myself very well. I care most about children, the environment, and finding a loving partner. I’m a spirited, spiritual person, with a deep understanding of psychology and a love of many people. I’m a professional writer and artist, and I manifest my creativity in many ways. I’m a passionate, generous lover. I’ll crack jokes. I’ll peruse recipes, compose poems, watch sunsets, and change our paradigm. I’ll enjoy getting to know you, and I envision both of us feeling more alive than we remember feeling for a long time.
I’ve had three marriages, and from each one I learned many valuable things. My third marriage ended 20 years ago, and I haven’t been in a long-term relationship since then. Although I’ve had lovers who are wonderful men, and I have men friends whom I treasure, I have a dreadful record of choosing men to marry. Whether it includes marriage or not, I’d like my next relationship to last many years, contain housefuls of laughter, and lots fewer tears.
After we decide we’re really interested in each other, in order to offset my myopia around choosing a man, what I’d like to do is go through a book called “Intellectual Foreplay.” It consists of questions for aspiring couples to answer as honestly and completely as they can. Now, it is possible that we may arrive at answers that lead us to decide to give up our quest – with each other, at least. On the other hand, if we actually get through the book, we may end up with a FABULOUS relationship, full of a deep knowing of ourselves and each other, and based on an unparalleled level of trust and intimacy.
We’ll need to really enjoy each other’s company, as well as share essential values, for this process to work. Although I’ve not done this before, I’m looking forward to it – with a bit of trepidation, and lots of excitement. I’m interested to hear whether this unique adventure is one you might be interested in sharing with me.
P.S. All the other kinds of adventures definitely appeal to me (I consider myself an adventurer) – hiking, sailing, travelling, etc. But to me this is the essential adventure, the one that I’m most interested in. Activities are amazingly enjoyable with a real life partner.