I'm an expressive, open, usually optimist fellow looking for the same in a partner. I try to find the humor in things, which is not hard in our absurd/wondrous world. I'm an engineer by profession so I like to watch cars go through the carwash, check the evening sky for satellites, and occasionally prod like-minded geeks into how-does-that-work conversations.
That said, I value articulate wit, discerning observations, emotional intelligence, and a sense of fairness. I enjoy art in all forms.
Being outdoors and feeling the sun on my body makes me happy. I've some experience backpacking, and try to fit in a hike or car camping trip as often as is practical. What a great area we live in for that! I own a few kayaks collectively with friends and look forward to getting out on the bay again this year (a shoulder injury got in the way the past few years). I do like the urban balance and need some weekend time just for fancy, fresh cocktail sampling, or strolling about at Sunday Streets.
I try to keep music a part of my life. I love seeing live music and play some guitar and bass myself. In fact I need a new band project right about now! I usually have a song stuck in my head.
I love travel of all sorts. Nothing beats the feeling of being transported to an unfamiliar, exotic culture or landscape (French Polynesia, Tuscany, central Nevada!). I have an ever-growing list of future destinations. My parents are immigrants (my dad is German and my mom Colombian) so I've had some exposure to other cultures, and love immersing in them.
Other things I like to do in no order:
* make lists
* play at the beach
* jump around the house to something killer on the stereo
* attend off-the-wall small theater productions
* eat at my favorite taco truck (yum!)
* pull weeds out of the ground by the roots
* go to a weekend, midday show at the Symphony
* eat an apple waiting for the music to start at the Fillmore
* feed my NPR radio addiction
I'm an east coast native and impulsively moved to the bay area 22 years ago. I so value the live-and-let-live ethic I found here. I feel happy and lucky to be in this diverse city and raising my almost teenage son here. I'd have to say I don't resemble a typical New Yorker though I lapse into sarcasm easily, and sometimes find myself yelling at the TV, usually at disingenuous or inaccurate statements uttered by Republicans (yes, a news junkie as previously mentioned!)
While I'm generally a "nice" guy, and may dress and act the part, I have a little bit of an edge, and I'm attracted to some radical opinions. I like a dose of irony and quietly bristle at excessive bs. I enjoy truth revealed. I empathize with the underdog and don't easily tolerate unfairness. But I have good manners!
I am permanently separated and not yet divorced though I'm currently doing the paperwork for a mediated, drama-free settlement (no lawyers!). I have a nicely amicable relationship with my ex, and split time 50/50 with our 12 yo boy. The good relations between his parents means so very much to him.
So, here's the lowdown on what I'm looking for: I'm not sure I want to find the love of my life right now (though I'm prone to fall hard and fast for the right person). I want to have some fun, do some enriching things, feel some connection, and live a little outside my comfort zone. I am a respectful hedonist, GGG (thanks Dan), and naturally gravitate toward giving pleasure. Trying to be more honest, I recently added Casual Sex to what I am looking for. Let's see what happens. That said, you Long Term daters shouldn't be dissuaded if you'd like to get to know me.