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Goffman's 1952 Matching Hypothesis states that people are more likely to form lasting relationships with people of a similar level of physical attractiveness.

While I'm still not 100% convinced that this hypothesis holds, it has been experimentally confirmed several times, so it's at least worth thinking about. This seems to rely on the idea that physical attractiveness is objective, which I'm not sure about, but if it's not, then an average of subjective opinions may be close enough provided there's no confirmation bias in those opinions.

How does that apply to the matching on this site? Well, even if the average of ratings people have been given for looks is used in determining matching (and I suspect it's not), there is interference from so-called 'internet disease'. Definition from urbandictionary (117 up, 3 down): " People on the internet have pictures of themselves in which they look far more attractive than they really are. Quite often from odd angles, unique lighting, or a combination of both."

Clearly this means that people with a better aesthetic sense appear to be more attractive. I'm certain if it was studied, there would be a correlation which shows that art-school graduates appear to be more attractive than engineers, regardless of their level of attractiveness "in real life". But there's really no way around this short of enforcing passport-like photo restrictions, where everyone looks ugly. And that would be a shame.

It has been suggested (Huston, 1976) that the fact that this hypothesis has been confirmed suggests not that people are innately driven to seek partners of the same level of physical attractiveness, but simply refrain from choosing more attractive partners for fear of rejection. That sounds a little more plausible.

On the other hand, my last relationship lasted six years, and we got together before I even knew what she looked like because of this crazy interweb thing. Anecdotal evidence may not be admissible, but it's something to think about.
Goffman's 1952 Matching Hypothesis states that people are morelikely to form lasting relationships with people of a similar levelof physical attractiveness.

While I'm still not 100% convinced that this hypothesis holds, ithas been experimentally confirmed several times, so it's at leastworth thinking about. This seems to rely on the idea that physicalattractiveness is objective, which I'm not sure about, but if it'snot, then an average of subjective opinions may be close enoughprovided there's no confirmation bias in those opinions.

How does that apply to the matching on this site? Well, even if theaverage of ratings people have been given for looks is usedin determining matching (and I suspect it's not), there isinterference from so-called 'internet disease'. Definition fromurbandictionary (117 up, 3 down): " People on the internet havepictures of themselves in which they look far more attractive thanthey really are. Quite often from odd angles, unique lighting, or acombination of both."

Clearly this means that people with a better aesthetic sense appearto be more attractive. I'm certain if it was studied, there wouldbe a correlation which shows that art-school graduates appear to bemore attractive than engineers, regardless of their level ofattractiveness "in real life". But there's really no way aroundthis short of enforcing passport-like photo restrictions, whereeveryone looks ugly. And that would be a shame.

It has been suggested (Huston, 1976) that the fact that thishypothesis has been confirmed suggests not that people are innatelydriven to seek partners of the same level of physicalattractiveness, but simply refrain from choosing more attractivepartners for fear of rejection. That sounds a little moreplausible.

On the other hand, my last relationship lasted six years, and wegot together before I even knew what she looked like because ofthis crazy interweb thing. Anecdotal evidence may not beadmissible, but it's something to think about.
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Default user image Attractiveness is also more than just base looks. I have met some people who are really good looking but have had something about their personality or the way they acted that was annoying or just unattractive. Even if their photos showed them as they were without any funny angles or photoshopping as being good looking I still couldnt judge if I would find them attractive in real life!

I'm pretty guilty of having really good pictures... I'm a physicist though, just I have artistic friends who insist on me modelling for them :-p

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Default user image How interesting, I just posted something related to this. Anyway, the standard for "attractiveness" was determined with a panel of judges. Nothing relies, let alone suggests, that attractiveness is objective. The yardstick is the social norm. All or nearly all members of a given society are imprinted to some degree with this knowledge of what is attractive and use it to form opinions constantly, though many(evilshrubbery) deny that any of this is a factor in decisions. BTW, the hypothesis is that people match on attractiveness, not why. Huston does not stand as an alternative to Goffman, but complements it.

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An image of friendpolarbear That's true. Actually, while pretending to talk about Goffman I was secretly talking about Walster, but it's the same idea anyway. I'm normally so careful about correlation not implying causation, too...

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