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friendpolarbear

32 Dundee, UK Man

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  • Ages 18–42
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My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:37am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
Yes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Working on Ph.D program
Job
Student
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Has dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Icelandic (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly), Other (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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When I was young, the Teletext personal ads used to say "Looking for friendship, maybe more!" and I always thought that was so desperately disingenuous. And yet, today I suppose that's exactly what I'm looking for. I've been around the OKCupid block a few times, and I don't believe in placing too high of an expectation on a particular outcome.

But "looking for friendship" is a little vague. I'd like to meet people to play games with. I'd like to meet people to chat with - about music, movies, languages, games or anything interesting. I'd like to meet people to go on adventures with. I'd like to meet people to drink with like we're still 21. Also I'd like to meet an astronaut but I think I might be on the wrong site for that.

I am very interested in video games, but I am especially interested to see what they can do other than shooting mans in the face. Not that I don't enjoy shooting mans in the face, but it's kind of been done. A lot. A very lot. I think there's a lot of largely untapped potential for other experiences there. Oh, and games are totally art. Anyone who says otherwise not only doesn't understand games, but also thinks art criticism stopped around 1900.

Recently got into intersectional feminism (which may explain why I enjoy shooting mans in the face so much). As a cishet white male, I'm sort of over the self-congratulation about the facile attitude that "sexism/racism/homophobia/transphobia is bad". That's not enough. The unconscious prejudices we carry are far more dangerous than the overt ones, and beg reexamination. I'm aware that I still have some way to go with that, but I'm glad I've realised that I should actually listen to voices from marginalised groups rather than just assuming I know best.

I am a nerd about many things, but other than video games, another big one is language and linguistics. If it bothers the fuck out of you that my username contains the noun 'friend' rather than the adjective 'friendly', I could hug you. The truth is "friendlypolarbear" was too many characters for the entry field. If you know what, say, 'CPV2' means, I have to inform you we are already married.

Sometimes I pretend to music. I used to write songs but recently I've been a lot more writing music for games. I am not good at it, but I like it.

I'm not going to disclose my real name here, but you may call me 'you'. You may not call me 'u'. If you're cute you can call me anything you like. Except 'u'. If I can call you Betty, then Betty, when you call me, you can call me Al.

If I had to sum myself up in three words, it would be "not impressing anyone".
What I’m doing with my life
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Making video games.
Trying to deprogram myself of unconscious prejudices.
Writing up a PhD thesis in interactive storytelling.
Learning Japanese.
Writing music.
Trying to learn how to digital art (I'm very good with computers; with art, not so much).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Shooting mans in the face. AND IN THE GAME.

Writing thinkpieces. Usually about games / interactive storytelling. I don't actually think I'm good at it, but the last piece I wrote got praise from actual professionals, so what do I know?

Not taking it personally when people don't respond to my messages. Let's be real here: I'd like a response, but you don't owe me anything, you have other things going on, and you're capable of making up your own mind about whether or not us being friends fits in your life. That's it. There is no joke in this paragraph.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I am a nerve-stapled Feminist Gaming Illuminati mandrone white-knighting mangina. And proud of it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm currently reading 1Q84 by Haruki Murakami. Some other favourites are Philip K. Dick, Iain Banks (sci-fi nerd though I am, I think I prefer him sans 'M': a favourite of his is Complicity) and Terry Pratchett's Discworld. I would like to read some more Neal Stephenson and Stanislaw Lem.

As for movies, my favourite film is probably Pom Poko and I generally like Studio Ghibli's output. I also like Satoshi Kon. I wish Paul McGuigan (Lucky Number Slevin, Push) made more films - he's a director who really understands there is no need for compromise between a film being smart and complex and being cool and sexy.

I like music, but my favourites rotate frequently. Basically, if you're that interested, go ahead and last.fm me. Ryuichi Sakamoto is a perennial favourite. Right now I'm listening to Jens Lekman. He's great, when I'm in a twee indie sort of mood. Other times it could be some post-rock like Mogwai, or some symphonic metal like Kamelot. Or Radiohead or The National or The Birthday Massacre or loads of others.

Speaking of games, I have decided that my favourite is Persona 4 because, despite its fantastical elements, it's just so human. I suppose I generally like games with strong stories (whether embedded or emergent). Apart from stories, I like games with a strong sense of place that I can explore. I'm not very competitive, so if I'm playing with other people, I'd rather play cooperatively. My interest in multiplayer is about sharing the experience of playing. In the Google tradition of using site names as verbs, go ahead and Darkadia me.

My favourite shows on YouTube are MyMusic (kinda like The Office but good), and Tabletop. On Crunchyroll I just got done watching Shin Sekai Yori and thought it was mostly a work of sheer beauty. On Netflix and DVDs I like Doctor Who, Fringe, Life on Mars/Ashes to Ashes and various other things with a good balance of sci-fi, mystery, drama and being funny, so obviously Joss Whedon's stuff. I am quite liable to throw around quotes from Spaced. On TV... oh, who watches channels that stick to a certain broadcast schedule any more? Seriously, it's the 21st century.

As food goes, I used to be a vegetarian but I no longer am. Sorry. If it's an egg dish, I like it. Unless it's a mushroom omelette. Mushrooms do not belong in my mouth.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
An internet connection. This used to be because I was really interested in it as a phenomenon, but now I think that in a few years, this answer will be as obvious as 'air' or 'water' that 'people' put in this list when they're 'trying' to be 'funny'.

Videogames are very important to me. If you think they're a waste of time, you're a waste of time and so's your mum. It's bewildering to me how the medium that gave us Twilight can be lauded as worthy, but the medium that gave us things like Thomas Was Alone still can't get taken seriously.

A city. I might currently live out in the middle of nowhere, but I'd go crazy if I couldn't get to a city (usually Dundee at the moment) at least once a fortnight.

Some kind of project to give me a sense of achievement, whether it's learning a new language, writing some music, or creating a game.

A companion to join me on my time-hopping adventures. Or just friends and family in general.

I can't decide between coffee and green tea, so they'll hold a joint spot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to quantify the essentially unquantifiable. Doing science to subjective responses.

Who came up with the order of the alphabet and why they chose that order. And, more to the point, why we treat this ordering as some immutable law of nature when it's really just something some ancient dude made up.

Whether or not 'friendship' in the 21st century necessarily entails the traditional mutuality and reciprocity it once did, and whether or not that's a good thing.

Games, and particularly the unique narrative potentials of the medium which literature and film could never do.

Why the pro-Oxford-comma crowd keep resorting to the ridiculous strawman that we 'againsters' think it shouldn't be used at all. No-one thinks that; we merely think it should only be used when it has any clarifying value, rather than all the damn time. Obviously. The bonus is that that's actually the position the Oxford Style Manual also takes.

Whether or not I really would go back and kill Hitler if I had a time machine. I think I probably wouldn't: if those who fail to learn from history are doomed to repeat it, then time-travellers who change history doom everyone else.

Japan, Japanese, and why "alveolar lateral flap", which is a technical term for a distinctly Japanese phoneme (usually romanised as 'r'), seems to have been designed to be as difficult as possible for Japanese people to pronounce.

The functional difference between a polymath and a dilettante. Currently I think polymaths are just more organised.

Extra Stuff...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing imagination games.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I get irritated by people who say that swearing indicates a lack of vocabulary. I suppose the idea is that people should use synonyms instead, but this pretty much ignores the facts that a) at worst synonymy indicates an imprecise semantic similarity, rather than semantic identity, and b) at best, synonymy only works on a semantic level, ignoring the affective level: People who claim this have no poetry in their souls and implicitly endorse a kind of unemotional Orwellian Newspeak - by implying that words are interchangeable, they are saying that we might as well not have so many words. I mean really: Just because excessive profanity is involved in affecting the braggadocio of the less salubrious sections of society, does that mean the rest of us should swear (heh) off it? For fuck's sake.

Ok, that's not very private, but I needed to get it off my chest.

I don't have a driving licence. Yet. Also I technically live in Alyth but realistically, if we were to meet, it would more likely be in a city than the middle of nowhere. Still, my profile location is technically a lie.
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