Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a dyke, possibly graysexual, definitively pansexual, and a
queer vegan baking hacker type.
At this stage I think I'm more interested in using OKC to find new
friends. I'm into nights where we experiment to make the most
delicious hot chocolate, do an at-home 80s movie date, try out new
bakeries around town or just cuddle and nap.
I'm a software developer by trade. There's some aspects I find
really cool but I do find it occupies too much space in my life.
I'm trying to find ways to balance financial stability with the
things that matter to me - my chosen family, friends, and
Otherwise I have a deep interest in writing about all things queer
and reading about the world at large. I admire the work my friends
do to bridge communities and deliver services to our community.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
In the last year I quit my job, went to work for a start-up, moved
twice, changed my legal name, changed my sex marker, started
hormone replacement therapy, and began work on a new book. I also
got to travel a fair bit.
On that note, I love travelling. I have a fair amount of stories
collected over the years.
There's the time I was stopped in Buenos Aires because I had been
in Argentina illegally. The time I was part of a massive impromptu
picnic at the side of the Seine in Paris. The other time I was in
Paris to hand off a package at an airport. The two work stretches I
did in Johannesburg, South Africa. The time I backpacked around
Great Britain and got drunk at the home of this couple I knew from
my warez days. The time I spoke at a hacker conference in New York
City. The time I infiltrated a Tea Party rally with my boyfriend in
Washington DC. The time I got to see the sunset in Cuba. The time I
ate that incredible sub in Atlantic City. The time I saw the Aurora
Borealis in the Gaspé Peninsula. The time I was at an all-night
rave in Montreal. The time I stayed at a librarian's house in San
Jose. The time I stumbled on the Trans March in Philly and
witnessed a city during the US government shutdown. The times I
faked my way to interview music executives in Toronto. The time I
hit up the Rally to Restore Sanity and/or Fear in response to the
Tea Party rise in the US. The time my wallet with all my money and
ID was stolen in Las Vegas while travelling alone. The time I did a
road trip around the Great Lakes. The time I jet out of Venice in
the middle of the night in a high speed boat. The time I saw a
hilarious burlesque show in Vancouver.
Not that I rest at home either. I've attended a Senate Committee
meeting at Parliament, lobbied my MPP, been a panelist for queer
things, attended protests and marches, organized potlucks and
picnics, volunteered. I love checking out new burger places and
festivals. Anything from free events hosted by the Japanese Embassy
I recognize that I've been tremendously privileged. What I'm hoping
to do in the years to come is telework from South-East Asia
(Thailand or Vietnam) for a bit.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Clicking on people's profiles multiple times because I forgot I
already visited them. Seriously I'll click on the same person ten
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Comfy sweaters that double as pillows.
Hitachi Magic Wand.
Endless pictures of corgis.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The legacy of my youth to an older me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
*In my head* I'll go to bed early!
*Reality* Hahahaha nope.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If the idea of a low-key evening hanging out sounds good.
You need to be okay with how masculine I am. I have a deep voice, a
perpetual five o'clock shadow, and always get read as male by
If you state on your profile that it's important that your partner
own a car and be career-oriented then we're probably not
compatible. Also I'm poly.
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