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29 Ottawa, Ontario, CA Genderqueer, Trans Woman, Woman

Genderqueer, Trans Woman, Woman

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18–99
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:40pm
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Atheism, and laughing about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I'm a dyke, possibly graysexual, definitively pansexual, and a queer vegan baking hacker type.

At this stage I think I'm more interested in using OKC to find new friends. I'm into nights where we experiment to make the most delicious hot chocolate, do an at-home 80s movie date, try out new bakeries around town or just cuddle and nap.

I'm a software developer by trade. There's some aspects I find really cool but I do find it occupies too much space in my life. I'm trying to find ways to balance financial stability with the things that matter to me - my chosen family, friends, and experiences.

Otherwise I have a deep interest in writing about all things queer and reading about the world at large. I admire the work my friends do to bridge communities and deliver services to our community.
What I’m doing with my life
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In the last year I quit my job, went to work for a start-up, moved twice, changed my legal name, changed my sex marker, started hormone replacement therapy, and began work on a new book. I also got to travel a fair bit.

On that note, I love travelling. I have a fair amount of stories collected over the years.

There's the time I was stopped in Buenos Aires because I had been in Argentina illegally. The time I was part of a massive impromptu picnic at the side of the Seine in Paris. The other time I was in Paris to hand off a package at an airport. The two work stretches I did in Johannesburg, South Africa. The time I backpacked around Great Britain and got drunk at the home of this couple I knew from my warez days. The time I spoke at a hacker conference in New York City. The time I infiltrated a Tea Party rally with my boyfriend in Washington DC. The time I got to see the sunset in Cuba. The time I ate that incredible sub in Atlantic City. The time I saw the Aurora Borealis in the Gaspé Peninsula. The time I was at an all-night rave in Montreal. The time I stayed at a librarian's house in San Jose. The time I stumbled on the Trans March in Philly and witnessed a city during the US government shutdown. The times I faked my way to interview music executives in Toronto. The time I hit up the Rally to Restore Sanity and/or Fear in response to the Tea Party rise in the US. The time my wallet with all my money and ID was stolen in Las Vegas while travelling alone. The time I did a road trip around the Great Lakes. The time I jet out of Venice in the middle of the night in a high speed boat. The time I saw a hilarious burlesque show in Vancouver.

Not that I rest at home either. I've attended a Senate Committee meeting at Parliament, lobbied my MPP, been a panelist for queer things, attended protests and marches, organized potlucks and picnics, volunteered. I love checking out new burger places and festivals. Anything from free events hosted by the Japanese Embassy to Ribfest.

I recognize that I've been tremendously privileged. What I'm hoping to do in the years to come is telework from South-East Asia (Thailand or Vietnam) for a bit.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Clicking on people's profiles multiple times because I forgot I already visited them. Seriously I'll click on the same person ten times.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Every Man in this Village is a Liar Dancing in the Glory of Monsters So Damn Much Money Six Months in Sudan Free Culture Nevada Propos pour une libération (homo)sexuelle The Revolution Starts at Home The Feynman Lectures on Physics The Places in Between Two Whole Cakes Whipping Girl The titles you find on the communal bookshelf of a youth hostel.

Jiz Lee Ivan E. Coyote Paul Fussell Simon Winchester Lawrence Lessig Oscar Wilde Alison Bechdel Frank Lloyd Wright Audre Lorde

The Perks of Being a Wallflower Obvious Child Bridesmaids Koyaanisqatsi The Smartest Men in the Room The Act of Killing City of God C.R.A.Z.Y. Hackers Sneakers Paths of Glory Death in Gaza Invisible War We Were Here How to Survive a Plague Spirited Away Short Term 12 La Grande Vadrouille Close Encounters of the Third Kind Alien...The intro to Up :'(

Basia Bulat Glenn Gloud Caravan Palace Ella Fitzgerald k. d. lang Underworld Stars Radiohead Pink Flloyd My Brightest Diamond Cowboys Fringants Sigur Ros Massive Attack telekaster John Coltrane Moonface Leonard Cohen Badly Drawn Boy Efterklang Nick Drake Yoko Kanno Joe Hisaishi

TV / Podcasts / YouTube
The Agenda Al Jazeera Good Eats Food Wishes PBS' Frontline

Large breakfasts as a Dinner Feta Goat Cheese Beavertails Butternut Squash Soup Pea Soup Cream of Anything Soups Pulled Pork Honey Crullers Watermelon Soft Serve Ice Cream Devilled Eggs Cheesecake Salt & Vinegar Chips Ketchup Chips Baklavas Shawarmas Greek Yoghurt Kraft Dinner Burgers with Caramelized Onions, Roasted Peppers, Goat Cheese & Bacon Greasy Pizza Pickles

Innes & Gunn Leffe Brune Irish Coffee Coffee Lemongrass Tea Ginger Tea Caesars Amarula

The Crash Pad Feminist Porn Queer Porn
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Comfy sweaters that double as pillows.
Smart phone.
Hiking boots.
Sports bras.
Hitachi Magic Wand.

Honorable Mention:
Endless pictures of corgis.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The legacy of my youth to an older me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
*In my head* I'll go to bed early!

*Reality* Hahahaha nope.
You should message me if
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If the idea of a low-key evening hanging out sounds good.

You need to be okay with how masculine I am. I have a deep voice, a perpetual five o'clock shadow, and always get read as male by strangers.

If you state on your profile that it's important that your partner own a car and be career-oriented then we're probably not compatible. Also I'm poly.