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fruzztacular

29 Ottawa, Ontario, CA Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 23–37
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 3:39am
Orientation
Queer
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
Rather not say
Status
Single
Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hey! I'm Maëlys!

At this stage I think I'm more interested in finding new friends. I'm into nights where we experiment with home-made kraft dinner, do an at-home 80s movie date, try bakeries around town or just nap.

I've ended up working as a software developer for a start-up. I'm self-taught and there's some aspects to this work I find neat but at the end of the day it's just an instrument so that I can spend time with those I love, enjoy food & housing security, and travel.

Otherwise I have a deep interest in writing about all things queer and reading about the world at large. I admire the work my friends do to bridge and deliver services to our community. I also like to bake vegan desserts!

I identify as a dyke and graysexual. I'm a testosterone poisoning survivor.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I write code for a startup by day, I come home to the queerest little franco household by night. I go to the gym 3-4 times a week and do a fair amount of reading up on social justice / trans stuff on Tumblr on my off-time. I bake as a self-care thing.

Being trans has played a significant role in my life recently. Partly in terms of dealing with the government to acquire new documentation, partly because of the fallout on everything from my work situation and family ties to being able to use the washroom in peace and trusting the police.

I think I'd like to spend more time reading books, writing my own stories, and traveling. To that end I've been reducing my reliance on computers/television for entertainment, making it easier to get to activities like reading. Transition-related costs have put a real damper on traveling for the next few years, but hey - there's lots to discover close to home!

But yeah I love travelling. I have a fair amount of anecdotes collected over the years.

There's the time I was stopped in Buenos Aires because I had been in Argentina illegally. The time I was part of a massive impromptu picnic at the side of the Seine in Paris. The other time I was in Paris to hand off a package at an airport. The two work stretches I did in Johannesburg, South Africa. The time I backpacked around Great Britain and got drunk at the home of this couple I knew from my warez days. The time I spoke at a hacker conference in New York City. The time I infiltrated a Tea Party rally with my boyfriend in Washington DC. The time I got to see the sunset in Cuba. The time I ate that incredible sub in Atlantic City. The time I saw the Aurora Borealis in the Gaspé Peninsula. The time I was at an all-night rave in Montreal. The time I stayed at a librarian's house in San Jose. The time I stumbled on the Trans March in Philly and witnessed a city during the US government shutdown. The times I faked my way to interview music executives in Toronto. The time I hit up the Rally to Restore Sanity and/or Fear in response to the Tea Party rise in the US. The time my wallet with all my money and ID was stolen in Las Vegas while travelling alone. The time I did a road trip around the Great Lakes. The time I jet out of Venice in the middle of the night in a high speed boat. The time I saw a hilarious burlesque show in Vancouver.

I recognize that I've been tremendously privileged. What I'm hoping to do in the years to come is telework from South-East Asia (Thailand or Vietnam) for a bit.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Clicking on people's profiles multiple times because I forgot I already visited them. Seriously I'll click on the same person ten times.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books
Every Man in this Village is a Liar Dancing in the Glory of Monsters So Damn Much Money Six Months in Sudan Free Culture Nevada Propos pour une libération (homo)sexuelle The Revolution Starts at Home The Feynman Lectures on Physics The Places in Between Two Whole Cakes Whipping Girl The titles you find on the communal bookshelf of a youth hostel.

People
Jiz Lee Ivan E. Coyote Paul Fussell Simon Winchester Lawrence Lessig Oscar Wilde Alison Bechdel Frank Lloyd Wright Audre Lorde

Movies
The Perks of Being a Wallflower Obvious Child Bridesmaids Koyaanisqatsi The Smartest Men in the Room The Act of Killing City of God C.R.A.Z.Y. Hackers Sneakers Paths of Glory Death in Gaza Invisible War We Were Here How to Survive a Plague Spirited Away Short Term 12 La Grande Vadrouille Close Encounters of the Third Kind Alien Song of the Sea

Music
Basia Bulat Glenn Gloud Caravan Palace Ella Fitzgerald k. d. lang Underworld Stars Radiohead Pink Flloyd My Brightest Diamond Cowboys Fringants Sigur Ros Massive Attack telekaster John Coltrane Moonface Leonard Cohen Badly Drawn Boy Efterklang Nick Drake Yoko Kanno Joe Hisaishi

TV / Podcasts / YouTube
The Agenda Al Jazeera Good Eats Food Wishes PBS' Frontline

Food
Breakfasts as Dinners Feta Goat Cheese Beavertails Butternut Squash Soup Cream of Anything Soups Pulled Pork Honey Crullers Watermelon Soft Serve Ice Cream Devilled Eggs Cheesecake Salt & Vinegar Chips Ketchup Chips Baklavas Shawarmas Cottage Cheese Kraft Dinner Burgers with Caramelized Onions, Roasted Peppers, Goat Cheese & Bacon Greasy Pizza Smoked Salmon Eggs Benedict White Chocolate Bread Pudding Butter Tarts In Puff Pastry Croissants With Poached Eggs and Cheese In Middle Poutine Sushi Tom Yum Soup

Beverages
Innes & Gunn Leffe Brune Irish Coffee Coffee Lemongrass Tea Ginger Tea Caesars Amarula

Porn
The Crash Pad Feminist Porn Queer Porn
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Comfy sweaters that double as pillows.
Smart phone.
Hiking boots.
Ma francophonie.
Sports bras.
Hitachi Magic Wand.

Honorable Mention:
My boobs.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The legacy of my youth to an older me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
*In my head* I'll go to bed early!

*Reality* Hahahaha nope.
You should message me if
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If the idea of hanging out sounds good.

You need to be okay with how masculine I am. I have a deep voice and always get read as male by strangers.

If you state on your profile that it's important that your partner own a car and be career-oriented then we're probably not compatible. Same goes if you have the words "treat you like a lady" in your profile. Also I'm poly.