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28 F Ottawa, Ontario, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:45am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Atheism, and laughing about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), French (Fluently)

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My self-summary
MAËLYS (mah-eh-liss) / she-her pronouns

Cute twenty something butch genderqueer seeking human. I’m pansexual and identify somewhere on the poly spectrum.

Things that are important to me at this time in my life include exploratory baking, growing emotionally, exposing myself to new music, and shaping the reality I want to live in.

I organize queer potlucks, create open-source software, read radical lit on Tumblr and digest the memoirs of foreign correspondents. I buy physics and math textbooks for fun. I also look through cookbooks at Chapters and snap photos of recipes with my phone.

Self-expression is very important to me. In the past that meant directing movies. These days it means coding and writing a novel I don't plan to ever publish.

My home is tea. Wherever I am, a cup of warm tea will center me. Lemongrass. Music is another refuge.

I am kinky.

In the long term, I would love to backpack around the world for months at a time. I would also love to earn money doing something satisfying but I have no idea what that would be.

I’m an introvert and quiet by nature. I open up for the right people. I have a silent dislike for those who cannot acknowledge the limits of what they know and instead spread misinformation to keep appearances. I’m also looking to distance myself a bit from the drink-the-kool-aid aspect of the radical community. I have a preference for those on the more masculine side of things but am open to everyone.
What I’m doing with my life
I work for a geophysics company, which occupies my time but not my heart. My interests instead lie in learning and unlearning.

I find travelling amazing. Experiences I've had: being in Argentina on an expired visa; sitting by the side of the Seine in an impromptu picnic involving hundreds; going to a comedy club in South Africa; attending a large hacker conference in Las Vegas; losing my wallet with my only sources of money and ID in Las Vegas; being in one of the floats for Pride in Ottawa; going on stage in New York City to give a talk after Jello Biafra (The Dead Kennedys) put his ass to the mic; infiltrating a Tea Party rally in Washington DC with my then boyfriend; watching the sun set in Cuba; eating fresh vegetables from an incredible backyard garden in San Jose; going to an all-night rave in Montreal; seeing the Aurora Borealis in the Gaspé Peninsula; baking cookies at midnight with friends in Ottawa and hitting up Nuit Blanche; attending the Rally to Restore Sanity and/or Fear in DC; stumbling on the Trans March in Philly; being interviewed for a documentary in Montreal.
I’m really good at
Clicking on people's profiles multiple times because I forgot I already visited them.
The first things people usually notice about me
Given the context of the "F" in this profile, probably the masculinity. It's taken me a fair amount of processing to reach this point, but I am comfortable in wilfully harbouring masculinity while carrying that marker and being not-cis.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Every Man in this Village is a Liar Dancing in the Glory of Monsters So Damn Much Money Six Months in Sudan Free Culture Nevada Propos pour une libération (homo)sexuelle The Revolution Starts at Home The Feynman Lectures on Physics

Ivan E. Coyote Paul Fussell Simon Winchester Lawrence Lessig Oscar Wilde Alison Bechdel

Television / YouTube
Al Jazeera Good Eats Food Wishes

The Perks of Being a Wallflower The Smartest Men in the Room The Act of Killing City of God C.R.A.Z.Y. Hackers Paths of Glory Death in Gaza Invisible War We Were Here How to Survive a Plague Spirited Away Short Term 12 La Grande Vadrouille...The intro to Up :'(

Video Games
Gone Home Journey Tribes

Basia Bulat Glenn Gloud Caravan Palace Ella Fitzgerald k. d. lang Underworld Stars Radiohead Pink Flloyd My Brightest Diamond Cowboys Fringants Sigur Ros Massive Attack telekaster John Coltrane Moonface Leonard Cohen Badly Drawn Boy Efterklang Nick Drake

CBC: Ideas The Current TVO: The Agenda Big Ideas BBC: Documentaries

Frank Lloyd Wright Hector Guimard Clorindo Testa Antoni Gaudi

Innes & Gunn Leffe Brune Irish Coffee French Press Aeropress Happy Goat Coffee Lemongrass Tea Caesars

Feta Cheese Goat Cheese Beavertails Butternut Squash Soup Pea Soup Pulled Pork Almond Croissants Honey Crullers Watermelon Ice Cream Devilled Eggs Cheesecake Salt & Vinegar Chips Ketchup Chips Baklavas Shawarmas Greek Yoghurt

Jiz Lee The Crash Pad Feminist Porn Queer Porn
The six things I could never do without
Comfy sweaters that double as pillows.
A smart phone with wifi.
Hiking boots.
Sports bras.

Honorable Mention:
Hitachi Magic Wand.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The legacy of my youth to an older me.
On a typical Friday night I am
*In my head* I'll do ALL THE THINGS!

*Reality* Tumblr.
I’m looking for
  • Bi guys and girls
  • Ages 20–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
If you'd like to connect with another queer. If you don't identify as queer that's cool too, but I'd be a little wary to meet out of concerns of not having my gender identity respected.