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30 Ottawa, Ontario, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 23–37
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:26pm
Queer, Lesbian
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Atheism, and laughing about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hey! I'm Maëlys!

At this stage I think I'm more interested in finding new friends. That and drinking coffee, making home-made kraft dinner, watching campy 80s action movies, trying bakeries around town or just napping.

I work for a start-up as a coder. Some things about it are cool but at the end of the day it's just an instrument so that I can afford access to luxury food items like fresh vegetables and cheese, cover rent, have medical care, and occasionally go on adventures.

My identity soup: dyke, graysexual, queer, hacker, poly, kinky, trans.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I write code for a startup by day, I come home to the queerest little franco household by night. I go to the gym at least 4 times a week and spend a lot of time on Tumblr on my off-time. I participate in kink-related stuff, including play and workshops. I'm in a D/s relationship too. I bake as a self-care thing.

Being trans plays a significant role in my life so I talk about it a lot to some folk.

I think I'd like to spend more time reading books, writing my own stories, and traveling. To that end I've been reducing my reliance on computers/television for entertainment, making it easier to get to activities like reading. Medical costs rivaling my salary have put a real damper on traveling for the next few years, but hey - there's lots to discover close to home!

But yeah I love travelling. I have a fair amount of anecdotes collected over the years.

There's the time I was stopped in Buenos Aires because I had been in Argentina illegally. The time I was part of a massive impromptu picnic at the side of the Seine in Paris. The two work stretches I did in Johannesburg, South Africa. The time I backpacked around Great Britain and got drunk at the home of this couple I knew from my warez days. The time I spoke at a hacker conference in New York City. The time I infiltrated a Tea Party rally with my boyfriend in Washington DC. The time I got to see the sunset in Cuba. The time I ate that incredible sub in Atlantic City. The time I saw the Aurora Borealis in the Gaspé Peninsula. The time I was at an all-night rave in Montreal. The time I stayed at a librarian's house in San Jose. The time I stumbled on the Trans March in Philly and witnessed a city during the US government shutdown. The times I faked my way to interview music executives in Toronto. The time I hit up the Rally to Restore Sanity and/or Fear in response to the Tea Party rise in the US. The time my wallet with all my money and ID was stolen in Las Vegas while travelling alone. The time I did a road trip around the Great Lakes. The time I jet out of Venice in the middle of the night in a high speed boat. The time I saw a hilarious burlesque show in Vancouver.

I recognize that I've been tremendously privileged. What I'm hoping to do in the years to come is telework from Thailand or Vietnam for a bit. I'd also like to get rid of all my stuff except for what I need to dress myself, make food, sleep, plus my laptop and some small mementoes.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Clicking on people's profiles multiple times because I forgot I already visited them. Seriously I'll click on the same person ten times.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Every Man in this Village is a Liar, Dancing in the Glory of Monsters, So Damn Much Money, Free Culture, Nevada, Propos pour une libération (homo)sexuelle, Whipping Girl, The Places in Between, Two Whole Cakes, The Feynman Lectures on Physics.

Jiz Lee, Ivan Coyote, Paul Fussel, Simon Winchester, Oscar Wilde, Alison Bechdel, Audre Lorde, Frank Lloyd Wright.

The Perks of Being a Wallflower, Bridesmaids, Koyaanisqatsi, City of God, C.R.A.Z.Y., Hackers, Paths of Glory, Invisible War, We Were Here, How to Survive a Plague, Alien, Close Encounters of the Third Kind.

Stromae, Glenn Gould, k.d. Lang, Ella Fitzgerald, Stars, Radiohead, Pink Flloyd, My Brightest Diamond, Massive Attack, Leonard Cohen, Badly Drawn Boy, Yoko Kanno, Joe Hisaishi.

Breakfasts for dinner, cheese (feta/goat/cottage), thick creamy soups, pulled pork, shawarma, poutine, sushi, tom yum soup, honey crullers, baklava, white chocolate bread pudding, smoked salmon, puff pastry.

Ceasars, Amarula, Ginger Tea.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Comfy sweaters that double as pillows.
Smart phone.
Hiking boots.
Sports bras.
Hitachi Magic Wand.
My tiny boobs.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The legacy of my youth to an older me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
*In my head* I'll go to bed early!

*Reality* Hahahaha nope.
You should message me if
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If the idea of hanging out sounds good.