I am a polyamorous nerdy engineering guy. I spend my time listening to NPR, talking about politics, and visiting with friends/family. I am very open and I often engage fundy religious folk in arguments about gay rights. I like playing soccer, basketball, video games and my wife enjoys crafts and cooking. BTW if anybody could hook me up with a good pickup soccer game in Philly I would be in debt to you.

I played D & D in my past life in Michigan (something which my wife makes total fun of me for). I was the DM of my group, and it was great fun but quite time consuming so I have since eschewed it for my wife, children, and my girlfriend (victoria5) and her husband, who are the absolute best things I have found in Philly since I've moved here (a total okcupid success story). I'm very satisfied with my life now but I'd love to share my happiness with others...are you going to be the next success story?

I grew up in Ohio, did my undergrad there and then moved to Michigan and went to grad school... and now I'm here in Philly with my wife, 3 year old son, and our newborn who is a joy to us, feeling a little out of place as a mid-westerner (what's up with servers at restaurants not being nice)... oh well.

Right now the wife is connected to another man and is not that interested in more relationships. My wife would definitely be interested in meeting new people and hanging out but not necessarily forming another intimate bond besides the two she's balancing... I am looking for an honest person to hang out with and make friends with and form a bond.

A few factoids for your consideration....

1) If you're open, fun, understanding, and caring then you definately are the right person for me...

2) If the fact that I'm married and have a kid scares you, I'm sorry... it doesn't bother my wife or myself, perhaps you should just move on to the next profile (though I've been told your missing out on a very laid back fun time). I have an extremely healthy relationship with my spouse. I require that my relationships are level-headed (and caring at the same time) with open communication. Drama queens need not apply...

Update: I just got a new job.... its hard to believe I'm not a postdoc anymore after 13 years of higher education and i finally have a real job in the field. I'm now at a pharma company working on a couple different medicines that could help my mom and my dad....

I wear a kippah

Favorites...

Movies... 1st place by far...Shawshank Redemption. A couple other good ones of note in
Drama: Seven, Braveheart
Comedy: Superbad, Office Space
Epic: Lord of the Rings
Odd but good (and hard to find): Chutney Popcorn (about an Indian family including the lesbian daughter... its really good [my wife loves it too])
Kiddie: Cars (though I'm a little tired of it after seeing the thing 100+ times with my son)

Music... eclectic tastes... anything from bluegrass to Fuel to Johnny Cash to Metallica to Tupac to Toby Keith... (if its good I'll listen to it)

Books: Ethical slut, 1981, The Good Earth

Food: Indian, Thai, and Vietnamese

why people put up with miserable relationships for so long???

-update...
hmmm.... after my last failed relationship (a few months ago... actually the first relationship I've had go sour since before I met my wife a decade ago), I have come to understand that love is a force that can bypass even the most logically minded people. Alas... that warm close feeling was and always will (hopefully) be worth it.

A love lost is still a love once enjoyed.

having a home cooked meal with my family (fridays are family night)

I miss my family back home. Its hard to see them because we live so far away.

You would like to talk about something funny or intellegent.... you take life as it comes and are happy to meet a REAL person who treats everyone he meets with the utmost respect and consideration.... no pressure involved.... Message me if you would like to try something new; hang out with someone who is polyamorous and would like to have a no-nonsense, open, intellegent relationship. 100% honesty required and given; relationship games are for junior high not intelligent adults.

I know it is annoying to people who message and don't get a response so I would like to clarify my "bi" status so people won't misinterpret my profile. I have been in one serious M to M relationship in my life (back in the college days) and I really cared for that individual. I like to think of sexuality as a scale from completely homosexual - evenly bi - completely heterosexual. I fall very close to the heterosexual side of this scale.

Update- I think I'm feeling brave enough now to eshew my societal fears and date anyone male or female. I think I should point out that I'm almost always with my kids, so if you don't like children, then perhaps I'm not the right choice for you.

In fact, I'd really love if I could meet someone who has children and wouldn't mind taking the kids to the park, zoo, etc. I'd also like someone to play sports such as soccer/basketball/ultimate frisbee/disc golf with..... or perhaps someone who would like to try out rock band/guitar hero for fun [I own the games and its way more fun with more people]. If any of these things sound fun [or better yet, all of them], send me a message