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29 Emeryville, CA Woman


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  • Ages 29–45
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Jul 27
Asian, Black
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Graduated from law school
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats
My self-summary
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I grew up in Worcester, MA, which is a working class, Irish Catholic city. It has some really cool underground punk subculture that I wasn't really cool enough to discover while I was growing up there, but I did find out how to write while I was there. Because of its smallness and its whiteness, I had no other way to be seen, so I had to write myself into existence in Worcester. Oakland feels a little bit like Worcester, but a lot friendlier and with a lot more diversity.

I graduated from college and law school, and now I'm working on criminal policy at a small nonprofit in SF that's run by formerly incarcerated people. A lot of the time, my work is guided by my intuition, my spirit, and the unfailing sense of wholeness that I touch when I meditate or climb or am deeply in love or deeply focused on something. Sometimes, though, it's not guided by anything at all (other than kind of a blind sense of needing to be doing something). I'm definitely trying to find a balance.

When I go too long without being in nature, I get pretty depressed. Same with going too long without being totally in my body--running or climbing or yoga or meditating or dancing. And too long without writing something. Every seven or so years I write something worth reading.

I consider myself gay. I've been primarily with women since I was 16, with some beautiful experiences and relationships with men in between. Ultimately for me, it comes down to chemistry--and it's generally pretty quickly apparent whether there is chemistry or not. I'm interested in meeting anyone and everyone, and at least in love and sex, your gender/sexuality doesn't matter to me as much as whether there's something between us.
What I’m doing with my life
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learning how to love
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
dancing, rambling rambling stories, talking you into a longer hike than the one you originally wanted to do, sanding, wood staining, getting a headache from wood staining inside


getting better at letting my intuitive self guide me, in love, in work.

i'm not always good at eye contact with people i'm not sleeping with. there's a lot of information to process in faces. i feel a lot closer when i'm looking away, at first. fun fact :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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books: audre lorde, octavia butler, stephen king, dostoevsky, james baldwin, neil gaiman, peter hoeg

movies: andrei rublev, the sacrifice, jaws

tv: the x-files, 30 rock, the wire, twin peaks, broad city

music: joanna newsom, cold specks, 60s-70s ska, desmond dekker, joan armatrading, julie ruin, valerie june, cocteau twins, ISIS, fka twigs

my mom's food
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
deep friendships
alone time
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
this audre lorde quote:

"Tell them about how you're never really a whole person if you remain silent, because there's always that one little piece inside you that wants to be spoken out, and if you keep ignoring it, it gets madder and madder and hotter and hotter, and if you don't speak it out one day it will just up and punch you in the mouth from the inside."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
beer at a bar or reading at home
You should message me if
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you want to chat
you want to dance
you want to get coffee
you don't mind a hoppy IPA
you are open
you love something well