I believe that the development of a healthy relationship is most dependent on honest self-disclosure and emotional authenticity. Ooh. Some heavy words! Basically, you have to be brave and willing enough to work through the issues, energies, and conflicts that arise which require wrestling with your own triggers and emotional baggage. I feel that the deep and healthy connection created through this work makes any shared activity/pursuit rewarding and enjoyable. True joy is found in the relationship and sharing. If the connection is not there, common interests won’t make up for it.
Having spent some 30 years managing a household and attempting to make my marriage work, it has been a challenge for me to discern what my individual passions are. I have always been a spiritual seeker, studying a variety of traditions over the years. I was raised Catholic, have practiced in a variety of liberal Protestant traditions – Fountain Street, UCC and Methodist –and for the last 10 years or so have embraced Buddhist study and meditation. I really enjoy good stand-up comedy – not just the humor, but the play on words/logic and the social critique. I enjoy watching sports – NBA basketball, tennis, and college football. I have dabbled in doing art – pencil drawing mostly. I enjoy music, most kinds, and love to sing along and dance, too. I would love to try ballroom with someone. I have thought about attempting to play, too. I have some experience with classical guitar. I enjoy being active out and indoors, but a life-long knee condition makes activities like skiing too risky. Cross country is OK, as long as there aren’t too many high hills. I garden (flowers), love to keep my lawn up (I know – kind of a guy thing!), and used to cook up a storm in the kitchen – love to have a partner in this pursuit. It’s not “women’s work