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61 Aurora, CO Genderfluid


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 25–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 5:03pm
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
A little extra
Strictly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from two-year college
Rather not say
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Looking for: a male to teach me, and be enjoyed by me, in bed. I'm mostly about the sex right now, but am totally open to more.

I am a cannabis advocate and regular consumer.

A life without romantic love is meaningless to me; I need to love and to be loved because love is like oxygen to me. Sex is just as important. Sex needs to be fun, play time!!

My moral standards are quite high. I am not religious at all, but there are moral and ethical rules, and they are not at all difficult to figure out. All of my moral standards equate to: don't START using force on another person; love your life and defend it and your greatest values; love others whose lives embody your own ideals; embrace your life and live it to the fullest.

I'm pretty easy to get along with, I'm laid back about most everything that falls into the category of day-to-day life. There are issues, though - what I used to call "hot-button issues" - that drag the passionate demon out of my heart so fast it can make you pass out. One of these issues would be pretty obvious: mistreating people because of their sexual orientation. This also applies to all forms of bigotry and zealotry - where the mind is turned off while the mouth is left running.

I won't lower my moral standards for anyone. I'm very proud of what I think and how I feel, but I'm not close-minded either. I love to have long discussions on sensitive topics, but only if we agree to disagree and be civil at all times.

I'm something of a generalist. My major background is in computers, but I have learned a little about a whole lot of things. I love fiction, music, art, movies, TV. From my perspective, Science is the driving force behind civilization, but art is what makes it all worthwhile.

Loves: music, sweets, sweet people, passionate lovemaking, empathy, compassion, loyalty, honor, strength, fidelity
Hates: bigotry, zealotry, outright rejection of reality, religion

I'm usually a very open person who says entirely too much and has no idea how not to be excessively honest. I'm generally eager for people to know who I am and what I'm all about, and if I meet you I'll want to learn all about you, too. Some dating and foreplay and I'm happy. No dating, no foreplay = no sex. And I have to like you, too, because I don't just get down with anyone.

I hate drama. I believe in sitting down and talking things through. That being said, sometimes I'm too stubborn to see what's right in front of me, but a loving partner changes all of that.

I don't multitask well, but whatever I do gets my complete and undivided attention. Sometimes that's hard for others to deal with because I can be very, very difficult to break off a focused train of thought. However, what I call a 'single track' of thought can be bewildering to others. My thinking follows lines that most people don't pursue, and as a result it may seem like I'm topic hopping when, in reality, the topics are all connected by a single thread.

I can look at things from a science/engineering standpoint and then baffle others by connecting it to artistic expression. I can get deep into precise details about something, or ignore details altogether and just go with it.

What makes me happiest in life is to see another person smile, laugh, and love. If I love you and you love me we will be an item until =you= decide it's time to go. I'm fiercely loyal to those who have my heart.

I haven't yet been in a loving relationship with a male but it's something I want to experience very, very badly.
What I’m doing with my life
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"Pickin' up the pieces of my sweet shattered dream
I wonder how the old folks are tonight
Her name was Ann and I'll be damned if I recall her face
She left me not knowin' what to do."

I'm working on various bits of fan fiction, a novel, and focusing on a new career in medical cannabis.
I’m really good at
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Writing, appreciating music and art in all its forms, making others laugh, being silly. Teaching others about things that matter. Computers and software but please don't try to turn me into your tech support.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My smile and very easygoing nature.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love supernatural fiction: Anne Rice, Laurell K. Hamilton, Kim Harrison's Rachel Morgan (The Hollows) series, Twilight (yes, I'm good with sparkly vampires), Tara Lain's Aloysius series.
My preference is for superhero action movies, but I have a very wide range of movie interests. The Iron Man movies are currently my all time favorites. But, then again, so is "Better than Chocolate."
I enjoy theater, classical music, rock music, grunge, thrash, heavy metal, female vocals, male vocals, instrumentals ... oh, you get the idea. If it moves me, it moves me.
My favorite foods are whatever I'm in the mood for at any moment. I tend toward non-American cuisine but it is entirely possible to catch me at a Sonic downing a hamburger, tater tots, and a coke.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Love
2. Sex
3. Music
4. Friends
5. Art
6. Laughter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
... how do I grow myself and become a better person? What things can I do to improve myself and my life and make people I care about happier?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...doing what I do every other night: chatting with friends across the internet, writing, listening to music, playing games. World of Warcraft is currently my favorite since NcSoft shut down City of Heroes.

Give me back my city, you sick bastards!!!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I can't tolerate religion. Religious and political intolerance has been responsible for more death, misery, and suffering than any foolish actions ever made by any other groups ever. Quoting "god's will" to me is just ... pointless.
You should message me if
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