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30 San Francisco, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27–37
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 19
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Might want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Butch gentleman-scholar, easily flustered, hopes for the best.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a lead mobile engineer at a healthcare startup. I teach and learn programming with other women & queer folks. Other'n that, I play music and experiment in loving myself and others.
I’m really good at
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learning how.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Sketchbook. Glasses. Eye contact.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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These are my actual favorites, if we must make lists of things:
* bicycles
* sailboats
* singing bowls
* end mills
* books that smell like books
* cheap microcontrollers
* good documentation
* old drafting tools
* the texture of a well-made dough when it's just ready to go into the oven
* seam rippers
* printing presses
* mezuzot
* telescopes

Aah, the rest of it... I eat a lot of vegetables, for a non-vegetarian. I like food and coffee and wine and bourbon. I fall asleep with books next to my head, and live under a rock in matters of television. I have probably seen some movies, but please don't expect me to name them. Theater and burlesque are much more appealing. I'm a fan of Radiolab and Welcome to Night Vale and Bitch magazine and the Economist. The best book I read this year was 'The New Jim Crow' by Michelle Alexander. '1491' by Charles Mann was pretty amazing too.

Since last profile-poking I've started learning guitar, and jogging a bit. Playing a whole lot of Sarah Jarosz and Danny Schmidt around the house.

Basically, this is important: I really prefer the sense of making, creating and attending to things over the sense of consuming them already-made. I want to make up culture as we go along.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
StackOverflow, dark chocolate, band-aids, pocketknives, saturated red-orange, the moon
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Programming languages. Wires and metal. Goings-on in my neighborhood, the Mission, and the Bay Area. Editing programming books with my friend who writes them. Prison abolition. Cooking. Plans. Composition. Optics.

I'm a restless brain who has relatively lately learned about how wonderful it is to cross intellectual projects with wordless joys. Climbing things, going for hikes, fixing bikes, making pie crusts. The glow in tired legs and sweaty foreheads. Uh, so that means: not thinking at all.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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OkCupid, hereafter referred to as "this thing", doesn't let you specify multiple religions. I am Jewish, atheist, Buddhist, and I just love talking about religion and culture way more than you'll get from reading Hacker News.

This thing also does not capture my presently warming attitude towards having children.
You should message me if
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You like thoughtful, devoted butches, and you're looking for closeness.