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41 Saint Louis, MO Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 21–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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Last online
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6′ 5″ (1.96m)
Body type
Catholicism, but not too serious about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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Did you ever feel like you knew what you wanted, and then had to reinvent yourself?

That's me right now, regrouping my life since I've returned to St. Louis. I have been a scientist for over fifteen years, taught chemistry and physics at a community college for two years, and a quality control chemist for two years. Science has been a big part of my life because it explains the hows and whys of the world. My love of learning and the lab has probably kept me in academia longer than most, but my personal goal was always to get the PhD.

Now I am looking down what road I want to travel. I am looking for a job where I can use my knowledge, get paid reasonably well at it, and feel like I have some responsibility. Teaching wasn't it for me. I know that I work better with small groups of people, and I enjoy studying the variables that go into an experiment. I love doing new things that people haven't done before, and I like controlling the direction where a project leads. I like people to take the time and show me how something works. I know I am not the best self-starter. Found that out from being a teacher.

Update: I am currently teaching part time at Webster University, and I am hoping to start an internship in microbiology this summer. This summer I plan to finish my biotechnology certification with a forensics class.

There is still so much I want out of life, but it looks like I may have to wait to experience what I want. I am fine with that. I like to travel, and see new places and experience different cultures. These are definitely on my things on my to do list.

I am looking for someone that is into hanging out and having fun. I want someone that enjoys being out side and working out. Some things I like to do around town are: play some pool, hit a comedy club, or just grab some good food and enjoy a nice conversation. I try to keep things simple and relaxed as much as I can and love being around people that enjoy the same things.

I am shy, dry humored, sarcastic, and I persevere. What you see is what you get with me, and it does take a while for my sense of humor to warm up. I like to immerse myself in the moment, whether it is listening to music, or being with somebody.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I've already stated what I am doing.

If you don't have the patience to put up with someone who is changing their life, then you don't have the compassion for life. I would really like to get to know somebody now, rather than wait for my world to be perfect. Why? Then I know that person is really into me, and not into what I could provide.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am very good at impractical things.

I can impersonate Bill Clinton with a woody-woodpecker voice. Not to mention Ross Perot. "A billion dollars, folks, wasted by the federal government!"

I am good at knowing the right practical people, and not afraid to ask for help when I need it.

One of my passions outside of chemistry is writing. When I get a draft done of a science fiction novel I'm writing, I'm definitely going to look and see about getting it published. It was very encouraging to know that I won second place in a poetry contest sponsored by the Columbia Chapter of the Missouri Writers' Guild.

I play chess rather well. I am a master class postal chess player. Yeah, I know to finish one of those postal games takes more than year, and each move is a post card, but it's fun! I haven't been beaten in Stratego, and I like board games. You won't find me doing sodoku or crossword puzzles. Not my thing. I like to learn new games, especially card games.

I am definitely good at swimming, as far as amateurs go. Hiking and walking and volleyball are a few of the outdoorsy activities that I like. As far as camping and river float trips, I am into those as well. I just haven't done them for a long time. I was in Boy Scouts, I did them back then, and I surely see myself getting back into it, especially if I found someone who was really big into it.

I am going to try and make ballroom dancing one of my regular Friday night activities. Seems the Salsa meetup group does their stuff on Sunday nights. I might have to try them, but I was looking for more spicier Friday nights.

Other things I know real well are physics, biology, chemistry, history, philosophy, and pop culture items. You can play any 1980's song or early 1990's song I am probably going to recognize the tune in ten seconds. Getting it out on the tip of my tongue might be another trick.

Depending on how this fall goes, and if I have the time, I will either try a cooking class, an acting class, or some automotive repair class. I need to get something practical.

I do know that I am good at giving massages. Not trying to be creepy, or be a player about it. Just stating what I am good at.
The first things people usually notice about me
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People will notice my height first and foremost since I'm 6'5". I'm a stocky guy, and a work in progress. I've been told that I have a nice ass. And no, I don't have my head up my ass either, just because I've been in school too long.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite books are fantasy and science fiction. The authors I like are C. J. Cherryh, Gene Wolfe, H.P. Lovecraft, David Eddings, Fritz Leiber, Dashiel Hammet, Raymond Chandler, Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, and many more that I forget. I read heavy academic books too like Wages of Destruction, Inventing the Public Enemy, Infantry Attacks, La Grande Armee, and the First World War by Keegan.

My favorites in movies are: Batman (The 1989 one), LOTR, Back to the Future, Dark City, Blade Runner, Brazil, Alien, Aliens, Iron Man, Conan the Barbarian, Terminator (1 & 2), Brave Heart, The Road Warrior, Richard III, Hamlet, Othello, Good Will Hunting, Anything with Bela Lugosi, Boris Karloff, Vincent Price, and Humprey Bogart. The Malteese Falcon, Double Indeminity, The Spy Who Came Out From the Cold, Ghostbusters, and many other movies that I could rattle on about.

I don't watch TV that much. So I haven't seen Glee, Mad Men, or True Blood. What I have seen and like is The Tudors, The Borgias, Camelot, Pillars of the Earth, Masterpiece Theater, Farscape, Twin Peaks, Babylon 5, Columbo, the old Hawaii Five-O, South Park, Turner Movie Classics, and much more.

I collect a lot of soundtracks from action movies, and my favorite artists are Enya, Roxette, Front 242, Nine Inch Nails, Danny Elfman, Fleetwood Mac, Lady Gaga, and Beethoven.

I'm into chinese , thai, and mexican food, but I appreciate all types.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1.) Whenever I find that special someone, I'm not going to want anyone else.
2.) My family and friends
2.) My cat
3.) Writing, it's always going to be in my blood.
4.) Music, it helps with my creativity.
5.) Laughter and public displays of affection
6.) Intellectual discussions
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I spend a lot of time thinking about how I am going to improve myself, dating, and sex.

Why are Hollywood bad guys never evil enough in action movies?

What kind of women could I attract if I had lightning bolts as a superpower?

Is Risk really a good substitute for world domination?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hmm...Friday nights are open right now. I could be writing, doing wargames, walking, or having my Honda repaired by a friend. If I had it my way, I would be dancing Friday nights with a group of friends. There should always be one day that is fun during the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I got to do a fireworks show for the City of Manchester this 4th of July. I'm a redbird from 12 hours of sun, and wiring fireworks. Saw it all go boom in 30 minutes! Then it was seven hours of cleanup. Fun, fun, fun!

I have also never cheated in a relationship, and I am not going to start.
You should message me if
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We have somethings in common. Hopefully, you like cats, actually have the time to date, and know what FLT stands for.

I love this quote from RareTigerLily:
"If you're just looking to connect with someone else like you, hoping almost desperately that they won't laugh and walk away, and just wanting to be treated like another human with hopes, desires, fears, and defects."