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geekseeksd1

55 / F / gay / Single

San Jose, California

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Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 11" (1.80m).
Body Type
Average
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New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners
Smokes
No
Drinks
Sometimes
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism but not too serious about it
Sign
Gemini but it doesn’t matter
Education
Dropped out of college/university
Job
Computer / Hardware / Software
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Kids
Pets
Likes dogs and Owns cats
Languages
English

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I am geeky, very warm, and generally optimistic.

My Self-Summary

I'm generally highly optimistic, idealistic, and intellectual. Into longevity, intelligence increase, achieving the dreams of humanity through technology and raising consciousness. Also rebellious against the political and cultural inanities of today. I am very passionate and loving, some would even say angelic. Looking for a lover, companion, sharer of ideas and dreams. The right person will be delighted with me and be a delight to me heart and mind. I seek a full partner. I want us to inspire and challenge each other to the very best within us.

I believe this is a fabulous, challenging time to be alive. My spirituality is that we can bring plenty to every single person on this earth, end aging, and heal this planet. And that is only for starters..

I've been a singleton too long. The desperate fires of youth don't burn so hotly now. I like my own company and am not desperate or hormonally so driven as I once was. But my ideal and long held deep desire is to find my "other half", my lover and true partner.

What I’m doing with my life

Well, I am spending much too much time "waiting" to get on with what I really choose to be here for. Know what I mean? I have this really good mind, and a good heart to go with but somehow I have "settled" for what pays the bills and is, I don't know, not too bothersome. Yet that does bother me, a lot. The way I look at it, so much is possible now - so much that is really over the top fabulous is within reach. Yet I don't move or have that move me like I think it should. So a lot of energy at the moment is going toward figuring out what that is about.

I tend to be an uber-nerd. Most of my "spare" time is spent on:

1) running around the web finding out about the latest cool scientific, software, theoretical, political, ethical, philosophical, mathematical thing that has caught my interest. I am an intellectual magpie. I find bright shiny glittering ideas irresistible;

2) spend a lot of time thinking about accelerating change, augmented humans, AGI (artificial general intelligence) and the survival well-being of Humans 1.0 through Humans N.0 in the face of AGI.

3) spend a lot of time thinking about values and about memes. About motivating beliefs and visions.

4) Lots of time attempting to figure out what would focus my energies and mind productively. I can be quite scattered.

5) Go outside and get blown away by the sheer beauty and deep heart-feeling of the "real world".

6) Visit with friends, lovers, ex-lovers. Take in some movies or events.

7) various meet-ups on subjects I am fascinated by.

8) some time in Second Life. I run a group there attached to one of my transhumanist groups. Occasionally do some building in Second Life as I find 3D design and building, even under its ridiculous constraints, feeds my artistic side that is usually a bit starved and draws my mind along alternate paths.

I’m really good at

I'm really good as designing and writing software. OK, as I get older I notice I am not cranking out the code as fast as when I was younger. But I am still considered worth a health salary in that capacity.
I am really good at understanding ideas, ideals and concepts in general and seeing their implications. I'm good at seeing where the missing parts are and finding new ways to do things. I'm naturally intuitive and creative.
Although it has been much too long (another "why?"), I am a really good and passionate lover. Or so I have been told. :)

The first things people usually notice about me

The flashing "B.R.A.I.N.I.A.C" sign. OK, maybe not always but it usually comes up eventually. I am smart, smart enough to know how dumb I am in so many ways. Some people notice the deep kindness and openness in my eyes. Others somehow think I am smirking at them although I think I am merely appreciating and perhaps being a bit amused by their uniqueness. People notice my smile and that I am open including it being easy to read what I am thinking.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Too much SF to list. I particularly have liked Vinge, Heinlein, Ian Banks, Greg Egan, Niven, John C Wright, and (name escapes me) author of the "Neverness" series - ah, David Zindell. To name a few. I may lose some of my adoring fans for this but I really really loved Ayn Rand's books. I only wish I had discovered them at around age 15 before making some mistakes I probably would not have made. Godel, Escher, Bach and many another geek classics such as "The Art of the Metaobject Protocol". Tons of transhumanist themed works as you would expect. More than a bit of fascination with various forms of mysticism at different points.

Food I am pretty open on and have broad taste. Although lately I tend to mostly avoid eating land animals. Music is very wide and eclectic except for that twangy old-style style of country and the rather nasty emotionally tone rap schools.

The six things I could never do without

Fast computers!
Fast internet access!
Books, lots and lots of books!
Time to explore and learn and dream.
Interesting bright people to talk and interact with.
Trees. I adore trees and greenery.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

A vision of such a wonderful, full future that it pulls humanity together to bring it into reality.
How to make the maximization of the positive potential of all intelligent beings a core ethical principal and root it deeply in reality and rational self interest.
Whether a radically more powerful intelligence would still adhere to this kind of ethical foundation regarding much less powerful intelligences that it has no real interdependencies with.
How to get from here with all our troubles and challenges to a world beyond material scarcity, aging and guaranteed (relatively short term) death.
How to so arrange my life to give so much value to the world that money per se is not an issue or worry and I never use lack of same to limit what I do again.

On a typical Friday night I am

Breathing a sigh of relief that the work week is over and I can do whatever I want to do without such hard time boundaries.

Decompressing and doing perhaps a little vegging. Surfing the web, catching up on household things, catching up on online and RL conversation with people on different subjects that I feel I didn't do justice to during the week.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

Well, shoot, I think I already admitted some pretty private things.
Hmm. Since I am nerdy enough to like numbers I am a 4.5 on the Kinsey scale. If you did a 0-10 femme-butch test, then in my own opinion I would be in the middle but in the opinion of many dykes I know I would be around 3.5. Call it granola, but sweet, fresh granola.

For now I am looking for women to date and as possible mates. I am also looking for friends to share with in other ways of any gender.

I will come out about one other thing because I refuse to in any way live in a closet or act like there is something wrong with this. I am a post-op (17 years) male to female transsexual. If you think that means I am some kind of super kinky exotic sex toy then you are mistaken. OK, I can be kinky but not because of that! :) That I am a transwoman is one of the least interesting things about me, really. We all come from somewhere. This is part of where I came from.

So there you have it.

You should message me if

You love ideas and conversation and exploring such things.

You think I am just whacky/interesting enough to be possibly worth talking more to.

Something about something I said resonates for you.