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32 Nottingham, UK Woman


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  • Ages 25–42
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My Details

Last Online
Dec 5
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Dropped out of university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes cats
English (Fluently), C++, LISP

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My self-summary
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[Profile currently years out of date. Still recovering from my then-primary relationship going to hell spectacularly a year ago, in a triad that used to be a quad. Unlikely to have the spoons to date anyone new who isn't local, and possibly not even then alas - my health's taken a real kicking.]

I'm yet another of those bi/pan poly dyke types with an odd relationship with gender (and probably more complicated than you first thought when you read that, too). I'm also a complete geek; especiallycomputer science and related topics, though a bit of gaming, maths, what I know/remember of other sciences and so forth are all good. I still don't read as much as I'd like to, though that's improved the last six months or so (yay Kindle!) - academic stuff aside most of what I do's sci-fi. Not sure "fan" is quite how I feel about Terry Pratchett, but I've been involved in Pratchett fandom too long to really argue. Life seems to want me to be Granny Weatherwax, I'd rather be Gytha Ogg personally.

I used to say here that "my polyamory is generally of the V-shaped variety". Not so true lately, but it didn't come about via my dating couples or someone dating a couple I was part of.

I seem to go for the tactile over the visual. I've been described as "charming with a side order of lascivious", and accused of flirting that was so blatant as to become subtle again.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm not doing a lot that's obvious in terms of an actual career. I spend a fair amount of time looking after friends, occasionally some research, stuff like that. But I don't really have as much energy as I'd like, and much of what I do have needs to go on retaining some independance. Keeping up a social life is an important part of that, which means my self-esteem gets to consider having fun as critical work as well :-)
I’m really good at
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Coding. Not bad at gaming either.

Demonstrating things like why a 24 hour sleep cycle's a useful thing, and why you don't show up for martial arts training having eaten less than half the calorie intake you're supposed to that day. Though I'm getting a bit better at avoiding that kind of thing lately I guess.

Apparently I'm a good listener if you manage to get hold of me. And there's a semi-mandatory list for these sections that in my case includes hugging, scritching, scratching and at least some massage.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My height.

I definitely talk a little softer than my writing voice, though the words're pretty much the same? Tone really doesn't carry online, unfortunately.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Discworld series, most stuff by Iain M Banks (and I've enjoyed most of what I've read without the M), His Dark Materials, most of what I've read by Greg Egan. I'm a big Stross fan since I finally got round to reading him.


Mostly house and old skool hardcore, though I'll listen to most dance music - despite listing house first, I'm a sucker for a good break. I don't necessarily dislike other genres, but I've never put in the time getting to know what I like. I'm not a particularly lyrical person though, my audio and language processing's not as fast as I'd like - I tend to be all about the music itself.


Pizza, pasta, burgers, curry, chocolate. I'm a sucker for a good barbecue sauce and maybe a little too fond of capsaicin. Can be talked into other stuff so long as I'm coping okay at the time though (and if not, just get me a snack beforehand?), so stretching and expanding my culinary horizons makes a good excuse for a date.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A good conversation
Sharing the subjective
A net connection
Something to keep my brain occupied!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Dealing with disability and the consequences thereof - both mine and other people's.

The nature of power and how not to abuse it. I guess you could say I have anarchist leanings (quick, report me to the counter-terrorist cops!), but mostly it's about not hurting people (esp. those I care about) and stopping companies and institutions from doing so.

Better ways to write software, writing better software, getting better software to write itself, better languages to write better software in.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably doing much the same as any other night - weekends don't really stick out for me so much except insofar as they do for other people, I guess.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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So this section used to read: 'Not particularly private, but my screen name isn't "GeeksWitch". It could be said that I turn on geeks, but that's not quite the intention either.'

I kinda need a break from being 'in charge' so much. I'm definitely not the always-top of your dreams - I've previously toyed with 'reluctant stone butch' as an identity, for example. It also turns out I'm grey-A in some rather complicated ways.
You should message me if
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You feel like it

You don't mind using an IM system other than this site's one pretty quickly - otherwise I'm prone to missing things when I'm doing other stuff on the computer which kinda kills the conversation

You're a decent-sized subset of queer, kinky, geeky and poly (pagan is entirely optional) and figure there're good odds we'll have fun one way or another!