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27 Pittsburgh, PA Genderqueer


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 21–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Mar 24
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Other, and laughing about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from law school
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Arabic (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"The only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones that never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars and in the middle you see the blue centerlight pop and everybody goes 'Awww!'"

If that quote describes you, or what you want it to, or it even sounds familiar then we'd probably get along just fine. I want to meet more people who live for the moment and for the passion and for the experience.

I myself am a wearer of quite a few hats, literal and figurative, constantly looking for something new and interesting to learn or do. These days I am feeling the post-law school jitters and trying to figure out what's next. I would like to practice law, work in government, or run a non-profit, and eventually be a teacher again of something. I've already taught yoga, guitar, music theory, english, social studies, love, kindness, survival, wit, laughter, let's add law to the list.

I moved to Pitt for law school and after three and a half years now, I must say It does have its bright spots. I need to find people who want to take life and squeeze all the juice out of it, and not just work for tomorrow and forget about the present. I'm guilty of it, I'll admit. I just don't want it to be the normal anymore.

I love music, playing and listening, and if you play you should shoot me a message. I love typical kinda nights, ya know; warm beer and cold women. I love watching great movies, or just terrifically bad ones if the mood suits. I love the outdoors and want to get out into it more than I do now. I also love occasional forays into video games, hiking, mountain biking, board games, table top games, card games, mind games, and such.

I'm in a relationship at this point with another OCK user the_stef but she and I are happy to bring people into our lives in many forms and experience the whole range of relationship possibilities.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm working with a lot of irons in the fire to find that 'perfect job' that's out there for me. In the mean time I'm starting at the bottom again. I find myself writing more these days and trying my best to make sense of my more creative impulses. I'm also trying to bike and hike a bit more and love going to pub quiz.

Raising my two beautiful, amazing, brilliant sons. Probably playing some super in-depth game they've created on the spot and placed me in the middle of; defenseless and unsure of how the hell to get home.

Reading something intriguing and captivating. Not sleeping very much because my brain won't shut up and go to bed.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Playing Guitar, writing, convincing myself that I've worked out hard enough at the gym, public speaking, arguing, being spontaneous, stopping to smell the roses, being a kid, acting like an adult, taking on way more than I can handle, cuddling.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have no idea because I've never asked anyone.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Authors: Tom Robbins, Marquez, Jack Kerouac, T.S. Elliot, George R.R. Martin, Dostoyevsky, Paulo Cohelo, Huxley, Twain, Vonnegut, Bornstein, Feinberg, John Steinbeck, Orwell, Ginsberg, Zinn, Brian Greene, Starhawk, Chrichton, John Irving, Philip Roth, Cormac McCarthy.

Shows: Community, Bob's Burgers, The Daily Show, The Colbert report, Parks and recreation, Sherlock, House, Suits, Whites, Misfits, SNL, House of Cards, Game of Thrones, Curb Your Enthusiasm.

Music: This list will do my interest level no justice so I'll just say I like anything but modern Country. Specifics though would include: Godspeed! you black emperor, G Love and Special Sauce, Medeski Martin & Wood, The XX, Armin Van Buren, The Killers, Blind Melon, RATM, Bob Dylan, the black keys, john butler trio, Tiesto, Flaming Lips, Neutral Milk Hotel, Andrew Bird, Daft Punk, Muse, The Mountain Goats, Amos Lee, Billy Holiday, Thelonious Monk, Crystal Castles, Mars Volta, Edward Sharpe, Arcade Fire, RJD2, Primus, Radiohead, Muddy Waters, Glen Hansard, Kings of Leon, Galactic, Iron and Wine, The Thermals, The National, Tune-Yards, Kishi Bashi, etc.

Food: I love anything Thai, Indian, or South American.

I make a mean Curry or Pad Thai.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
(1) Music, both listening and playing
(2) The woods
(3) Problems to be solved (goals)
(4) Writing and Reading
(5) Good Friends
(6) Physical Contact
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Life and the places/experiences I still want to have. I've spent the last 6 years in school and have a burning urge to get out and enjoy life and the world that I seem to be neglecting.

Where I will be in 10 years

Ways to use my education to get back into the music business

Songs and stories I want to write.

What it's all about and where I fit in.

How I can be something better than I am today.

How to make a better sauce for one of my recipes.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Tipsy at home playing board games, grabbing a drink at a dive, reading a good book while my sons sleep upstairs, cuddling with my lady-love or someone with whom I've allowed to have that pleasure too.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
This is such a loaded question. If someone wants to know secret things about me they can ask. I'm not just going to put them on display.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You live passionately and want to make something of the very short time that we have.
You want to go on a night bike ride through the city.
You've got something interesting to say
You've got a good joke for me
You enjoy bad puns and sarcasm
You don't mind talking to someone who's got crazy amounts of shit going on in life
You lead a life worth sharing.
You're bored with where you're at.