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30 M Cambridge, MA

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My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:54pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English, German (Okay), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Hey there, fellow window shopper! Shall we compare laundry lists, or just get to what really matters? Character. (The process of becoming a laundry list requires we hang each other out to dry).

I am terribly boring, the ultimate sin. (Would that we knew how to enjoy boredom! Entertainment treats, but offers no cure for that modern malady!)

I am dedicated to the life of the mind (though I digress on occasion to the body). Whereas many salaciously pursue bodily comforts, I stumble like a raging alcoholic through philosophy, literature, and gaze through the windows of the arts and sciences. I function primarily through analysis and speculation. I am insatiably curious and critical. (I've come to understand this makes me exhausting, but I never tire of it!) I love to learn and and tear apart the endless litany of dichotomies by which people divide up the world up and organize their reality.

Sometimes when all the input coalesces into an endless cacophony it takes a bit of jigging and tolling to sort out the gemstones from the baloney.
What I’m doing with my life
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I grew up on Cape Cod. I went to liberal arts school, worked for a few years in public policy, earned a MA in philosophy in British Columbia, and I am now back in Boston working a non-profit IT job. Ideally, I'd like to become a professor or teacher of some sort so I can pass on the gift of a liberal arts education that elevates the spirit and mind, but I am currently sorting out whether I really want to be an academic or to do something which doesn't entail financial suicide.

Right now I'm just trying to appreciate what I have while plotting for the future. I'd say I'm just having fun for awhile, but generally I'm a fairly serious person. I never really understood the dichotomy of fun/serious, as I have the most fun when I'm engaged in rigorous activity. (Maybe that is what people mean when they say I'm intense?)

Playing commuter chicken with the Canada Geese on the Charles River bike path whilst flipping them the bird. Pricks.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Thriving on cognitive dissonance. Being realistic. Fixing things (mostly bikes). Being open-minded, but critical (skepticism, like salt, enhances flavor.) Being captivated with small things, lingering on them (like that hall of oddities, the supermarket), and annoying other people with my fascination for them. Finding delightfully appropriate adjectives.

I'm patient, but I don't mince words. (I don't mind dressing them up for a night out from time to time though). I value independence and integrity to a fault. I have little tolerance for egotism and bullshit. I prefer to live life without candy coatings. (Like black coffee and/or neat whiskey, life is about learning to acquire a taste for the sweetness that's there).
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm ever the reserved and aloof New Englander. (Merry, marry, and Mary are pronounced three distinct ways damnit!) Apparently this translates to "intense, intimidating, and unapproachable." I've always thought that was rather silly, but what other people first notice about you is often the mostly silly, and often wrong.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I am a cultural omnivore. I don't self-identify via aesthetic preferences. I prefer to be active rather than passive, and seek critical engagement with things. I don't have sharp boundaries of taste, and prefer to evaluate things on their own merit and try to understand them within the proper context. Another way to put it is that I always want to know why and how something is good/bad, not just that it is.

I mostly read philosophy and literature. I spent the past few months reading David Foster Wallace, which is apparently some sort of quintessential thing I 'missed out' on in my 20s, (according to many different dates I've missed out on quite a lot). They raved about how brilliant/clever it was, my impression was just one of sadness. Now that that's over, I'm reading on graphic novels based on of Kafka and Tristram Shandy, philosophy books, Philip K Dick and Stanislaw Lem works, and various other assorted tomes lying in piles on my desk and nightstand. I like big books, and I cannot lie (and lots of them at once)

My tastes in film, TV, and video games are broad. I'm partial to more serious/foreign stuff, but I have no reservations about watching 'lower' movies whether they be Hollywood or B movies (and their foreign equivalents). My TV-watching is limited to Netflix, but some of my recent favorites include Chuck, Wilfred, Battlestar Galatica, The Mighty Boosh, and House. I'm also behind the curb game wise, but eventually I'll play all those Humble Bundles and current gen console classics I bought on Black Friday sales. (Tomb Raider was my most recently completed game.)

I prefer performing arts to visual arts, especially opera and classical music. (I need a BSO partner!) Recently, I've been developing an interest in Jazz/Rock and partaking more of music venues (Wally's!) I am somewhat underdeveloped in my knowledge/experience of the static arts, but I recently purchased a membership to the MFA in an attempt to rectify that. (I've one to the Science Museum too).

I enjoy cooking and baking, and find that a lot more fun than eating out. There is just something about slicing with a good knife that compels me. Breakfast food is tops. (I am addicted to cereal). I prefer dark beer and liquor. My weakness is chocolate chip cookies. Every time is teatime.

Physically, I love the challenges of cycling (cyclocross, mountain, and road), and snowboarding/XC skiing (winter can't come soon enough). I enjoy the elements and am not averse to the weather, and I think it is a shame so many people let them dictate their activities/mood. I'd love to learn to camp/backpack, and am always up for a hike.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Books, bicycles, good cutlery, quiet cafes, trees, and my Scrabble rule: You must create a poem using every word on the board after the game.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
A drunk loses the keys to his house and is looking for them under a lamppost. A policeman comes over and asks what he’s doing. “I’m looking for my keys” he says. “I lost them over there”. The policeman looks puzzled. “Then why are you looking for them all the way over here?” “Because the light is so much better”. (Are we not all too often blind to what we are looking for? Doubly so towards each other!)

Whether modern life is compatible with human happiness, because wealth generally erodes empathy as it provides access to ever more sophisticated experiences.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably wrenching to prepare my bike(s) for a weekend ride. Or reading a book while a cat persistently insists that it is more interesting. If I'm out probably sampling some new local brews, pursuing a bookstore, or complaining that the only reasonably priced ice cream left in Boston is Christina's.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I mutter and talk to myself frequently. (My internal dialogue is very animated and it leaks out from time to time).

I've made a habit of erasing the writing in library books from those evil people who feel entitled to mark them up. (Also that smell when you put the pages right up to your nose, bliss!)
You should message me if
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You hold onto a sense of wonder, even about the nasty parts of life. (Amor Mundi).

I deeply admire people who are intellectually bold and critically engaged and bring those qualities into every facet of their life. (I prefer sincerity to wit, as the former is a lot harder to cultivate).

You like taking chances, regardless of rewards. I have no interest in going on dates as if they were job interviews, or looking for 'magic'. I'm looking for companionship with someone who is interested in sharing stories and experiences (while making some to boot!) but I'm open to possibilities. Let's just meet up, treat each other with mutual respect, and see what happens.

You are bikesexual, but, you must not be a bike salmon. ಠ_ಠ Otherwise I will be sorely tempted to catch you, fillet you, and serve you with a bit of olive oil and pepper.