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40 M Albuquerque, NM

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:07pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly other
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Gemini, and it matters a lot
Graduated from university
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
I'm a pretty down the line ENFP and Gemini, so in a relationship I really want to connect in meaningful ways, I give it a lot of energy and enthusiasm, and I like to be adventurous and at play.

On the flip side, it's a challenge for me to get interested in routine, day to day stuff, and I've stayed too long in more than one bad relationship.

I'm not looking too hard right now. If I've messaged you, then there's some true sparkle happening.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm in a good bit of transition. Somehow, turning 40 has been largely about shedding old energy and trappings. I'm regrowing my spiritual side and trying to live more spontaneously as a result.

I run three or more miles as often as I can.
I’m really good at
Meditating, dropping weight (30 lbs since July- and no recent photos to prove it), acting, writing, and driving.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books I like: I'm currently rereading I Am That, and I'd also put some pilgrim lit at the top-- Peace Pilgrim and this obscure title called Principles and Precepts of the Return to the Obvious. Other books/authors include most Chuck Palahniuk, James Agee, Infinite Jest, The Gulag Archipelago, Shantaram, Skid Road, Indiana Winter, Michael Pollan, The Art of Fermentation, and Walking on Water.

Films I like: Anchorman, Anvil!, Biutiful, Blood Diamond, Brokeback Mountain, Burnt by the Sun, Casablanca, Cast Away, The Darjeeling Limited, Doubt, Enemy at the Gates, Fargo, The Fighter, A Fish Called Wanda, Four Weddings and a Funeral, From Dusk Till Dawn, Frozen River, I Am Love, Koyaanisquatsi, Life is Beautiful, Lost in Translation, The Lover, Master and Commander, Match Point, Miracle, Moon, My Architect, Once, Raging Bull, Rain (2001, New Zealand), Redbelt, Riding Giants (I am totally mesmerized by surfing documentaries), Sherman's March, The Shining, Snow Cake, Swimming Pool, Walk the Line, and Winter's Bone.

Shows: I've binged on a few shows on Netflix (Portlandia, ... Todd Margaret, Mad Men, Breaking Bad), and I've watched a lot of stand up comedy.

Music I like: Son Volt and Uncle Tupelo are at the top of the list. Others include, Air Supply, Band of Horses, Carole King, The Cars, Connie Francis, The Cure, The Darkness, Dwight Yoakam, Elvis Presley, Everclear, Ledward Kaapana, Lenny Kravitz, Melody Gardot, Tindersticks, Muddy Waters, Pete Yorn, Phoenix, Radiohead, Rebirth Brass Band, Tom Petty, and old Sun Records recordings. I also like Gregorian chant and choral music, and I get a good chunk of music from what SXSW puts out every year.

Food I like: There's not much I don't like so long as the ingredients are good. I'm a bit spoiled by evergreen access to kick-ass organic foods.
The six things I could never do without
Who am I? Do you know this question?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
In the last year, I've focused a lot on an advaita vedanta practice. I'm taking in a good bit of Mooji on YouTube and attended one of his retreats in Portugal in September 2013.

When I'm not doing that, I'm thinking about rehearsal for whatever play I'm in and finding a new job.
On a typical Friday night I am
at home or performing in a play.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 20–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You're don't qualify as the female half of a "precarious couple." You're a shade of unconventional, or you see the world differently than most people. You feel an urge to connect. You have something to teach me.