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60 Port Chester, NY Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 50–60
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

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Last online
Today – 4:03pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from Ph.D program
Science / Engineering
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Italian (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I have a real soft heart, one that considers myself and other thoughts and feelings. I'm not perfect at it. No one really is. Well, not many.

I feel a great love for art, for the more familiar and for the more challenging, even uncomfortable a little bit. I love music, live music is my best diversion. Meditations, yoga and stretching, running and hiking or just a walk.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I like the warmer weather now, though prefer 60's to 80's. Spring and Fall are my favorite times of year to hike, though I do during Summer and sometimes Winter.

Tonight I watched ShawShank Redemption all the way through for probably the first time, while having seen it in parts many times, enough to have known the entire story. I wanted to see it in whole this time. Not just to relax. But to touch some piece of soft heart that was awakened today, by a series of events.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I have a talent, a skill, at things technical, having been interested in such things innately, independently from childhood, and having pursued an education and for some years a teaching career in engineering. I like to read about science online, in the Science Times, and via Corrierre Della Sera. The third allows me the pleasure of my oft time too neglected interest and hobby of dabbling in learning more Italian.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A few favorites have been Long Walk to Freedom, a fascinating recounting of Nelson Mandela's life and colleagues and acquaintances and his impressive attitudes in his part in the struggle against Apartheid; roughly the first half of Waiting for Snow in Havana, the childhood years of Clinton's autobiography, The Power Broker, my favorite chapters being with Fiorello LaGuardia the mayor at times at emotional loggerheads with the book's real life main protagonist, Robert Moses. Also East of Eden, Cannery Row, A Moon for the Misbegotten, The Iceman Cometh, and Macbeth. In "fiction," I enjoy plays especially, I think because they get at the core of what the story is about: the people, the dialogue, the conflicts and emotions and even agreements and passion with the scenery and staging in place of what would be so much descriptive passages in for example, A Tale of Two Cities or much of Dickins works.

Some favorite movies have been Cinema Paradiso, a sleeper called Dark Star that could have become a cult classic if it had been marketed at all, The Last Wave where modern culture meets Aborigine climaxing in a climatic ending of the world wave, Whale Rider which I enjoyed the well written dialogue, and a few hundred more. My Favorite Year and My Favorite Architect (sometimes called The Architect) are two wonderful films I can watch again and again between some delay. Born Yesterday and some other Billy Holiday performances are priceless entertainment. Many of Billy Wilder's films.

I already described some of my music interests in my "self-summary" and add here some artists I appreciate are Marcus Roberts, Chick Corea, Cyrus Chestnut, Oscar Peterson, Ellington, Ella...Thelonious Monk, Herbie Hancock, Ornette Coleman...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Dabbling in Italian, dedication to the quality of my work, eating wisely, taking in lots of water daily, flossing and brushing, art and music, and I suppose my's so much better than my Dell at work. I always wanted to take Italian, just took until being an adult, and enjoyed learning French in High School; I was surprised how similar they are, more than to other Romance languages that is. My wise eating includes carefully selected one a day, vitamin D, cocoa powder (not hot cocoa), a touch of ginger, vegetables, fruit, beans, specific choices of fish, all well prepared, selected treats.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The composition of my OK Cupid profile.
How poorly they ate on the Roseanne show.
Coaco, sex, caffeine, work, Buddhist teachings, in any particular order.
My work.
About bodhichitta. A quote on it: "An analogy for bodhichitta is the rawness of a broken heart. Sometimes this broken heart gives birth to anxiety and panic, sometimes to anger, resentment, and blame. But under the hardness of that armor there is the tenderness of genuine sadness. This is our link with all those who have ever loved. This genuine heart of sadness can teach us great compassion. It can humble us when we're arrogant and soften us when we are unkind. It awakens us when we prefer to sleep and pierces through our indifference. This continual ache of the heart is a blessing that when accepted fully can be shared with all."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
These days I am solving problems, some problems, and relaxing, thinking about, and planning about.
You should message me if
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Life is full of mystery, and I don't mean just our experience of it so much as there is so much that's not to be quantified. It just is, and we can understand so much as such but cannot take it apart. Buddhism, literature, and art were my entrance into understanding just so much.