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41 San Francisco, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 33–43
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Last Online
Today – 5:40pm
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Trying to quit
Other, and laughing about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I was born into a Korean American family in the suburbs of Missouri. My parents gave me everything a kid could ask for, and for that, I am forever deeply grateful, possibly guilt ridden, and severely displaced. But as a spoiled Korean American kid from the Midwest, I stumbled into elite schools on the East Coast, which later led to a cynicism and general malaise of indifference throughout my 20s. Witnessing the proliferation of the new economy at the turn of the century only worsened this condition. During my 20s and early 30s, I also observed an exponential increase in the sophistication of our culture (It was very apparent in San Francisco), or, as I like to call it, the Sexualization of Late Stage Capitalism. These observations left me astray as a social outlier. I was a part of the world, yet, not of it. And so I turned towards drink and became experienced in the grungy, underbelly of life. But, as I grew older, I came full circle to become a semi-prominent, upstanding citizen; or, as the elder generation like say, "My balls had dropped."

But as we delve deeper into my psyche, there is much more to my current perceptions on reality. As a culturally displaced teenager, money was not what made the world turn round. I believed deeply in the existence of romantic love; that leaders were made up of intelligence, courage, and composed of cat-like intuition and instincts; and that the world would someday evolve into a socialistic state. None of this was to be true. By the time I was 38, the concept of love became displaced by an incredible urge to procreate for no other reason than to... procreate; leaders are getting dangerously stupider and stupider; and capitalism is beyond its hype, I mean, it shouldn't even be sustainable at this juncture, but it is ridiculously apparent that it is here to stay. I digress...

I'm loyal, honest, insightful (and paradoxically, obtuse at odd times), silly, and generous to a fault.

Generally follow absurdist principles and understand that social reality is a strange bird indeed. Tend to eat out a lot at various Hayes Valley and Mission restaurants - the food is the only reason why I pay so much to live in San Francisco.

Have a variety of friends spanning my 18 years here. Most folks are settled down and married, though, and I don't have the drive to go out to bars anymore - so I am relatively already domesticated (I tend to stray out and tie one on at least once every three months).

A good day for me is: working smart - not hard, exercise of some sort during the day, dinner with friends / making dinner, playing pool at a local haunt / or in my nook watching something of quality on the telly.
What I’m doing with my life
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I do strategy consulting at a local IT behemoth. It is fun... sometimes. I essentially create perceptions about programs or executives. I would have imagined myself at this age 1) being a bartender 2) living with my sister in L.A. doing temp work, or 3) being institutionalized. The fact that I developed my own craft is rather amazing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I play squash competitively and am rather good at it. I also play tennis and can teach both to you if you'd like. I am a staunch "tough love" instructor; so no short cuts, and a lot of drills and exercises.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I am remarkably approachable and not very "Asian" in the Asian sense (whatever that means).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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It's all very eclectic - I know a lot about little snapshots of sub-cultural history. 60s Rock, Science Fiction, late 90s Alt Rock, Ridley Scott, Jean Baudrillard, early Pink Floyd, Military History, Cultural Critiques of Fashion & Film, The Brian Jonestown Massacre.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Well prepared and well cooked food
A glass of scotch with a clear head
A good conversation that ends with laughter or an insight
Friends for sticking around you
Witty banter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Trying not to think about anything, but it is impossible.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
With friends at dinner, or eating in and watching a movie, or playing squash.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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When I was younger and more youthful... if Abba or Blondie happened to play at a party, I would begin to dance seductively and take my clothes off.
You should message me if
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If you need a break from hyper-hipster-consciousness, please shoot me a line.