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51 Portland, OR Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Judaism, and laughing about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from law school
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats

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My self-summary
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I'm not certain about all this. It's all projection and often disappointment. Yet we beat on ceaselessly...

I'm not certain that my perspective on myself is accurate....doesn't anyone read Freud anymore....we are mysteries to ourselves most of all. You need to ask someone else about me. Maybe that isn't feasible. Probably not. Scratch that idea- they will only say grandiose things, and then I will disappoint you. Or your projections. I'm actually ok, and if you don't say you love me on the first date, that is totally cool. Really though...don't say that on the first date.

I play the mandolin, I like a good debate, I can be a smart ass but I'm really a caring person.....really. I'm a part time lawyer and musician. Do I contradict myself? I contain multitudes.

I am 50 in real life and am shocked by this fact, because I am nothing like my 50 year old friends. Dammit, now I am 51.I don't know what my profile says. I lost my birth certificate in the great storms. We lost so much.

I have no pictures of myself hiking, or overlooking Machu Picchu. I'm sorry. I know it is practically mandatory, but I won't, e.g. hike in the rain. I will draw you a warm bath for you when you return.

I have no tattoos.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a lawyer by training. I practice as little as possible.I don't identify with that. I practice yoga and play music professionally...meaning I actually am good enough to get hired and paid. Just not paid very much. I'm in bands, but not rock bands. I'm not the Portland indie guy, although I live three doors away from one of the Decembrists. I go out and listen to music if it is exceptional......Chris Thile or Three Leg Torso. I read, a lot, but it tends to be the NYT, the New Yorker, and maybe a book, and a dozen RSS feeds. There is now too much prose available for me to consume..thank you and damn you, internet. I'm a good cook. I'm smart, I stay connected and I'm pretty good at entertaining myself but still... Change is good.

Yes, so really, right now I am really into my bands, yoga, gardening, food and using technology to improve my life. Internet dating..sure. Ebooks and all means. I'm definitely not a 9-5 type guy anymore, and Portland suits that. I think I may be a Portland cliche. Don't hate me.

If you take yourself really seriously, are always 'so busy', and have no sense of humor, we won't get along...just keepin it real. I don't get this always being busy. If you are a brain surgeon, have five kids, work for Gooogle, ok, you are busy.

And you can't be mean or angry, at least in an unhealthy way. I realize there is plenty personally and globally to be angry about, of course.

I don't care if you are really beautiful. Beauty is wonderful, but beautiful women, as a generalization, tend to be mean. You have to be nice. I'm looking for an honest, mutually supportive relationship. I will not buy you jewelry just to make you happy, because it won't make you-or me-happy. And it's expensive. Funky bracelets and earrings don't count as jewelry.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Guitar, mandolin, double bass, argument/litigation. Cooking and gardening, but I'm straight. Yoga...actually I wish I were better. But for a guy I'm bendable and will not break. My hips are more flexible than yours. But it's not a competition. And if your hips are flexible, that's awesome, and I'm very happy about it.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have sad, brown eyes. I don't know if this is good or not. People notice that. I can be sarcastic. But, as was said of my father before me, "not always easy, but never a bore." Beats most alternatives. I look like a cross between George Clooney and Perry Farrell. I tell myself this is a good thing. Today someone said I look like Rahm Emmanuel. Ok. People also seem to notice my soft skin. But get to know me first. I just grew a beard, but it looks distinguished, I'm told. It's not a big old Portland beard-I'm not manly in that way.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Not the Bible, so please, no Christians, or any serious religious believers need apply..unless you want to argue about these things. Our world views will collide. We are made out of physical matter, people. If you worship trees or are Wiccan, we probably won't hit it off either. But then again, I have never even met a Wiccan. I'm sure they are nice people.

And I'm a secular Jew, which means, among other things like having mild asthma that I hate winter sports and will not go for a hike with you until June. Skiing is out of the question. That seems to eliminate 90 per cent of the women on this site. Everybody "loves the outdoors". So do I, especially in shorts and bare feet. But when it's cold and wet? That's why we have shelter.

I still think the books I read ten years ago, like the Corrections, are great. I need to read Franzen's new book. But my reading habits have changed a lot. I'm re-reading some David Foster Wallace on an iPad right now. I'm stuck ten years ago. I need to cancel my New Yorker subscription and all my RSS feeds. If you have an RSS reader and feeds, or know what the hell I'm talking about, that is very good.

I eat food every day and like most of it. Well, that Thai food last week was mediocre. Most popular movies don't do much for me other than make me angry at American culture. David O Russell, Darren Aronofsky, Alejandro Inarritu, Cuaron, Polanski have never made a bad movie, more or less. I will see their stuff and stuff like that. Romcoms and action flicks not so much. Children of Men was amazing. So was Memento. Okay, those are older. I just saw The Ghost Writer and it was very good. You should see it.

I have about 8000 songs on my iPhone. They are organized in groups as follows: New. Jazz. Move. Chill. Irish. Brazil. Rock. World. Old Time. Acoustic. Bluegrass. Jazz Vocal. Interesting. I listen to a lot of music. If you meet me I will force you to listen to Daniel Lanois or Chris Thile or Dirk Powell or Solas or Hem or Kelly Joe Phelps or Sharon Van Etten or Neko Case or Joy Kills Sorrow or Hot Rize or Wilco or John Scofield or Mike Doughty or Band of Horses or Aimee Mann or mid period Joni Mitchell or Calexico or Pauline Croze or Julie London or Peggy Lee or Tim O'Brien or Vasen or John Coltrane or Jenny Lewis or Jenny Scheinman or Gomez or Camper van Beethoven or The Reeltime Travelers. If you know and like a lot of these people or groups we will probably hit it off. I don't think a relationship can work if you don't have similar taste or appreciation of things like music.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sleep, internet connectivity/iphone, music, yoga, health, intimacy. A female friend suggested I put down "intimacy", because she thought if I said "sex" it would be pervy, but I disagree-that's a guilty hang up, although it is also based in legitimate and deeply entrenched genetic predispositions women may have about predatory male behavior. But intimacy is a fine thing too-it just involves more than sex. So I'll say yes to both.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The future. And the past, even though you can't do much about it. I think a lot about the future. Don't most people? Perhaps if you don't think about the future, and just live in the present, it means you are happy. There may be some truth to that, and I just realized it-if you think a lot about the past or future, maybe you are unhappy or restless. Maybe I am. Let's talk about it.

I think I have been on OKC on and off for two or three years..I dated someone I met here for several months, and I dated someone I met in real life (it happens) for several months during that time. Yes, I took my profile down during those times.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If it is really late on Friday night I would hope to be asleep, somewhere familiar.
I am SO tired of waking up and not knowing where I am or how I got there, broken glass everywhere, shivering and naked. Still, it keeps happening.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sometimes leave my house unlocked.

Also, I was raised by wolves. That's why I leave my house the wild you have no doors. And locks? I never saw one.. See, we did not have anything to lock, and not much to steal but carcasses.

Still, don't stop by and take stuff from my house because I will hunt you down-I was raised by wolves, after all. Call of the wild and all that.
You should message me if
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You are smart, funny and beautiful. If you do yoga or play an instrument...even more awesome. However, you can't be mean or take yourself too seriously, as these are deal killers that unfortunately sometimes come with the package. I will not sit at the mean girls' table no matter how pretty you are. Or so I tell myself. I've done it....I think I am over it.

Also, you have to exist in the real world. And have good grammar.
What is non-negotiable:you have to exist. That's really, really important. Some profiles are fake.

And if you made it this far I assume you have a sense of humor reasonably compatible with mine.