Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm not certain about all this. It's all projection and often
disappointment. Yet we beat on ceaselessly...
I'm not certain that my perspective on myself is
accurate....doesn't anyone read Freud anymore....we are mysteries
to ourselves most of all. You need to ask someone else about me.
Maybe that isn't feasible. Probably not. Scratch that idea- they
will only say grandiose things, and then I will disappoint you. Or
your projections. I'm actually ok, and if you don't say you love me
on the first date, that is totally cool. Really though...don't say
that on the first date.
I play the mandolin, I like a good debate, I can be a smart ass but
I'm really a caring person.....really. I'm a part time lawyer and
musician. Do I contradict myself? I contain multitudes.
I am 50 in real life and am shocked by this fact, because I am
nothing like my 50 year old friends. Dammit, now I am 51.I don't
know what my profile says. I lost my birth certificate in the great
storms. We lost so much.
I have no pictures of myself hiking, or overlooking Machu Picchu.
I'm sorry. I know it is practically mandatory, but I won't, e.g.
hike in the rain. I will draw you a warm bath for you when you
I have no tattoos.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a lawyer by training. I practice as little as possible.I don't
identify with that. I practice yoga and play music
professionally...meaning I actually am good enough to get hired and
paid. Just not paid very much. I'm in bands, but not rock bands.
I'm not the Portland indie guy, although I live three doors away
from one of the Decembrists. I go out and listen to music if it is
exceptional......Chris Thile or Three Leg Torso. I read, a lot, but
it tends to be the NYT, the New Yorker, and maybe a book, and a
dozen RSS feeds. There is now too much prose available for me to
consume..thank you and damn you, internet. I'm a good cook. I'm
smart, I stay connected and I'm pretty good at entertaining myself
but still... Change is good.
Yes, so really, right now I am really into my bands, yoga,
gardening, food and using technology to improve my life. Internet
dating..sure. Ebooks and podcasts...by all means. I'm definitely
not a 9-5 type guy anymore, and Portland suits that. I think I may
be a Portland cliche. Don't hate me.
If you take yourself really seriously, are always 'so busy', and
have no sense of humor, we won't get along...just keepin it real. I
don't get this always being busy. If you are a brain surgeon, have
five kids, work for Gooogle, ok, you are busy.
And you can't be mean or angry, at least in an unhealthy way. I
realize there is plenty personally and globally to be angry about,
I don't care if you are really beautiful. Beauty is wonderful, but
beautiful women, as a generalization, tend to be mean. You have to
be nice. I'm looking for an honest, mutually supportive
relationship. I will not buy you jewelry just to make you happy,
because it won't make you-or me-happy. And it's expensive. Funky
bracelets and earrings don't count as jewelry.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Guitar, mandolin, double bass, argument/litigation. Cooking and
gardening, but I'm straight. Yoga...actually I wish I were better.
But for a guy I'm bendable and will not break. My hips are more
flexible than yours. But it's not a competition. And if your hips
are flexible, that's awesome, and I'm very happy about it.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have sad, brown eyes. I don't know if this is good or not. People
notice that. I can be sarcastic. But, as was said of my father
before me, "not always easy, but never a bore." Beats most
alternatives. I look like a cross between George Clooney and Perry
Farrell. I tell myself this is a good thing. Today someone said I
look like Rahm Emmanuel. Ok. People also seem to notice my soft
skin. But get to know me first. I just grew a beard, but it looks
distinguished, I'm told. It's not a big old Portland beard-I'm not
manly in that way.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Not the Bible, so please, no Christians, or any serious religious
believers need apply..unless you want to argue about these things.
Our world views will collide. We are made out of physical matter,
people. If you worship trees or are Wiccan, we probably won't hit
it off either. But then again, I have never even met a Wiccan. I'm
sure they are nice people.
And I'm a secular Jew, which means, among other things like having
mild asthma that I hate winter sports and will not go for a hike
with you until June. Skiing is out of the question. That seems to
eliminate 90 per cent of the women on this site. Everybody "loves
the outdoors". So do I, especially in shorts and bare feet. But
when it's cold and wet? That's why we have shelter.
I still think the books I read ten years ago, like the Corrections,
are great. I need to read Franzen's new book. But my reading habits
have changed a lot. I'm re-reading some David Foster Wallace on an
iPad right now. I'm stuck ten years ago. I need to cancel my New
Yorker subscription and all my RSS feeds. If you have an RSS reader
and feeds, or know what the hell I'm talking about, that is very
I eat food every day and like most of it. Well, that Thai food last
week was mediocre. Most popular movies don't do much for me other
than make me angry at American culture. David O Russell, Darren
Aronofsky, Alejandro Inarritu, Cuaron, Polanski have never made a
bad movie, more or less. I will see their stuff and stuff like
that. Romcoms and action flicks not so much. Children of Men was
amazing. So was Memento. Okay, those are older. I just saw The
Ghost Writer and it was very good. You should see it.
I have about 8000 songs on my iPhone. They are organized in groups
as follows: New. Jazz. Move. Chill. Irish. Brazil. Rock. World. Old
Time. Acoustic. Bluegrass. Jazz Vocal. Interesting. I listen to a
lot of music. If you meet me I will force you to listen to Daniel
Lanois or Chris Thile or Dirk Powell or Solas or Hem or Kelly Joe
Phelps or Sharon Van Etten or Neko Case or Joy Kills Sorrow or Hot
Rize or Wilco or John Scofield or Mike Doughty or Band of Horses or
Aimee Mann or mid period Joni Mitchell or Calexico or Pauline Croze
or Julie London or Peggy Lee or Tim O'Brien or Vasen or John
Coltrane or Jenny Lewis or Jenny Scheinman or Gomez or Camper van
Beethoven or The Reeltime Travelers. If you know and like a lot of
these people or groups we will probably hit it off. I don't think a
relationship can work if you don't have similar taste or
appreciation of things like music.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sleep, internet connectivity/iphone, music, yoga, health, intimacy.
A female friend suggested I put down "intimacy", because she
thought if I said "sex" it would be pervy, but I disagree-that's a
guilty hang up, although it is also based in legitimate and deeply
entrenched genetic predispositions women may have about predatory
male behavior. But intimacy is a fine thing too-it just involves
more than sex. So I'll say yes to both.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The future. And the past, even though you can't do much about it. I
think a lot about the future. Don't most people? Perhaps if you
don't think about the future, and just live in the present, it
means you are happy. There may be some truth to that, and I just
realized it-if you think a lot about the past or future, maybe you
are unhappy or restless. Maybe I am. Let's talk about it.
I think I have been on OKC on and off for two or three years..I
dated someone I met here for several months, and I dated someone I
met in real life (it happens) for several months during that time.
Yes, I took my profile down during those times.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If it is really late on Friday night I would hope to be asleep,
I am SO tired of waking up and not knowing where I am or how I got
there, broken glass everywhere, shivering and naked. Still, it
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sometimes leave my house unlocked.
Also, I was raised by wolves. That's why I leave my house
unlocked.....in the wild you have no doors. And locks? I never saw
one.. See, we did not have anything to lock, and not much to steal
Still, don't stop by and take stuff from my house because I will
hunt you down-I was raised by wolves, after all. Call of the wild
and all that.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are smart, funny and beautiful. If you do yoga or play an
instrument...even more awesome. However, you can't be mean or take
yourself too seriously, as these are deal killers that
unfortunately sometimes come with the package. I will not sit at
the mean girls' table no matter how pretty you are. Or so I tell
myself. I've done it....I think I am over it.
Also, you have to exist in the real world. And have good
What is non-negotiable:you have to exist. That's really, really
important. Some profiles are fake.
And if you made it this far I assume you have a sense of humor
reasonably compatible with mine.
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