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  • Ages 22-42
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Last online
Nov 20
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Italian (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I am very passionate, intense, and playful. I make acquaintances easily, but true friendships and intimate relationships are difficult to find, especially as one gets older and more aware of himself. I'm incredibly curious, constantly evolving, dedicated, ambitious, always asking questions and trying to better myself.

I'd rather be alone than spend time with individuals that do not treat me with the same level of respect, care, and appreciation; remain static and follow trends like sheep; or judge others unfairly. In fact, I'm never bored, and I really enjoy the time I spend on my own.

I was born and educated in the US, but spent a good part of my childhood in Italy. I would describe myself as both Italian and American, but not Italian-American. I'm bilingual, and a dual-citizen. I carry two passports when I travel. Italian culture, music, films, and cuisine have always played an important and defining role in my life. However, I know enough and have seen enough of the world to know there are many beautiful places and equally fascinating cultures, languages, people, and environments. There is always more to explore and experience, and that's part of what makes life interesting and worthwhile.

I LOVE nice dinners, romantic evenings, great discussions, uncontrollable laughter, really intense sex, and playful flirting. Sitting at home together with a bottle of wine, a classic film, some jazz or lounge music, and a few lit candles is often the ideal for me... and preferable to bar-hopping, loud concerts, packed clubbing, or any other environment where it's impossible to hold a conversation, not that I don't occasionally take part in those activities with a sense of enthusiasm. It all depends on who I'm with.

Whether I spend a day, a week, a month or several years with someone, I want the time we spend together to be interesting, mischievous, fiery, and full of potential.

Often times I feel I'm too old (in terms of experience, perspective and maturity) for younger folks, and too young (in terms of attitude, energy and risk-taking) for older folks. This often leaves me on the outskirts of society, unable to relate to the wheel that most willingly, sometimes blindly, participate in.

Also intrigued by and enthusiastic about:
social justice, history, international affairs, human rights, politics, documentaries, feminism, traveling (25 countries so far on 4 continents), intellectual conversations, philosophy, organic food, the environment, free healthcare for the poor, a woman's right to choose, good governance, sustainable development, evolutionary biology, anthropology, psychology, paleontology, poetry, writing, black & white photography (favorites include Helmut Newton, Demarchelier, Avedon, Cartier-Bresson, Watson, and Ellen Von Unwerth), architecture, wine, fresh pasta, technology, secular ethics, fashion, individuals like George Carlin, Jon Stewart, Aung San Suu Kyi, Noam Chomsky, Eve Ensler, (anyone that makes me think on a very high level), NPR, This American Life, the Fresh Air podcast (loyal listener for over 15 years), The New York Times, The New Yorker, Think Progress, my weekly subscription to The Economist, utilizing social networks to create positive and progressive change, the Earth, the sun, and countless other subjects and activities...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I completed a masters degree at Columbia University a few years ago, which I found very rewarding and intellectually stimulating... but rather than accept the high-paying, secure job I was offered in DC, I decided to pursue a more creative, more challenging, individualistic path. I love this line from a Pablo Neruda poem: "perfecting my dream like a plant that seeds itself in the dark". It is a good summation of what I'm currently working on: an expansive research project that has the potential to lead me towards great achievements. I'll be happy to share further details with you in person. Here is the full poem:

"It’s good to feel you are close to me in the night, love, invisible in your sleep, intently nocturnal, while I untangle my worries as if they were twisted nets. Withdrawn, your heart sails through dream, but your body, relinquished so, breathes seeking me without seeing me perfecting my dream like a plant that seeds itself in the dark. Rising, you will be that other, alive in the dawn, but from the frontiers lost in the night, from the presence and the absence where we meet ourselves, something remains, drawing us into the light of life as if the sign of the shadows had sealed its secret creatures with flame."
~Pablo Neruda

I'm training to qualify for the Boston and New York City marathons next year. Hoping to run a sub 3:10 over the next few months with that goal in mind. I just recently completed a half in under 90 minutes, which was a satisfying test.

I recently purchased a Canon Mark III to shoot high-resolution photographs and video with. I'm intent on mastering its features and utilizing it to bring to fruition some of my creative ideas.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
My doctor recently told me I have "beautiful cholesterol", so there's that :)

As far as other strengths, I'm great at engaging others - from children to retirees - on a variety of subjects, self-deprecation, making people laugh, looking at subjects objectively, asking questions (and listening/making others feel at ease), utilizing my imagination, dreaming, communicating, designing, flirting, kissing, loving (most do not know how from my experience or are scared to), sharing my playful side, editing, witty comebacks, inspiring others (told this daily by individuals following my postings online, so I must be doing something right), telling detailed stories, using logic, reason, and evidence to support my arguments; staying up all night so I can absorb new books, films, journals, or something I'm fascinated by. I'm also extremely loyal and dedicated.
The first things people usually notice about me
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It depends whether I have clothes on or not ;-) I'm kidding. Maybe that's a characteristic better discovered in person, although it is absolutely relevant to our being compatible. Think something fun with great potential for your satisfaction, perhaps related to my winning the genetic lottery. There's even a BOOK a female friend gave me about the challenges faced as a result. (That's a hyperlink, if you're viewing my profile on a computer, rather than a smartphone, and have a healthy sense of humor!)

On a more serious note and one that is less likely to get me into trouble, but also based on what others have often told me or noticed over the years:

my mouth/lips, nice teeth/smile, dark hair/eyes, long eyelashes, strong/defined legs, a date recently told me I had "beautiful hands", openness of character, my sense of humor, my curiosity about life and the environment, my passion for the arts, my ability to be outspoken without being abrasive, my unwillingness to conform... I'm often described by the women I meet as having "a very old soul" (even though I don't believe in such things :).

Physically, I'm 6' tall, 175 lbs, and very well-built/toned. I do a lot of strength training (weights, pull-ups, etc..) and run 30 fast-paced miles/week. I'm in the best shape of my life, and even if I'm not in the gym, I bike and walk to most places. I'm not obsessive or self-absorbed about my body or the gym, and don't expect or even want others to work out like me, but I've always taken very good care of myself and I eat well. I'm an endorphin junkie and love physical challenges. I like to feel and look great naked, and would like to sustain that feeling into my older years. Ideally, being, getting, or staying fit is of some importance to you too, if for no other reason than living a long, healthy life and keeping up with me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.

Faulkner . Mark Twain . GB Shaw . Neruda . Orwell . Shakespeare . Bronte . Wilde . Thoreau . Wharton . Melville . Emerson . Fitzgerald . Tennison . Hemingway. Eugene O'Neill . Dostoevsky . Baudelaire . Conrad . Dickens . Flaubert . Kafka . Nietzsche . Tolstoy . Freud . Rilke . Whitman ... I don't read a lot of contemporary fiction, because there just isn't enough time, but I'd like to in the future. I'd actually like to dedicate a year of my life towards literature, once I finish going through a set of films and series in my library.


Radiohead . Bjork . Sigur Ros . The White Stripes . Fiona Apple . Ennio Morricone . Beethoven . Mozart . Coltrane . Bach . Handel . Hendrix . Outkast . Beck . Gotan Project . Sinatra . A Tribe Called Quest . The Roots . Billie Holiday . The Smashing Pumpkins . Faithless . Tosca . Miles Davis . Ella Fitzgerald . Thelonious Monk . Etta James . Kruder & Dorfmeister . Buddha-Bar . Zero 7 . Shakira . Groove Armada . The Beatles . Saint Germain . Portishead . Lamb . Thievery Corporation . Goldfrapp . The Black Keys . Florence + The Machine, et al...


Fellini . Bergman . Hitchcock . Chaplin . Antonioni . Kubrick . Wilder . Kurosawa . Welles . Sturges . Keaton . Lubitsch . Cassavetes . Ozu . Melville . Tarkovsky . Visconti . Fassbinder . Kieslowski . Shepitko . Lang . Fuller . Truffaut . Mizoguchi . Buñuel . De Sica . Lumet . Kazan . Altman . Malick . Present day: Lynch . Godard . PT & Wes Anderson . Jarmusch . Woody Allen . McQueen . Varda . Coen Bros . Almodóvar . Tarr . Zvyagintsev . Wong Kar Wai

Best films I've seen in recent months:
12 Years a Slave (2013)
A Cold Wind in August (1961)
A Royal Affair (2012)
A Separation (2011)
Adua e le compagne (1960)
Amour (2012)
Another Year (2010)
Beasts of the Southern Wild (2012)
Blue Is the Warmest Color (2013)
Bye Bye Birdie (1963)
Dangerous (1935)
Days of Wine and Roses (1962)
Fruitvale Station (2013)
He Who Gets Slapped (1924)
I Married a Witch (1942)
Ida (2013)
Le quattro volte (2010)
Leviathan (2014)
Mysteries of Lisbon (2010)
Omar (2013)
Only Lovers Left Alive (2013)
Possessed (1931)
Riso Amaro (1949)
Senso (1954)
Something Wild (1961)
Stranger by the Lake (2013)
Take Shelter (2011)
The Grand Budapest Hotel (2014)
The Mill & The Cross (2011)
The Portrait of a Lady (1996)
The Spy Who Came in from the Cold (1965)
The Turin Horse (2011)
The Uninvited (1944)
Tomorrow Is Forever (1946)
Un maledetto imbroglio (1959)
Wake in Fright (1971)

Documentaries: Fog of War . In the Shadow of the Moon . The Gatekeepers . Half the Sky: Turning Oppression into Opportunity for Women Worldwide . Taxi to the Dark Side . A Man Vanishes . The Rape of Europa . When the Levees Broke . Hot Coffee . Elephant in the Living Room . Marwencol . Senna . Deliver Us from Evil . The Last Lions . Araya . Valentino: The Last Emperor . A Film Unfinished . Inside Job . Capturing the Friedmans . The Cove . Shoah . Planet Earth . Wonders of the Universe . Your Inner Fish (just watched this series and it BLEW my mind!), any film that features interviews with Joseph Campbell, Sir David Attenborough, Martin Scorsese, or Bill Moyers . anything directed by Ken/Ric Burns, Errol Morris, Werner Herzog, or Alex Gibney

"It's Not Television": PBS (Nova . Frontline . Nature . Charlie Rose . American Experience . McLaughlin Group) . Six Feet Under . Breaking Bad . Sopranos . Buffy . Curb Your Enthusiasm . Seinfeld . Inside the Actor's Studio . 60 Minutes . Daily Show . LOST . South Park . In Treatment . Twilight Zone . Wire . Thriller . X-Files . Alfred Hitchcock Presents . Dexter . It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia . Rome . Lie To Me . Veep . Louie . Justified . The Hour (BBC) . The Bachelor (guilty pleasure ;-) . Fringe . Sherlock . House of Cards . The Fall . Last Week Tonight . Orphan Black

Painters: Renoir, Caravaggio, Picasso, Degas, Titian, Vermeer, Claude Monet, Edouard Monet, Toulouse-Lautrec, Van Gogh, de Lempicka, Cassatt, Hopper, Cezanne, Turner, Fragonard, Delacroix, Velazquez, Modigliani, Goya, Klimt, Bruegel, Munch, Sisley, Schiele, Bosch, Francis Bacon, Gerhard Richter, Mary Ryden, Kandinsky, Shag, Matisse, Sargent, O'Keeffe, Gauguin, Tintoretto, Rubens, Botticelli, Michelangelo, and many more...

Food: I grew up in a traditional Italian family with traditional Italian cooking, so my appreciation and palate for amazing and delectable food is quite expansive :-) I'm always open to trying new foods from far and away places of the world, and if it's fresh and cooked with the right spices, I will probably love it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Essential components to my life include: knowledge and self-awareness, artwork that inspires me, human emotion, personal expression, passion, homemade food and wine, integrity, my sense of humor, independence, consistency, dedication, and privacy... As far as personal possessions, I'd have to include the immense archive of material I've gathered for my research over the past 5 years (thousands of films, books, art-related prints), as well as my new Canon Mark III camera. The discovery and re-discovery of these items keep me intellectually and creatively sated a fair amount of the time. It also fills a void that I would probably fill if I could live a hundred lifetimes, travel to every corner of the globe, and interact/experience so much more than humanly possible.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The state of the world (overpopulation, overconsumption, peace/conflict, shifting power dynamics, equality, universal morality); Climate change and the growing crisis of the failing and fragile ecosystem humans rely on in order to survive and prosper as a species; Congress' ability to undermine an elected President, whom 60 million citizens voted for, simply because he's black and racism/ignorance is alive and well (and an industry corporate interests promote and feed upon); Making a positive impact within this chaos we call a "civilized society"; Developing my potential as an aspiring writer, filmmaker, and activist; Upsetting the status quo, overturning the 'establishment'; Creating a unique vision that challenges others' perceptions and traditional values; How I can improve myself as a living, breathing organism on this unique, life-affirming planet; Leaving behind some kind of legacy, and what the future holds for the rest of humanity when I'm gone...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Writing, editing, working out, reading, attending screenings, drinking wine, or all of the above... You're welcome to join me.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
You have to believe in me, in order to understand and appreciate where I am in my life, what I want to do, and why it is important to me... I refuse to adapt myself to others' expectations or desires of who I "should be", rather than who I firmly believe I "could be".

My primary endeavor at the moment is research. I also run a small antiquarian business online. What I make gets re-invested in my creative pursuits, typically books, films, computer equipment, etc... As Steve Martin says, "Be so good they can't ignore you." That's what I'm trying to do.

My closest friend recently told me that the reason I have such a difficult time connecting with others is because I'm Owen Wilson's character in 'Midnight in Paris', and everyone else is Rachel McAdams's. If you've seen the film, you'll know what that means. If you haven't, you should add it to the top of your queue.

The eccentric, exuberant, intelligent, flamboyant author and filmmaker John Waters had this to say on the subject of sex, which I relate to and found interesting: "I know that true love is supposed to be companionship, growing old together, blah, blah, blah. I thought that's what friends were for, not sexual partners. Some of us want hot, lunatic, porn sex and we want it forever. I have great friends that I grow old with, that know everything about me, that I'm intimate with, intellectually and everything, but if I'm going to go to the trouble of living with somebody, sharing my life with them, I want great sex. I don't understand not doing that. I understand both things, but to me they're separate - that I have friends that supply all that, and if I'm going to have a partner I want to have great sex with them." ... I'm including this quote because I empathize with that line of thinking. I have a very healthy desire for intimacy, affection, and passion. If I'm going to date or be in a relationship with someone, I want it to be hot and sexy and fun. If that's missing or if you're very prudish, indifferent, or traditional when it comes to this subject, or if you're not open to exploring the depths of your sexuality with the right person, we're probably not compatible, at least as lovers.
You should message me if
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There's a quote by the German poet Rilke: "I want to be with those who know secret things, or else alone." The words are representative of what I feel, and what I'm looking for ― someone fun and exciting to spend time with ― a woman of substance to enjoy the present (possibly the future), who brings added inspiration, passion and intensity to my days ― a woman that is intellectually stimulating, sensually curious, rebellious, creative, and confident in herself and in what she has to offer... someone consistent and not afraid to take risks or seize the moment.

I'm open to anything from a friendship to a short-term or long-term relationship. The longevity of our relationship would depend on the chemistry and connection that we have together, where life takes us, and how we relate to one another over time... as long as we are honest with each other and upfront about our past, our present, our needs and our desires. I would much rather have an intense, but brief experience with someone who may not be my "perfect" match than never have had the opportunity to spend time with that individual at all... but that doesn't mean I'm not open to something more serious with the right person, in fact I would prefer that. I know there are a TON of people on here, BUT If I'm meeting you, it's important to me, and I hope you feel the same way.

If you'd like to connect on Facebook, I use social networks to share many of my artistic and activist pursuits, interests, and goals. I have a public fan page, an open door policy on friend requests through my profile, especially for like-minded people, if you're curious about my work, my film reviews, and my passion for photography and the arts. Message me and I'll let you know how you can find me. I've made some nice acquaintances through OkCupid and social networks are an interesting testing ground to see how well you communicate or how alike you really are, especially if you're hesitant or too busy to meet at the moment.

Whether we communicate or not, watch THIS (it's a hyperlink to a TED Talk by Brene Brown on "The power of vulnerability" which you can see if you're browsing my profile on a computer), and please be a better, more compassionate, more empathetic person, not just for the benefit of others but for yourself.