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37 San Diego, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 21-60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

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5' 5" (1.65m)
Body Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I am a kinky polyamorous introvert disguised as an extrovert. I really just need to put myself out there and make some new friends, expand my social circle. I avoid overly negative or judgmental people and want to surround myself with individuals who are happy and positive. If you are constantly surrounded by drama and chaos, I'm not for you. I'm open, honest, blunt, quirky, opinionated, and into all sorts of weird stuff.

I enjoy board games, movies, crafts, exploring new places, finding hole in the wall places with interesting food or good beer or an awesomely unique atmosphere, cuddle piles, curling up to a good book, sharing a coloring book, planning for and camping at SCA wars, learning what makes people smile, and exploring new kinks. Currently my latest hobby has been practicing with my whips and poi. I'm trying to get good enough with the poi that I can use fire poi, but I need to get to the point that I am not smacking myself in the face with them before that happens.

I am a pleasantly plump girl. Zaftig even. I love myself, but am looking to be healthier. If you are looking for a friend to do some active stuff together, hit me up! It's always better when you got company. I do have a 24 hour fitness gym membership if that matters. Though I haven't been in forever. I hold the disclaimer that I'm not particularly good at any sports or exercise. But I'll likely try it.

I am happily married. I don't hide anything from my husband or other partners. We are ethically non-monogamous. It is important to me that anyone I get emotionally involved with have a mutual respect. I do not like putting people on some hierarchal scale of worth to me. I don't like the things it insinuates or how it makes people feel. I need strong open communication, trust, and respect, and I am full of compersion.

I am not looking for any specific gender, ethnicity, size, age, etc. I just don't have enough awesome people in my life. I want to find people who positively effect me. Who I can have a positive impact in their lives. I want to build strong connections, and see what dynamic organically develops from there. I can be a friend, lover, sister, muse, penpal, whatever fits. What I am not interested in is being a notch on someones bedpost, being a superficial acquaintance (I have enough of those), or being around someone who is toxic to my life.

I AM NOT LOOKING FOR CASUAL ENCOUNTERS. If you just want sex or some kinky fantasy played out with a stranger, I'm not the girl for you. No judgement here, it's just not my interest. If you message me asking my kinks before even caring what my name is, you will not get a response.
What I’m doing with my life
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I work in the medical field and love my profession. I get to help people and over time be a part of their healing. It's great. When I'm not working, I'm looking for something fun to do. I am on Fetlife and fairly active in the local kink community.
I’m really good at
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Coloring in the lines of coloring books.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Too many to list!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good hygiene
Nonsexual touch
You should message me if
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You want a new kink minded poly friend.

You like what you see and think I might be someone you'd like to know.

If you just send me a message with only a 'Hey, whats up!' or 'How are you?', you will likely not get a response. Just saying. Show a girl that you are actually interested and maybe spend some thought on a first impression.

Again, not looking for casual sex.