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48 F New York, NY

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:26am
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
A little extra
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any

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My self-summary
I'm going to start out by saying that I don't respond to messages saying only "hello" or "how are you?" or anything that appears to be a copy and paste of a message that you've sent to dozens of other people. Show me that you've read my profile.

That being said.....
I am not looking for a match...... I am looking for a fire.
(I admit, I borrowed that line with permission from nyc11102man, but I love it!)

Don't just message me because you see "bi" on my profile. It's actually a very small part of my life. OKC has very limited options for sexuality. I'm more "heteroflexible" and "heteromantic" than bisexual. What that means is that I will occasionally enjoy sex with a woman, but am only interested in romantic relationships with men.

I've led a vanilla life for most of my 48 years. Lately, I've started breaking out and embracing my hedonistic side. I'm interested in meeting a man who is open to exploring with me. I want to explore many facets of sex and kinks and my sexuality and I want to be with you to explore yours. I'm not looking to explore hardcore kinks, but at least some of the lesser ones. I'm NOT looking for an open relationship or a poly relationship. I'm NOT looking for casual sex. I AM looking for a connection that has the possibility of leading to something long term.

Now that that's out of the way... I'm much more than my sexuality. Read my questions. I work, I travel, I eat, I drink, I read, I go to movies, concerts, shows, events.... The usual stuff.. And I'd like to do that stuff with someone special. I enjoy photography, intrepid travel; I'm looking into taking scuba lessons; I'm always in the planning stages of a trip to somewhere off the beaten path.

I prefer men who are assertive, not passive or submissive. I like a man that can make a plan; this applies to life, not just sex. The most annoying question in the world to me is, "I don't know. What do YOU want to do?"

Please skip to the bottom before messaging me and make sure I actually want to hear from you. Those are my "hard limits" down there.
What I’m doing with my life
I have a regular 9-5 job, but when the day is done, I like to get out into the vast world and see what's going on. I recently got back from an amazing vacation at the bottom of the world!
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm not as blurry as my picture. If I like you, I'll point you to my other, more mainstream, profile with better pics.

I'm pretty direct.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I prefer non-fiction over fiction usually. Right now I'm reading a book about Scientology. Don't worry - I'm not a cult member. I just find religions interesting in a sociological way. I'm trying to catch up on the classics I skipped over a long time ago having just finished Anna Karenina (those Russians know how to drag along a story line!). I often go back and refer to Ian Kerner's books "She Comes First" and "He Comes Next." These should both be required reading for everyone.

I like most movies except horror movies.

I admit to liking a lot of TV. But no reality crap. The Newsroom is my current favorite show. I also like Homeland, Bill Maher, Jon Stewart, Late Late show with Craig Ferguson (if you're a kinky version of him, I'm sold), True Blood, Drunk History, The Walking Dead and many others. It's a good time for television nowadays.

Music is too long to list. Let's discuss over drinks.

I don't eat anything spicy or slimy, but I can usually find something at any restaurant (except Indian)
The six things I could never do without
in no particular order:
good sex
crispy bacon
a comfortable bed
an exotic vacation plan
.... to be filled in at a later date
I spend a lot of time thinking about
what's next.. in life.... in love... or just for vacation..

why people on here say they can't see when someone has rated their profile without being paid members. This is not true; just go into your email settings.

why so many people have sentences that start with "Am" instead of "I am." It's weird and I AM starting not to like it.

Why so many people write that they love to laugh. Are there that many grumpy people out there that you have to point out that you're not?

the fact that so many people on here have had group sex! Amazing!
On a typical Friday night I am
If I had a dollar for every profile that said "There is no typical Friday night" I'd be rich. If you're doing something atypical and it's fun, invite me along! Otherwise, I'll probably be home relaxing after an exhausting week or I'll be having a few drinks with friends. Maybe I'll be on a date. It varies.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Read my summary above. What more do you want from me, OKC??? I pretty much put it all out there.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 37–53
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
- You're older than 35. I prefer younger guys, but under 35 is just too young for me. Yes, I know we can have a good time together, but just a good time is not what I'm looking for and not many guys under 35 are ready for the LTR. I actually connect best with guys in their late 30's to mid 40's, but that doesn't mean I'm locked into that.

- You don't list God or your bible as things you cannot do without.

- You're 5'10" or taller. I like tall men. I'm not comfortable dating guys shorter than me and I like to look up. This is a total deal breaker.

- You live in the metro NYC area. Preferably metro card range. I don't have a car and don't imagine taking a commuter rail for a date. Sorry, SI doesn't count.

- You're seriously interested in eventually meeting. I'm not looking for a pen pal. Thanks, but no, I don't want to chat.

- You have a picture. And no hats and sunglasses in all the pics, please. And no, I won't give you an email address to send them to. I know, I know.. my pic is blurry. As I said above, I'll point you to clearer pics if I like what you have to say when you message me.

- AGAIN.... You can say more than just "Hi. How are you doing?" I won't answer. I like smart guys, I want to see that you can express yourself and write a complete sentence. My profile says a lot. Your message should say more than "Hi, How are you doing?" Don't be boring. For the record, I am doing well, thank you. Unless, you send me a message that says, "Hi. How are you?" Then I'm not doing so well because you've just made me frustrated.

- You know how to write out complete words. I don't respond to "How r u?" regardless of how much you have written after it. And please don't write "lol" unless you're actually laughing out loud.

- If you're a girl that's interested in meeting, you can message me, but, again, please write a message. The same rules apply; don't just say "hi."

Due to the nature of what I'm looking for, I'm usually not going to reach out to you (when I do, it means I'm REALLY interested). So show me you're the assertive guy I'm looking for and step up and send a message. If I don't respond, don't take it personally. We all have different tastes. I'll know you when I see/read about you. Sending multiple messages won't work, either. That just makes you look needy.

Let me reiterate a couple things: