Personal/Public Service message: I do not respond to messages from ladies without pictures on their profile. Get a couple of pictures up on your profile as a matter of principle. It's the socially correct thing to do on a dating site. Otherwise, what're you doing here?
I had a belief that people who look at the profiles, look at photos first to see if there is a physical attraction. Many ladies have said that they read the profiles first, so I stand corrected. Then they look at the photos. Hey, I've been wrong before, and I'm used to it. But, that is what I believe (and I don't mind being wrong about you). By the way ladies, if you haven't written but a few sentences in your profile and/or you only have one picture of yourself, we're not a match. I want to chat with/meet/date a woman with more confidence than you're demonstrating.
When I read a profile, I look for humorous writing (One can't take all this that seriously now, can one?), and things that sound interesting. When I look at photos, I'm looking for a smiling face. I'm looking at the eyes (Why would you be wearing sunglasses for a profile pic, even though I have one like that? I have many others that show my eyes). I think it's really silly to post a picture with a grandchild, or a pet, as the very first picture. Guys aren't interested in dating your dog, or meeting your grandchild until after they've met and gotten to know you. Just sayin'...
I have a quick wit, a gentle heart, a competitive nature, a relatively decent singing voice (I like Karaoke), and a good memory for recall. I don't hunt, fish, nor camp (unless of course we're in a camper or RV).
I am finding the following to be true on this dating site, (or any other dating site, for that matter):
1) no one likes drama. Hello! Drama exists! We all avoid it, if possible BECAUSE NO ONE LIKES DRAMA! Deal with it - it makes us who we are; what our character is like.
2) nearly everyone says they can't live without their God, phone, love, or their kids (if they have them)...DUH!!!
3) Almost every woman likes the outdoors. Really! It's True! Very few exceptions. So it should just be a given thing and shouldn't be stated unless you DON"T like the outdoors.
4) Everyone is really good at kissing (some people are lying, otherwise we wouldn't have to mention it!)
5) and almost all women want to meet a guy who is "comfortable in his own skin." or who is "in touch, or "secure" with who they are". A little heads-up ladies...this is "woman-speak" and most men do not have a clue what you are really wanting. How about just saying it, instead of being so cliche. I am who I am; I know my faults and shortcomings; I am confident in what my capabilities are, with little to no exception. Is that what you mean? If not, send me a message and explain it to me. I do not speak Venusian! *snicker*
My Ethnicity is primarily White, and the Native American is from my father's mother's mother (great grandma). The only real way you notice is the pinkish hue to my skin. You could see it more readily when I hold YOUR hand.
Also, I'm sorry to say, I'm a grammar nazi, so please try not to misspell words or use the wrong word to convey a thought. You will short-circuit my brain (SHOW ME YOU CARE!) In other words, don't write "their" when you mean to say "they're" or "there". Such as: 'They're moving their luggage over there!', not "There moving there luggage over there!"...FTHZZZZZTT!!! It's right up there with "your", "you're", and the rarely-mentioned "yore"; "to", "too", and "two", too...er..I mean also!
As of Oct 1, 2013, I have answered 2500+ questions. I just can't stop myself. I may need a psychologist at this point!...(just kidding...maybe!)
I'm a hopeless romantic! I cry at weddings, or when I'm sharing my deepest feelings for/with someone that I care about (OK, I don't bawl my eyes out I'm just a sensitive guy). I've played guitar and sang to my lovers, solely for the romantic notion. I suppose the reference is relative, but I feel it's part of who I am. I'm a "they lived happily ever after" kind of guy! (What a marshmallow!) I'd thoroughly love to please you; to be your lover; to be your mate; to be your friend.
Lastly, for full disclosure, I have been separated for the past three years from my wife (living in different states), but I'm still married. We have just recently agreed to divorce after 18 years (See, I can definitely commit!). I thought my divorce would be finalized by now, but there have been some complications in how our paperwork was completed. It's frustrating, but I'll persevere. I am available emotionally. Like I said; it's been three years!
UPDATE: As of May 8, 2013, the paperwork has been approved for submission to the court for completing the divorce. FINALLY!! This is what happens when you try to complete a do-it-yourself divorce when the parties live in separate states.
Our divorce is amicable, and we are not at war with one another. We just came to a point in our lives where we weren't fulfilling needs for the other. And we couldn't work out a compromise. Irreconcilable differences...it happens.
So I'm looking for the last relationship in my life. Not in a big hurry to find it though. Friends first, then we'll see what happens.
What I'm looking for in my match: I need to be with a woman that believes in God and His son, Jesus Christ. I have wondered if that would be necessary to state here and, apparently, it does.
DEAL-BREAKER ALERT: Alert?...well, it's important to me! If you smoke at all, or use tobacco or marijuana in any form (yeah, it needs to be said), click to the next profile please. You have lost me right there. Even if you only light up once in a blue moon, that's one time too many for me. If you've long-since quit smoking (a year or more, arbitrarily speaking), that's like "no harm-no foul".
I don't apologize for my attitude about it either. Nothing to me, and I mean nothing, is more unattractive about a woman than when she is smoking. Some men think it's erotic. I am not one of them. Nothing more to say about it.
I am overweight (darn it) and I also need a woman that will not judge me for my size. Judge my heart, if you must, because that is where you'll find me. If my size is a problem, we won't work. I want to lose weight, but if you're impatient and superficial, thanks for reading this far. I'll miss you! ("sniff")
I would love to meet someone who can be comfortable holding hands in public and who doesn't mind a little PDA. I won't shy from it and you must be comfy with it or I am not the guy for you. Just a hug and a kiss when we feel like it. I'm a discreet man; I consider myself a gentleman, so I would never go out of my way to embarrass my significant other in public. In addition, I want a lady who is a lady, and acts and dresses the part. Jeans and T-shirt stuff is okay, too, just hangin' out. But I want someone who likes/wants to throw on a dress and a little make-up and go out to a nice dinner.
I want a lover that is not hesitant in saying what feels good, or bad, and will guide me, if necessary, towards her most pleasurable experience. I'm pretty good as a lover (I'd been told), but I'm not a mind-reader. Communication in the bedroom is something I ask. I'm no dummy, and I learn responses quickly. I am all about my lover's pleasure.
Enjoy sports; primarily football and baseball. If you can play golf...BONUS! I am not great; a real duffer, but I've not had someone to play with regularly, EVER!
Do you like John Denver?...Dan Fogelberg?...David Wilcox...The Eagles...America...Jim Croce? This would also be a bonus.
Do ya like seafood?...a good steak?...Moroccan? I'd prefer to take you to dinner before cooking dinner. I'm not much of a cook, but unafraid of the kitchen. I do get nervous when preparing a full meal on my own. I know I can eat my cooking, but can anyone else? (Lacking some confidence there, eh!?) And I hate tomatoes! Only the unprocessed fruit. I can eat tomato soup, salsa, tomato-based sauces, ketchup; even sun-dried tomatoes (to a degree), but not a regular tomato. Sounds weird to most people, but it's a flavor thing.