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30 Brooklyn, NY Man


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  • Ages 18–30
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Last Online
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Asian, White
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Trying to quit
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"Babe we both had dry spells,
hard times in bad lands,
I'm a good man...for ya...
I'm a good man."

A coworker happened upon my Twitter account and said that my self-summary there was absolutely perfect, so I include it now for your edification:
Brooklyn based lighting designer. Caring about things most people never notice and obsessing over ideas nobody else wants to think about.

I tend to exude a certain detached dryness, but I promise that's just a cover.

According to OKCupid I am "more experienced in life" when compared to other "straight men [my] age." Can somebody explain what the fuck that means? Is that code for cynical and world-weary?

Also, does OKCupid put anyone else in mind of The Rime of the Ancient Mariner? Specifically I keep hearing the verse:
Water, water, everywhere,
and all the boards did shrink;
Water, water, everywhere,
nor any drop to drink.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a designer at an architectural lighting design firm. Yes it's a real field, no I'm not an engineer, no I don't design cool media façades with LEDs, no I'm not an architect, yes it's interesting, and no you probably won't care about 90% of what I have to say about it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Knowing the answers to questions nobody cares about.

Most germane to you, dear reader, is that I'm really good at talking about something long after the rest of the room has lost interest.

PS-I can portmantoe-the-line with the best of 'em.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
"You're good at math, right?"

Yes, I am, but that doesn't make you less of a racist asshole.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I think that it's kind of a rip that these are always the prompts/categories for an interests section. What about my favorite designers (I seriously think that reveals more about who I am than the food I like), what about my favorite brand for pens (Uni-ball, Pentel Sign Pens & Staedtler), what about my favorite LED manufacturer (Xicato & Cree), or what about my favorite tree (Japanese Maple). I wonder what it says about our society that "books, movies, music, & food" are the things assumed to be most telling of who we are, or just the thing we will all have specific preferences regarding. Anyway, I digress.

Current Read(s): Lenny Bruce is Dead by Jonathan Goldstein
Previous Read: Your Fathers, Where Are They and The Prophets, Do They Live Forever? by Dave Eggars

Authors: Murakami, Nabokov, Neal Stephenson, John Brunner, Dave Eggars, Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Bill Bryson, and so many more.

Plays (I've seen): Brand New Ancients; Here Lies Love; The Pillowman; Bloody, Bloody Andrew Jackson; The Elaborate Entrance of Chad Deity; Money (at Shunt, message me if you've seen this and want to talk about it...seriously); Take Me Out; Sinner; Betrayal; Crave (ok, only a staged reading, but that's ok for this one in my mind); Question Time; and Play Without Words.

Movies: This list is really, really impossible. It would take up pages & pages. I will say that I deeply identify on a personal level with High Fidelity and on a cultural level with Harold and Kumar Go to White Castle.

TV: I think there has been something of a renaissance in television of late and will shamelessly admit I kind of love it. Mad Men, Battlestar Galactica, Walking Dead, Flight of the Conchords, Game of Thrones, Friday Night Lights, Shameless (US version, haven't seen the UK one yet), The Office (US and UK, though that's not really past five years), The IT Crowd, Downton Abbey, The Trip, and 30 Rock are favorites of the past half-decade. Digging through the archive I find: Firefly, Arrested Development, Sports Night (if you have seen this show and love it we should talk because I am always trying to convince friends (usually unsuccessfully) to watch it), Coupling (UK), and Mr Show to really stand the test of time. Oh, and I have a fondness for HIMYM because I may actually be Ted Mosby.

Music (recently): The Civil Wars, The Head and the Heart, Jukebox the Ghost, Langhorne Slim, Josh Ritter, Frightened Rabbit, Lost in the Trees, Dirty Projectors, Andrew Bird, The New Pornographers, The Jezabels, The Tallest Man on Earth, Bon Iver, Rilo Kiley, Edward Sharpe & the Magnetic Zeros, Hannah Georgas, The Blow, The Mountain Goats, Crooked Fingers, The National, Menomena, Metric, Ben Lee, Belle & Sebastian, Pedro the Lion, The Eels and oh so many more. I'm on if you really want to know.

Radio (ok, Podcasts really): 99PI, This American Life, Wiretap, Wait Wait Don't Tell Me, Radiolab, Freakonomics, Planet Money, The Nerdist, and Car Talk.

Food: Good food. I'm a believer in Michael Pollan's philosophies largely. I eat just about any cuisine.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-Conversation (debate really, but in a friendly-ish way)
-April to November (this past year was a fucking joke, really guys, really?)
-AGI32, Ecotect, AutoCAD, Revit, & CS5 (unfortunately)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Thinking. I'm so very meta.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At a bar with a few friends, having a drink or two and chatting. Or at a friend's place talking. The essential ingredients are friend(s) and conversation, everything else is flexible.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I cry during sappy sports movies.

I judge you for using a head-shot as your OKC profile picture.
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You think it would be fun to sit & have a cup of coffee and watch me be slightly awkward in conversation.

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You will be disappointed if your child does not live up to this standard:

Bonus points: you're kinky and submissive.

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