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36 F Mountain View, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 3:47pm
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Atheism, and very serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
So, I'm not bisexual. I identify as queer. If that doesn't mean anything to you, think homoflexible - mostly gay but open to special people regardless of gender.

I like basically all things nerdy (scifi, D&D, comics, computers, geek culture), playing pool, cheap adventures, watching TV, gender-bending, small-scale shenanigans, and inside jokes.

I'm happy to meet all sorts of friends from this site, especially folks who live in the South Bay or Peninsula.

In the dating/bedroom area, I am most compatible with kinky folks and have a preference for "bigger girls" (I'm a bit of a chubby chaser regardless of gender, actually). But strong connections don't always come in the packages you expect and I don't have a checklist that you must fulfill in order for me to find you attractive/want to date you. In the past, I mostly topped and been exclusively with girls. That is still who I am, but I'm much more exploratory and switchy these days.

As for me in general, I have a more gregarious, outspoken, and non-traditional side - I'm pro-sex workers' rights, gender normativity is not my thing, I have done by share of partying, and I tend to do open relationships. On the other, I am a complete nerd - dedicated to my work, somewhat reclusive, and often wishing and struggling to be like the normals. Blame it on the Gemini in me. We get a bad rap, but I promise I'm almost always a laugh. :)
What I’m doing with my life
Science pays the bills. Rest of the time I try to figure our how to create a sustainable life and self.
I’m really good at

And being shy when I don't know people.

And being ridiculously shy when impressed by mad gaming skills, beautiful rope work, a deep understanding of physics, pretty girls, and making art or music look effortless.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably that I wear glasses. Or often it's that my gender is ambiguous. I am pretty androgynous in mind, body and spirit - with both a masculine side and a newly discovered feminine side.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I haven't been in a heavy reading period (it ebbs and flows with me). But most influential recently have all been non-fiction - Nonviolent Communication, The Geography of Bliss, Switch: How to Change Things when Change is Hard, The Mindsets. For fiction, I generally like sci fi and books that people hand me and tell me I *must* read them (currently working my way through World War Z as an example).

Nothing is jumping out at me that I've seen recently, so here's a random list: Muppet Movie, Easy A, King's Speech, Lars and the Real Girl, Enemy Mine, I <3 Huckabees was really inspiring to me. And I could pretty much watch Forgetting Sarah Marshal ever day and still laugh out loud.

newer love - Lana del Rey, the Editors, We were Promised Jetpacks, Beautiful Small Machines, Jason Webley, Lily Allen, Rilo Kiley
classic love - Pixies, Modest Mouse, David Bowie, Bjork, Juno Reactor
The six things I could never do without
my phone
the internet
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how much time I spend thinking about things.
On a typical Friday night I am
recovering from the work week in the warm glow of my TV. I would love to explore more things locally with a partner in crime...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not as interested in casual sex as I used to be. I like there to be some trust and tender feelings in the mix, whether they be friendly or romantic. Being sex-positive and kinky, I've always gone with it's-never-too-early-to-fuck/play, but I think I'd like to "go slow." You know, like have more than one date first, which in most circles would still not qualify as going slow.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 28–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you want to. Why not? Worse that happens is I don't respond and who cares if a random stranger doesn't respond to some message?