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36 F Mountain View, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 20
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Atheism, and very serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
So, I'm not bisexual. I identify as queer. If that doesn't mean anything to you, think homoflexible - mostly gay but open to special people regardless of gender.

I like basically all things nerdy (scifi, D&D, comics, computers, geek culture), playing pool, cheap adventures, watching TV, gender-bending, small-scale shenanigans, and inside jokes.

I'm happy to meet all sorts of friends from this site, especially folks who live in the South Bay or Peninsula.

In the dating/bedroom area, I am most compatible with kinky folks and have a preference for "bigger girls" (I'm a bit of a chubby chaser regardless of gender, actually). But strong connections don't always come in the packages you expect and I don't have a checklist that you must fulfill in order for me to find you attractive/want to date you. In the past, I mostly topped and been exclusively with girls. That is still who I am, but I'm much more exploratory and switchy these days.

As for me in general, I have a more gregarious, outspoken, and non-traditional side - I'm pro-sex workers' rights, gender normativity is not my thing, I have done by share of partying, and I tend to do open relationships. On the other, I am a complete nerd - dedicated to my work, somewhat reclusive, and often wishing and struggling to be like the normals. Blame it on the Gemini in me. We get a bad rap, but I promise I'm almost always a laugh. :)
What I’m doing with my life
Science pays the bills. Rest of the time I try to figure our how to create a sustainable life and self.
I’m really good at

And being shy when I don't know people.

And being ridiculously shy when impressed by mad gaming skills, beautiful rope work, a deep understanding of physics, pretty girls, and making art or music look effortless.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably that I wear glasses. Or often it's that my gender is ambiguous. I am pretty androgynous in mind, body and spirit - with both a masculine side and a newly discovered feminine side.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I haven't been in a heavy reading period (it ebbs and flows with me). But most influential recently have all been non-fiction - Nonviolent Communication, The Geography of Bliss, Switch: How to Change Things when Change is Hard, The Mindsets. For fiction, I generally like sci fi and books that people hand me and tell me I *must* read them (currently working my way through World War Z as an example).

Nothing is jumping out at me that I've seen recently, so here's a random list: Muppet Movie, Easy A, King's Speech, Lars and the Real Girl, Enemy Mine, I <3 Huckabees was really inspiring to me. And I could pretty much watch Forgetting Sarah Marshal ever day and still laugh out loud.

newer love - Lana del Rey, the Editors, We were Promised Jetpacks, Beautiful Small Machines, Jason Webley, Lily Allen, Rilo Kiley
classic love - Pixies, Modest Mouse, David Bowie, Bjork, Juno Reactor
The six things I could never do without
my phone
the internet
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how much time I spend thinking about things.
On a typical Friday night I am
recovering from the work week in the warm glow of my TV. I would love to explore more things locally with a partner in crime...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm not as interested in casual sex as I used to be. I like there to be some trust and tender feelings in the mix, whether they be friendly or romantic. Being sex-positive and kinky, I've always gone with it's-never-too-early-to-fuck/play, but I think I'd like to "go slow." You know, like have more than one date first, which in most circles would still not qualify as going slow.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 28–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you want to. Why not? Worse that happens is I don't respond and who cares if a random stranger doesn't respond to some message?