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34 San Mateo, CA Man


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25-33
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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My details

Last online
Yesterday – 7:19pm
5' 11" (1.80m)
Body Type
Average build
Atheism and laughing about it
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Russian (Fluently), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Back in 1st grade, when something funny happened but after everyone had already settled down, I would still be laughing. The teacher would try to shame me by saying "Laughter without cause is the sign of a fool" (loose translation of a Russian idiom) - but that didn't help. I'm still kind of like that.

I've never met a compliment I didn't deflect and I don't take myself too seriously. Friends describe me as self-deprecating, goofy, and incurably honest, and tell me that my personality is a nice mix of masculine and feminine traits. Hey, if it wasn't, I wouldn't be admitting it here, right?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Software user experience researcher still learning the mysterious tech culture and all the acronyms.

In my previous life (just a few years ago, not before reincarnation), I was a research psychologist studying romantic relationships, attraction, and emotion, all with an evolutionary twist. It was a weird and interesting combination.

I like hiking, running and ultimate frisbee (when not beset by shin splints), seeking out new music, karaoke, and watching pro basketball and football (fan of Chicago teams). I'm also pretty good at ping pong and chess and therefore like to think of them as sports.

With that said, I'll go for a wide variety of activities and adventures if they involve someone I like a lot. Except scuba diving and rock climbing, I've learned those don't mesh with me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being responsive and getting back to people. If you asked me 3 questions in an email, I won't just randomly ignore 2 of them. Don't you hate when people do that?

Having a pretty bad memory but still knowing how to spell complicated names, remembering your birthday or other important dates, etc.

Retrospectively proofreading emails I already sent, and explaining things on the 2nd try.

Compiling ridiculous quotes from my friends.

Using the "immigrant excuse" selectively, whenever it's convenient to explain why I don't know an obvious pop culture reference.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm the guy opening windows in the car or bus. Sometimes I feel like the only person in the world who appreciates fresh air (in vehicles).

Students who I taught claimed that I made air quote gestures all the time. As a result, they took nothing I said literally.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.

Big part of my life. My favorite songs range from

I have a soft spot for sad, romantic songs. Friends find it odd that I rarely pay attention to lyrics - for me, it's more about the feeling the music and the words produce in combination.

A few favorites: Elliott Smith (probably my favorite musician and a total genius), Beatles, Radiohead, Stevie Wonder, Pink Floyd, New Pornographers, Rolling Stones, XTC, King Crimson, Decemberists, Wilco, Franz Ferdinand, Arcade Fire, Electric Light Orchestra, Depeche Mode, Queen.

I like songs that fade out and movies and books that work on many levels and make us think long after they’re over. If you're into talking about a movie after it ends, we have something in common.

I’m the kind of nerd who’s into sci-fi a lot but superheroes and medieval fantasy not as much (the X-Men movies and Game of Thrones are amazing, though).

A few of my current/recent/old favorites: Ex Machina, Kingsman, Inside Out (feelings have feelings!!), Edge of Tomorrow, Duck Dynasty (just kidding!), Game of Thrones, Arrested Development, Breaking Bad, Curb Your Enthusiasm, The Walking Dead, Archer, and last but not least, Mr. Bean.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Lately, how theoretically awesome but practically underwhelming the idea of online dating is. On the plus side, in real life people don't walk around with "I'm single!" printed on their foreheads, but here they kind of do. This eliminates the hand-wringing about finding out if someone is single. On the minus side, the average girl here receives dozens of crappy/creepy messages a week, while the average guy here works hard to send those messages.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging out with friends for dinner, a movie, and some involved conversation. Most of the time, I'm glad to let others choose the activities and happily go along with them.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I tend to put on a sort of happy/silly face in public. I have a significant self-reflective/melancholy/romantic streak but usually only share it once I am closer with someone.

Also, I will obsessively rate music albums on a 1-10 scale. If you think that's bad, I know someone who rates them in Base 16.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over. are warm, sincere, smart and can crack a good inappropriate joke. Niiice use "haha" instead of "lol". This one is massively important.'re somewhat clumsy and bump into things. know that there's a setting in between "heat" and "A/C" in cars called "fan". Apparently, not knowing this is a real thing. Oh, Americans.