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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 27–42
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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5′ 11″ (1.81m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Politics / Government
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
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I value justice, play, creativity and kindness, and believe that the way one treats people is a person’s currency in the world. I strive to be empathetic, honest and kind...but when push comes to shove, I’ll usually choose kindness over honesty. When I don’t live up to these ideals, I try and own up to it and apologize.

Also, (while I know they’re all destined to fail)...I am fascinated by and believe in utopias.

Born in Cape Town but immigrated to the US when I was six, so I don’t really remember it... Culturally Jewish, but practicing atheist (assuming, that is that atheism can be "practiced")... Have spent my adult life yo-yoing between San Francisco and Seattle... Landscape architecture, urban design, cities and maps... Read the newspaper online, follow local politics, vote... Heart periodicals... Periodically losing my glasses (making me occasionally myopic)... Hablo Español, pero escribo y leer lo de mierda.... Close to family... Wish I understood very complex mathematics because it’s the secret language of the universe.

I like crows and shiny things.
What I’m doing with my life
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Work-wise, I'm an urban designer. My work kind of sits at the intersection between policy and design with a focus on improving the City's public realm (streets, plazas, building façades etc.) by making it more pretty, sustainable and welcoming to all. I work on a pretty eclectic mix of projects, which is good for me because I think I’m mildly ADD. Part of my work involves co-managing a program I helped create that makes/curates temporary arty architectural installations in San Francisco.

Outside of work, I also enjoy dicking around on my guitar, biking, going to artsy/designee events, reading, hagin’ tough w/ my friends and reading Lately, I’ve been getting into surfing and I totally love it. I just learned how to stand up which was huuuuugley exciting.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cerebral conversation, puerile conversation, run-on sentences, excessive use of parentheses and exclamation points (the pernicious influence of the blogs!!!), spatial thinking, changing around the furniture in your living room, telling you jokes I've already told you before, walking (this is not a joke), designing things, making eggs, biking, taking you on a Vespa ride, flânerie.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My endearing wit, my piercing blue eyes and that stain on my
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Reads: I mostly read contemporary fiction and narrative journalism. I also have a weakness for overly designed architectural theory books and formulaic tween adventure stories.

Film and Teevee: I prefer witty comedies/dramas of the Wess Anderson, Cohen Brothers or Miranda July sort. I don't do so well with graphic violence or horror (see below). I haven't owned a TV since I left my parent's house, which was pretty edgy in the 90's but pretty meaningless today thanks to the Internet. That said, I don’t really watch much TV. Every now and then I'll voraciously consume an HBO series (i.e. Silicone Vally).

Music: I mostly listen to indie rock and tranquil electronic music. Especially bands that weave a dense melodic tapestry that evokes a sort-of wistful nostalgia. Recent favorites include Beach House, Goat, Ratatat, Alt-J and Pussy Riot.

Food: I tend to buy organic at the grocery store, but am pretty much always more than happy to scarf down a taco from god knows where. I am not a vegetarian and like it very spicy.

Note: This should probably go in "The most private thing I'm willing to admit" section, but I have recently taken to culling band and book recommendations from the profiles of would-be dreamboats such as yourself :)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My bike
My transit blogs
Double 8 oz americanos
The amber sunlight and long shadows on September afternoons
The Australian Irony Bird
That quiet electric moment before our first kiss
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I really enjoy admiring utility access panel covers. It's my new hobby!

AND: How bureaucracies learn.

AND: I'm convinced that the OKC profile is the defining literary form of our cultural moment.

AND: "I'm not a hipster...I'm Popomo!"
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My friday nights are entirely typical and utterly cliché. I'm either out and about with friends (most likely at a restaurant, dive bar or artsy/designee event), having a quiet night in reading or galloping around the city on my pet unicorn (I'd introduce you, but she's skittish around "cultivated women". Sorry.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Yeesh, where to start:

I loath scary movies (like PG-13 scary) and when forced to watch them, curl up in the fetal position, squint my eyes and block my ears with my fingers. This has created issues w/ former girlfriends who want me to hold their hands during the scary bits.

Also, this.
You should message me if
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You're smart, creative, playful, empathetic and kind. I have a thing for girls with critical thinking skills.

OR! If you don't know how to rotate photographs on a computer. Nobody should miss out on a chance to find love because her picture is oriented 90 degrees the wrong way. It looks silly.