Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I want to believe in a kind of simplistic ‘playground morality’,
where the vast majority of ethical dilemmas we find ourselves in
(ranging from national tax policy to the latest drama at work) are
actually way less complex than we give them credit for being. It
can basically be summed up like this: If you have two children and
only one piece of candy, you either break it in half or nobody gets
Except...I don't. The world is complex and situations get
complicated. And that metaphor is paper thin. Maybe the candy can't
be broken, or there are 16 children, or any number of other
possible extenuating circumstances. So I try to be as fair as
possible, and treat people with dignity.
I do however believe that the way one treats people is a person’s
currency in the world. I strive to be empathetic, honest and
kind...but when push comes to shove, I’ll usually choose kindness
over honesty. When I don’t live up to these ideals, I try and own
up to it and apologize.
Finally, (while I know they’re all destined to fail)...I am
fascinated by and believe in utopias.
Born in Cape Town but immigrated to the US when I was six, so I
don’t really remember it... Culturally Jewish, but practicing
atheist (assuming, that is that atheism can be "practiced")... Have
spent my adult life yo-yoing between San Francisco and Seattle...
Landscape architecture, urban design, cities and maps... Read the
newspaper online, follow local politics, vote... Am constantly
measuring sidewalk widths by counting the control joints in the
concrete... Heart periodicals... Periodically losing my glasses
(making me occasionally myopic)... Hablo Español, pero escribo
y leer lo de mierda.... Close to family... Wish I understood
very complex mathematics because it’s the secret language of the
I like crows and shiny things.
What I’m doing with my life
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I moved back to SF a couple of years ago after a 7 year sojourn to
Seattle for grad school and a few years of poking around up there
getting my socks damp. I still find myself fascinated when the rain
stops, and delighted to be living in this jewel of a city that so
exemplifies both the beautiful and sublime
; and where the soft
shifting light imbues within me with a sense of wonder, nostalgia
Job-wise, I'm an urban designer. My work kind of sits at the
intersection between policy and design with a focus on improving
the City's public realm (streets, plazas, building façades etc.) by
making it more livable, sustainable and pretty.
My days are spent frittering away your hard earned tax dollars by
replacing your precious parking spot with natural drainage systems
and wee pedestrian (but not pedestrian!) plazas.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
cerebral conversation, puerile conversation, run-on
excessive use of parentheses and exclamation points (the
influence of the blogs!!!), reading novels, spatial thinking,
changing around the furniture in your living room, making up
singing the song I've just made up in the shower, whistling,
telling you jokes I've already told you before, walking (this
not a joke), graphic design, urban design, making eggs,
around town, taking you on a Vespa
The first things people usually notice about me
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My endearing wit, my piercing blue eyes and that stain on my
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Reads: I mostly read contemporary fiction
and narrative journalism. I also have a weakness for overly
designed architectural theory books and formulaic tween adventure
Film and Teevee: I prefer witty
comedies/dramas of the Wess Anderson, Cohen Brothers or Miranda
July sort, though I also enjoy slapstick ones of the Ben Stiller
sort. I don't do so well with graphic violence or horror (see
I haven't owned a TV since I left my parent's house which was
pretty edgy in the 90's but pretty meaningless today thanks to the
internet. Like pretty much everybody else in the public sector, I
watch Parks and Recreation (I especially like the scenes when they
hold public meetings). Every now and then I'll voraciously consume
an HBO series, guzzling a full season in the span of a few
Music: I mostly listen to indie rock and
tranquil electronic music. Especially bands that weave a dense
melodic tapestry that evokes a sort-of wistful nostalgia. Recent
favorites include Beach House, Goat, Ratatat, Alt-J and Pussy
Food: I tend to buy organic at the
grocery store, but am pretty much always more than happy to scarf
down a taco from god knows where. I am not a vegetarian and like it
Note: This should probably go in "The most
private thing I'm willing to admit" section, but I have recently
taken to culling band and book recommendations from the profiles of
would-be dreamboats such as yourself :)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Brother Brubru's African Hot Sauce
My transit blogs
Double 8 oz americanos
The Australian Irony Bird
That quiet electric moment before our first kiss
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I really enjoy admiring utility access panel covers. It's my new
hobby! I've also been trying to teach myself the violin so
sometimes I think about whether my neighbors are enjoying the
minuet I'm banging out in the crepuscular.
AND: How bureaucracies learn.
AND: I'm convinced that the OKC profile is the defining literary
form of our cultural moment.
AND: "I'm not a hipster...I'm Popomo!"
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My friday nights are entirely typical and utterly cliché. I'm
either out and about with friends (most likely at a restaurant,
dive bar or artsy/designee event), having a quiet night in reading
or galloping around the city on my pet unicorn
(I'd introduce you, but
she's skittish around "cultivated women". Sorry.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Where to start:
I loath scary movies (like PG-13 scary) and when forced to watch
them, curl up in the fetal position, squint my eyes and block my
ears with my fingers. This has created issues w/ former girlfriends
who want me to hold their hands during the scary bits.
You should message me if
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You're smart, creative, playful, empathetic and kind. I have a
thing for girls with critical thinking skills.
OR! If you don't know how to rotate photographs on a computer.
Nobody should miss out on a chance to find love because her picture
is oriented 90 degrees the wrong way. It looks silly.
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