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godotwewait

43 Chicago, IL Man

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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 26–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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Apr 25
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My self-summary
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I am an artist, playwright and performer. I have worked with the same theater company for 14 years as playwright, dramaturgue, and mentor. I have two degrees in fine art and I create video installations, books, prints, draw and continue to focus on my work as I get older.

I am pretty multi-faceted. I am really supportive sensitive, creative, very serious minded and yet have a good sense of humour and a very loud laugh that is contagious if you get me going.

I am a "Highly Sensitive Person" which means I need a lot of down time and creative outlets. "Highly Sensitive Person" also means a recovering Neurotic, which I my career path is nare-do-well artist, entre-manure.

I love nature, hiking and camping. Although I don't do it enough. I am originally from a rural area in southern Illinois.
What I’m doing with my life
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I write plays and act in them. I make installation art. I also work with disabled children as an educator and co-colaborator in artistic projects.

I buy sell and collect designer furniture but am not making enough money. I have entered into the design resale multiple times over the years to make cash and then quit again to make art.

I have worked mainly in the performing arts but am now shifting towards installation, video art, and printmaking.

I am a bisexual rights activist. I speak out so people may love whomever they want! I have been assisting in organizing bi event at the Center on Halsted. This is an important aspect of my life as I find it important to help people who don't fit into the LGBTQIA mainstream.
I’m really good at
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I am a really good performer/actor, dramatic writer, and visual artist; (animation, video, drawing, printmaking) I am sometimes a great listener and rely on that skill for my work as an educator and artist. However I have also been known to be a "long talker". I can be a little OCD at times. I also cook well but really do so these days only when I have others to cook for.

I can take very complex information and communicate it in a way that most people will understand.

I love mushroom hunting but have never found "the place" in the Northern Illinois State Parks. I will try again this spring.

I have a very good eye for designer furniture or purchasing high end items at estate sales or rumage sales. But I am also trying to break the habit to focus more on my art work.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am tall and big, in my past life I was a football player and gave it up for art.

So people have been scared of me because of my size, perhaps it was the bear hug.

But I really am a gentle giant.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I will start the list and add to it overtime: Joseph Beuys, Ann Hamilton, Joyce, Beckett, Carl Jung, Marie Von Franz, Sigmund Freud, David Lynch, Steve Roach, Brian Eno, John Cage, Morton Feldman, Gilles Deleuze, Tennesse Williams, Heinrik Ibsen, Goya, William Blake, Augusto Boal, Jerzy Grotowski, Ernst Krenek, Paul Klee, Gertrude Stein, Lewis Hyde (Trickster makes this world), Michel Foucault (yes I like the Pomo with the transcendentalists)

Food: Really good corned beef, salmon cream cheese red onion capers and bagel, MOREL Mushrooms!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Other than lifes essentials: journal/sketchbook,
love
a spiritual connection
friendship
a good imagination
a sense of humour
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The inner workings of people.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Seeing a play, performance art, and gallery event.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Ask me anything you want when we meet I am pretty open person but somethings I prefer keeping closer to my chest.
You should message me if
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If you want really good conversations.

If you value intimacy/love/connection and sensuality

If you are a kind loving person.

If you are looking for a long term life partner. Someone to build a life with. I have been in both long term monogomous and long term polyamorous relationships. My primary value is a committed partner but I am also open to open and poly relationships as well.

Emotional maturity and safety are very important to me in a partner. A commitment to personal growth through relationship is also important. I have 14 years of therapy under my belt which means I am not perfect. But it has helped gain insight into myself and others.

I really mean "non-monosexual queers" or bisexual and pansexual men and women but there is not an option for that. This includes bisexual women, FTM transmen, non-binary genderqueer people, MTF women, and bi guys. Part of the reason I am on here is to create a community of loving compassionate caring friends. And perhaps a friend who becomes more than a friend. I love all kinds of people - a soulful connection with a like minded spirit is what I am looking for.

My hope ultimately is to find my best friend and partner rolled into one. Someone who will be supportive as I pursue my goals as an artist and writer.