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48 West Mifflin, PA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 35–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 5:07am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Has a kid
Has dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Hi! My name is John. I'm 6' tall, 205-210 pounds, have a shaved head and sometimes a goatee. I have brown (actually, and sadly, increasingly gray) hair when I'm not shaving my head, and blue eyes whether I'm shaving my head or not. The goatee comes off sometimes whenever I screw up while trimming it, but it always comes back...unless I decide to leave it off for a while. Like now.

I'm in pretty decent shape, not so bad to look at (although I'll leave that one up to you), and a very young 48 in both my appearance and my actions. I'm about as honest and open as they come, treat people how I'd like to be treated, and am a pretty good guy all-around. References available upon request.

I like to keep active. I run, rollerblade, work out, bike, play softball and play a lot of racquetball. I have a grown daughter who lives in New York with her two daughters (yes, I'm a grampa, and I LOVE it), and I'm owned by the coolest Golden Retriever on the planet (Eric), who makes me walk him and take him to the park on weekends. But as much as I like to keep myself moving, I'm equally happy to kick back on the couch and relax, preferably with some good company. A movie and a bottle of wine, anyone?

Relationship-wise, I'm open to anything that may come my way. I think it's better to find the person first and then see what kind of relationship develops from there, rather than choosing the relationship type first and then trying to find someone who fits into that narrow definition. If I make a friend, fantastic. If I do some dating, also fantastic. And if the right woman comes along and I feel that indescribable "click"...well, you never know what could happen.

I'm hoping to meet someone who is fun, active, attractive (to me, anyway), relatively fit, younger than me, doesn't smoke and just likes to enjoy life. Someone who enjoys living for the moment, is honest, open, doesn't play head games and is not carrying around emotional baggage that precludes her from moving forward. Someone who understands the importance of communication in a relationship and is not afraid to open herself up to someone new and all the possibilities that may bring. And most of all, someone who likes to smile, because I'm the kind of guy who likes to put a smile on a woman's face and keep it there. Smokers, dog-haters, racists, homophobes, and dishonest people need not apply.

BTW, to clear up any confusion, if you "smoke only when drinking," or "smoke, but only one or two here and there," you're still a smoker, and I wouldn't be interested. Sorry, but that's a deal-breaker.

All types of relationships start with a simple "hello," so if you like what you see here, shoot me a note and let's see where that initial hello takes us. Have a picture posted, or send me one with your first email, please. After all, I have mine posted, and fair is fair.

If I don't reply, please don't be offended. Take it as a, "Thank you for your interest, but I don't think we'd be a match." Some women who I've respectfully passed on have been pretty unpleasant in their reactions to that. So, again, if I choose to not respond, "Thank you for your interest, but I don't think we'd be a match."

Thanks for reading, and best of luck to everyone!
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm working as a computer programmer and am in the process of learning new languages and technologies so I can further my career.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making enchiladas. :) And a handful of other things. I like finding new recipes, making them, and then altering them to make them better.

I'm also not too shabby at racquetball. I love to play, and my game has gotten to be a good bit better over the past year or so. I'm still far from great, but I can more than hold my own.

I'm also pretty good at throwing tennis balls from my couch into my dining room. My dog Eric make sure I get lotsa practice at that, so I have to give him credit for that one.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Physically, it's my eyes. Also, my cool haircut.

Personality-wise, it's that I'm a very fun and playful person. And after spending some time with me, they see that I'm honest to a fault and am the kinda person they can trust and confide in.

It can sometimes take me a little time to warm up to someone new, but then there are times where I just turn it up to 11 from the get-go. Different people bring out different aspects of my personality. Which side of me will YOU bring out?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm not a reader, but I did love "Marley and Me."

My taste in music and movies all over the place. Some favorites would include:

Music: Prince, Springsteen, Disturbed, Ingrid Michaelson, Lily Allen, house/techno stuff, '80s music and many, many others. Seriously...the list goes on and on. And on. And on. And on. Oh, you get the idea. :) If you looked through my iPod, you'd think I suffered from a multiple-personality disorder.

Movies: Mostly comedies or psychological thrillers. All-time favorites include "American Beauty," "Chasing Amy," the "Saw" series, "Airplane!" and Monty Python movies.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Why six? That's an odd number to pick, isn't it? Why not five or ten? Six? Okay. Six. I'll play along.

1) My dog. I loves me my woofer. No matter how lousy my day may be, when I come home to his wagging tail, everything is instantly better.

2) My computer. I'm a computer programmer and absolutely love what I do.

3) My family and close friends. I consider them to be one group. My closest friends are "family" to me and I'd do anything for them.

4) My front-row season tickets for the Pirates. How 'bout dem Bucs!!! I love baseball and love watching it live. I also watch a lot on TV when I'm not at a ballpark.

5) My racquetball racquet. Kinda hard to play racquetball without one. Actually, you can, but I think they call that "Handball," and it's not as much fun.

6) My landline phone. I'd like to get rid of it and be a cell-only kinda guy, but I can't. I'm always misplacing my Droid, so I'm frequently calling it with my landline phone so I can find it by following the ring. Pathetic, huh?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Where I want my life to be five years from now and what I need to do in order to get there. Both personally and professionally.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually at home. When I go out to play on a weekend, it's typically a Saturday night. In general, after working all week, I like to stay in on Fridays. But I do make exceptions if the temptation is tempting enough.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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There are three movies that make me cry:

"Marley and Me." Several parts of that one get to me.

"Field of Dreams." Where he plays catch with his dad at the end. I'd give anything to play catch with my dad just one more time.

"Snoopy Come Home." Where Snoopy comes home. Don't make fun of me. Eh, whatever. Make fun of me, if you like. I can take it.
You should message me if
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You're fun, you're playful, you're honest, you're attractive and you're open to meeting new people and whatever may happen to come your way. Friendship maybe, dating maybe, and if there's a "click" there, something bigger and better.

Or hey...maybe you're just bored and feel like saying "hi" to someone. There's a pretty good chance I'll say "hi" back. :)

You should NOT message me if:

- You're a smoker.
- You're a drug user.
- You're a liar.
- You're a dog hater.
- You're more than 45 minutes or so from me.
- Your cell phone would turn our date into a threesome.
- You have your toilet paper falling down behind the roll instead of over the top, as it should be.

(Okay, I'll PROBABLY let that last one slide, but really...if you do that, you should go fix it. Now.)