You'll always know where I stand, as I hate pretense, but I may seem a contradictory mash up: I'm opinionated, yet open-minded. I am a romantic pragmatist, and I maybe I coined the term (thank you). I am a sensitive person, which I consider a strength, most of the time. I am a very physical and sensual person, but not a "fling" kinda 'gal. I take responsibility for my happiness and strive to make others feel good about themselves. I can be super silly, but also overly serious. Gentle and sweet, but mentally a tough cookie.
At heart I am a city girl and I would like to meet a fellow urban dweller, someone who lives IN or NEAR the city. I appreciate animals and I think they bring joy and companionship, but I'm not a pet person. (I was bit by a dog.) I'm allergic to cats. I could deal with a fish or lizard, but a lizard doesn't seem like it would be much of a companion. Who knows?
I'm still searching for a mantra (I misplaced mine); however, I try to live by this thought:
"If you plan on being anything less than you are capable of being, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life."
What I'm looking for. . .
In a nutshell: A guy who will ask me how I'm doing and care about my answer. A collaborator. A deep thinker who doesn't take life too seriously, which is rather a paradox, I realize. I could go for someone who believes that compromise is essential to a solid relationship. Maybe a person who has done some self exploration, lived a bit and is in the right space for a real relationship.
If I had to list three non-negotiables in a romantic partner, they would be: passion, intelligence and emotional availability. I'm fine with odd humor and eccentricity, but that does not mean crazy. Okay, not too crazy. I have a bit of a weakness for men in glasses, but specs are just a bonus. . . a bonus that will get me smiling and making goo goo eyes at you.
I live a healthy and an active lifestyle; it just makes me happy. I do best with a partner who shares a love of movement and whole foods, with occasional indulgences, obviously! You don't need to be Captain Fitness, just practice moderation and enjoy doing something physical most days.