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gottaloveEm

25 / F / Gay / Single

Buffalo, New York

Her Details

Last Online
Today – 5:49pm
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 5″ (1.66m).
Body Type
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Religion
Atheism and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Sagittarius and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on masters program
Job
Student
Income
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Full disclosure: I'm genderqueer identified, and my preferred pronouns are they/them/their. If you have any questions as to what this means, please ask me.

I don't really believe in absolutes, but nevertheless, I am on a constant mission to find truths - as much as truths can exist without absolutes. I try to share these truths and spread knowledge in an effort to help make the world a better, safer, less messed-up place. I want to make the world and the future a better place and time. Which is idealistic and cliche. I'm not trying to do this through looking to the past, though, because I firmly believe that "the good old days" were far shittier than the present, and I'm definitely not nostalgic for anything other than 90's pop culture. Additionally, I think general nostalgia is the gateway to social conservatism, which is the Scourge of Humanity in my humble opinion.

I am a feminist and I generally love cats more than people. I should have a terminal degree in procrastination, and I am really good at arts and crafts.

I am fiercely loyal to my friends, and I would probably go insane if I was not extremely busy most of the time. I'm snarky and sarcastic, but not nasty or cruel. I just don't like to keep my thoughts to myself, especially when they are so goddamn funny all the time. I'm unapologetically blasphemous, and I have a problem with people who don't swear. When I was a child, adults had a tendency to underestimate me, and to this day I hate that more than anything.

I'm incredibly awkward. I think it's cute and is working for me, but you should be the judge of that, not me.

I am an INFP/ENFP (the E and the I were pretty much tied, 47-53.)

I think I sound a lot more arrogant than I actually am in this blurb, but then I can't really be objective, as I have a considerable amount of bias.
What I’m doing with my life
I am working on my masters in Global Gender Studies at UB. I expect to finish in 2015. After I finish my masters, I intend to continue on and earn my PhD. If that fails, I will try to enter the nonprofit world or go into student affairs.
I’m really good at
Being a good friend. Cheating at Italian cooking. Tumblring. Writing. Being sarcastic. Finding torrents. Reading. Watching shitty TV crime dramas. Everything to do with macaroni and cheese. Arts and crafts. (I can make a boondoggle keychain the size of my wrist, and I am also very good at macrame. My glue gun is the size of a Glock and I have a rainbow of duct tape left over from my Girl Scout camp days.) Pissing off Catholics by existing. Napping. Procrastinating. I'm really a jack of all trades. Clearly.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have really dark, expressive eyes and I wear my emotions on my sleeve. Or maybe my hipster glasses. Which is still sort of my eyes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: Temperance Brennan Novels, Siddhartha, The Scarlet Letter, The Color Purple, Stone Butch Blues.

Movies: Stardust, Saved!, Big Fish, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, But I'm a Cheerleader!, Les Miserables, The Truman Show, St. Trinian's, D.E.B.S., Penelope, American History X, Dirty Girl, Better Than Chocolate, Dark Shadows. (It should be noted that I don't like Jim Carrey though. I like the theoretical and philosophical struggles of the two aforementioned films featuring said actor.) Also, I LOVE CAMPY STUFF SO MUCH.

TV Shows: Castle, Bones, Awkward.

Music: I am not super into music. This is not to say I don't like it, just that my life doesn't revolve around it and I don't judge others on their musical tastes, just like I don't want people to judge me based on mine. Some stuff I like is Florence + the Machine, Foxes, Bon Iver, Cat Power, Niki and the Dove, Lana Del Rey, Marina and the Diamonds, and Tegan and Sara. When I am studying or writing I really like the "psybient" playlist on Songza. (By the way, if you love music and haven't checked out Songza, you really should. You will not be sorry.) I like 90's music of several varieties as well. Oh, and my Happy Place song is Under Pressure by Queen and David Bowie. (I may be a giant fruitcake not-so-underneath it all.)

Food: Blueberry iced tea, cheese, Italian food, sushi, and burritos.
The six things I could never do without
Communication, friendships, dancing, the ability to read, compassion, and love (not necessarily romantic love, just love as opposed to hate and in conjunction with peace and interpersonal relationships).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Things I should blog about, things I read on Tumblr, how strange it is that we as a culture keep supporting hegemonic patriarchal systems, gourmet cheese, queer theory, and future. Both my own and our collective.
On a typical Friday night I am
Still genderqueer.

Probably dancing.

If I'm not out with friends, I am probably relaxing at home, possibly wondering why I don't like going out to bars or clubs alone, then realizing that that is probably one of the few things about me that is probably normal.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Sometimes I really do care what people think, but I will still go out of my way to make sure everyone thinks I don't care about their opinion of me. Also, I'm much harder to get to know than I like to let on.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 21–32
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners
You should message me if
You want to.

You want to write Judith Butler quotes and/or draw trees on each other.

You think we're sexually compatible and/or that we could be good friends in real life.

You have a Tumblr or blog I should read and/or want to read mine.