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35 Oakland, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 36–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 13
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Yiddish

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My self-summary
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i am an arbiter of style and a native of brooklyn, and happily returned to the city by the bay. brooklyn has pockets of awesome but the easy bay is heaven. i refer to intense inspirational shares as ~streams of consciousness~. i love words (conspicuous, reckon, trousers, innocuous and queue, to name a few) but suck at crossword puzzles.

I'm pretty introspective and thoughtful. Are we all old souls? Consider myself perpetual student and like being around people I can learn from. while i do tend to have a more serious disposition, it means i get shit done and enjoy laughter and those quick to smile. i fancy myself an admirer of whimsy, if not myself whimsical. I am quick to identify as quirky

I am pretty outgoing and social though need down time like anyone else. I love massage and little PDAs and seek out others who are able to own their baggage. i.e. you've done some personal development/are able to learn from your actions and the like.

some things i love: Amsterdam, tulips, Art Deco, French cinema, shades of purple, poutine, the burner ethos, british slang, edamame, glitter, unadulterated laughter, colors, facepaint, cuddles, the sky & smell in the air just before a thunderstorm, personality tests (i'm an ENFJ ), scent of jasmine and most night blooms, fizzy water, rose anything, photography, any book in the taschen series, yoga, rioja wine, dinner parties, & vintage clothes.

some things that i do not like: loud people, dust bunnies, following the crowd, litter, tobacco, reality tv, and poor spelling.

"We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are." - Anaïs Nin
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Finding my way in the east bay, trying to relinquish need for control, seeking out good people, nurturing solid friendships and creating beauty, cuz i am kinda crafty ;-)

Some might say I lead a charmed life. I engage easily and identify as extroverted. I am blessed by my friends and community. I seek to give my best and am rewarded in kind.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
putting others at ease, connecting across social circles, communicating, putting together a fantastic look, taking photos, making introductions, styling, collaging, photoshop, hanging with wee ones - love their honesty
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Sometimes my outfit, others my expression
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
reads: design books (future art director in the making?!) david sedaris, malcolm gladwell
flix: amelie, rainman, secretary, breakfast at tiffany's, mary poppins, chaos, shawshank redemption, dances with wolves,
tubage: dexter, weeds, arrested dev, pushing daisies, curb your enthusiasm, bored to death
tunage: thievery corporation, imogen heap, adele, mariam and amadou, pink martini, idan raichel, morcheeba, astrid gilberto, gotan project,
foodie:, thai and french fusion, moroccan, indian, gourmet grilled cheese, anything someone else cooks with intention for me, -- does this really tell you all that much about me as person?!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This seems like a throwaway question depending on how literal one answers.

Things that when absent make for a less-enjoyable life: sunshine, being independent, cheeses!, human touch,
music, feeling understood, companionship
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why do we all turn mute in elevators? Who decided pointy shoes were in? I like the notion of karma but really, why do good people get screwed? With the rent inflation, is it only a matter of time before more of us are homeless? Why are we here?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
if i am feeling jewy, having shabbat dinner with friends (my chosen family, bio fam on the other coast). On a solstice, with my fellow peeps at an all night celebration (I'm yawning just thinking about it). Most likely taking it as it comes and savoring the slow
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't tend to like poetry. Would that I did appreciate it more, perhaps you can share your favorite Rumi or Khalil Gibran?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
* you are emotionally available.
* you are kind.
* you are tactile.
* you are assertive *and* have a sensitive side.
* you appreciate nuances.
* you know the value of good dental hygiene
* you are just the right mix of self-effacing and cheeky
* you have something to share or impart
* you have a good balance of sobriety and celebration with the spirits
* we have a 90% +/- match

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