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gqbane

38 Charlotte, NC Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Gay men only
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Oct 8
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity, and laughing about it
Sign
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on university
Job
Sales / Marketing
Income
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Might want kids
Pets
Dislikes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
You know you've grown up when:

PBS music specials actually intrigue you. You get your first gray hair. You'd rather listen to NPR than the top 40. You finally fathom that channel surfing is borne of frustration not attention deficit. The three letter word you fixate on is NAP. You comprehend why age and treachery will always trump youth and beauty. And that tact is for those who do not understand sarcasm.

So I wanted this to be blithe, but I find that soul baring is not my forte. Granted I admit I was less than thrilled to have a gray hair of my very own. But the thought of aging gracefully seems to be easier for the male sex. Not without its shortcomings mind you, I mean who is really thrilled by the prospect of ear, nose, and toe hair? But I don't feel the biological clock tick, tick, ticking. The pull, pull, pull, of the covers, and the toss, turn, sigh of a sleepless spouse are another story.

I do feel a disconnect from those younger than myself, and perplexed by an apparent lack of work ethics. I don't seem to connect to music on MTV or the radio as I once did. Although my lifelong obsession with literature has yet to be satiated.

I am clever, cunning, persnickety, and intense. Surrounded by close friends and a glass of Champagne and I am effervescent.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am midstream in a BFA degree with concentrations in both painting and ceramics. Currently my full time job keeps food on the table and shelter over my head. It also lets me support my sneaker fetish. Drat Nieman Marcus and the First Call Sales Event.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Turning your words against you. Pointing out the obvious. Intentionally giving bad directions. Channeling my road rage. Spending large sums of money at Target, Home Depot, and Neiman Marcus - because I do not discriminate. Good design does not require an unlimited budget.

While all of these are snippets of my personality, they neglect to really answer the question. I won't pretend that this is due to some sense of humility. It's not. I admit that I sold out for the American ideal -- a house, a comfortable job, and a devoted spouse.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My bubble butt, for a white boy the gods were generous. My sarcasm. And an impeccable ability to put my foot in my mouth.

I'm not as negative as I appear, just know that I have high standards and only associate with others of the same caliber. Quality not quantity. Ignore the fact that OKcupid thinks I am pessimistic, more of a realist. Bad things happen to good people, and good things happen to bad people. My sense of humor is just biting, and I go for the jugular.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
(A) Thirteen Reasons Why, The Midnight Circus, Atlas Shrugged, To Kill a Mockingbird, Creepy Suzie, Confessions of a bleachy haired honky Bitch, Naked, Great Gatsby, A Night in Lonesome October, & Harry Potter. Edith Warton has never failed in my book either so I would have to inlude House of Mirth. The Abhorsen trilogy. Holly Black's modern faire tales.

(B) Empire Records, Cruel Intentions, Devil Wears Prada, Interview with a Vampire, A question of Love, Latter Days, Bring it On, Marie Antoinette - Notice the Kirsten Dunst Theme. Notice the omission of Spiderman. I make it a matter of habit to avoid blockbusters like the mind numbing, rehashed, second rate fare that it is. Unless it is a horror movie like SCREAM - then I'm just too scared. Kidding - I watch them to learn pointers in survival. For example never leave a room and say "I'll be right back." Even if you have to go the bathroom; really, really, really bad. Kevin Wiliamson is a genius.

(C) Stellastarr*, Florence + the Machine, Garbage, Gotye, Depeche Mode,Sarah McLachlan, Alanis Morissette, Annie Lennox, Eurythmics, Madonna, Delerium, Imogen Heap, Heart, Lisa Loeb, Chantel Kraviazuk, Shirley Bassey, Eddi Reader, Blondie, Tori Amos, Jewel, & the entire Buffy soundtrack.

(D) Mostly Italian foods, sushi, artisnal breads, and anything breaded and fried. Never met a cheesecake I didn't like. Chocolate is like sex, even when its bad; its still pretty good. Big sugar addict - not so much for candy but crave donuts, cakes, and cookies multiple times daily. I love diet coke and yes I do it just for the taste of it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
There is only one tangible thing:Chocolate. Take that however you will, considering the allusion above.

But the traits that make me, well me:

Ambition, Ingenuity, Style, Taste, and the joy that comes from hearing classical music, catchy pop, power ballads, and the raw emotion that spans all genres contained in one ipod.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The sheer stupidity of the human race; and how it is spreading like a disease. How much debt the country is in. The failing of the social security system. Global warming. How come I like Okra but not grits? What to have on my Subway sandwich? How come crop pants for men made it to the runway?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
As awful as it sounds I have worked nearly every Friday night for the past five years. Which would imply that I have no social life but that is completely untrue. I have always been considered a social butterfly, but tend to stay ahead of the curve. I'm more of a trendsetter than a follower. Trust me Sundays - they're making a comeback.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Remember the two truths and one lie game - reverse it:

I liked Madonna a lot more when she was honest enough to admit that she wanted to rule the world!

I still listen to Britney Spears.

Being called vain, conceited, or selfish is something I wear as a badge. I'll take it more as a compliment than a criticism.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You get offended easily or you only type with one hand. Because I find that habit particularly helpful in conversations. You have the courage to make the first move.

Check out my blog:
http://goodnevili.blogspot.com/