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57 Portland, OR Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 52–64
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Jun 30
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and laughing about it
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I sit, smiling and savoring, looking out the window at the landscape receiving our vital Portland rain. The inward journey is welcomed in this envelope, and I treasure it. I tend toward introspection and find the world a wonderful place in which to explore- both the places I experience around me and the awareness gained internally through the world I touch.

I am at home in the world and love to move comfortably about in it. I struggle with my own demons but strive to employ useful strategies for learning and growth rather than allowing myself to sink into despair over my inadequacies. I am not proud of everything I've ever done; I am pleased to be the person I have become through mistakes and blunders as well as through compassion and acceptance. I could be kinder to myself and know that it is my own responsibility to find health and balance.

My aging body reminds me that a well-cared-for vessel is the best container for a vital soul. I strive to keep myself fit knowing that I must accept the process of change that is our physical journey.

We humans are studies in contradiction. I love to ponder the workings of the mind, the body, and the connections between them and between us all... which makes me what most would consider fairly spiritually oriented. Which is an accurate description - unless it stops there. Because for me spirituality is as much about the questions and the doubt as about belief. It's all a wonder. And I love to wonder. I also love to land solidly in friendships and community and hope one day to land in relationship with a partner who sheds welcome light on my life and likes the light I shed on his.

Movement and music play huge roles in my life. I love to dance but do not do so in any "form." I strive to have and feel, internally and externally, a balance of strength, flexibility, and sweetness in my life.
What I’m doing with my life
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Home renovation/remodeling is receiving a fair amount of my energy at this juncture. Design, aesthetics, form and function are delights to me. I have great fun playing with my home as a canvas. I regularly practice yoga at a studio and get out to listen to jazz or other good music as often as I reasonably can. I enjoy food and really like to cook. I tend toward things green and of vegetable nature but am happily omnivorous. I have a less than conventional lifestyle in some ways but am really quite normal.

I have fairly recently traveled in east and central southern Africa where common language is not a given for me, where streets are dark when the sun goes down. Where music seeps from many sources and sometimes overtakes me. Where color is a riot and proximity has a whole new meaning. This dizzies my brain and exhausts my capacities at times. It humbles me and feeds me and shows me what I am made of. And not.

I am fascinated by how people navigate their lives and by who we are internally as well as contextually. I am intrigued by varying cultures and how the integration of all aspects of life work in them. Community is really something. We are all products of it - by birth, by geography, by culture, by choice. As mature adults with what do we choose to surround ourselves? My desire is to learn and stretch and become more fully myself through understanding a broader community. Sometimes we get stuck in beliefs about who we are just because we've never noticed or investigated other ways of being. Oh, what a lot there is to learn.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
finding beauty in ordinary things. Listening. Facilitating. Cooking. Expressing myself if I am motivated to do so. Teaching. Learning. Growing.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books and movies are always about what I have experienced recently because there are thousands in my history and I don't wanna think that hard.

Books: Lots. I'm ready to read one I just love.

Recently appreciated film: Blue Jasmine, Enough Said

LIVE Music I've loved in the past year:
Adrian Martin
Brooks Robertson
Louis Hayes
Omar Sosa
Modern Jazz Quartet Tribute
Billy Cobham
Deborah and Dani Gurgel
Art Resnick Trio
Pete Petersen
George Colligan

Favorite Spins of late:
Brecker Brothers - various cuts
Horace Silver
Oliver Nelson
Tom Scott's version of Mercy, Mercy, Mercy
Ahmad Jamal's 2012 album release: Blue Moon and his classic The Awakening

I love to cook it, eat it, look at it, savor it. Colorful vegetables rule.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Laughter and tears. Words in all forms. MUSIC and movement. Intimacy with people I love.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how I've come to be who I am with all the attendant sweetness and longing and tenderness and fear. About how to be of service in this world while sustaining myself. About the celebration and lamenting of our divine humanity. And about what my palate and soul desire - so that I may return from shopping with the right ingredients.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
a) asleep in front of the fireplace with my book, my cat, and my drink at my side.

b) inhaling deeply as I walk amidst the fragrances of the evening, dusking houses coming to warm light as the evening overtakes us.

c) taking in some of the excellent music Portland has to offer - likely jazz. Oh how I love it.

d) dancing at an undisclosed location.

e) savoring the deliverance of day to night over happy hour with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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is that I have made some serious mistakes in my life from which I continue to learn and grow. I've been questioned about my willingness to put this out there as an introduction... I see it as an offering of truth and a willingness to be real. Are you?
You should message me if
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what you've read above is intriguing rather than off-putting.