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gravcrash

46 / M / straight / Single

Union, Missouri

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Last Online
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Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 8" (1.72m).
Body Type
A little extra
Looking For
Long-term dating
Smokes
Yes
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism but not too serious about it
Sign
Pisces but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from two-year college
Job
Computer / Hardware / Software
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Kids
Has 1 child
Pets
Likes dogs and Likes cats
Languages
English (Fluently)

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I am Reserved, content, and cuddly.

My Self-Summary

I'm going to be a little different and outline a few bad things about me first so that I don't waste your time or mine! First I'm a recovering alcoholic who recently made his ninth month of sobriety (day one was Dec. 26,2008).
I realize many of you won't read any further and that's cool but I feel it's necessary to get it out there. No more skeletons allowed in my closet if I wish to remain sober.
So, it's all about truth for me and hopefully truth from a potential partner/mate or however you would like to define it. Lets see... I can be a little stubborn at times and I'll be the first to admit that I'm not spontaneous dammit! I like a plan, so sue me < insert smiley face >.

If you're still reading, on to the good stuff! I've been working for the same company for 20 years next February. I'm a computer/hardware technician working in the banking industry. I own my own home, well... the mortgage company does but you know what I mean.
I have one daughter who is a sophomore in college. She loves me despite my past and she is the love of my life.
I was originally going to wait for the one year mark of being sober to do the whole internet dating thing. I didn't want any additional variables to potentially screw up the path that I'm on. But I feel confident and in charge of my life for the first time in years and dare I say it? Happy.

The one missing piece is a woman to share my life with. I don't know what that means for the future exactly. Friendship, casual dating, serious dating, marriage, sex buddies? I really don't know.

So here I am, jumping into the great unknown! To those of you who show interest I shall try my best to answer any question you may have about me honestly.
Thanks for reading.

What I’m doing with my life

Mainly delving into new or neglected hobbies. I'm into landscaping/gardening. A new one I started recently is tropical fish. It's a fun hobby but a little more work than I thought. They're my only pets though so I take good care of them.

I’m really good at

Punctuality. I'm always on time.
I have a large vocabulary from reading. Not so much books anymore but mainly through articles on the internet and various message boards.

The first things people usually notice about me

Most people say my eyes. Second I guess would be my shoulders, they are fairly broad.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

You won't see any "deep" literature on my list. I read to relax and to relax I like easy reading, something to get lost in for a few hours. This usually goes for movies as well.
Books: Stephen King - The Stand, It, The Dead Zone, and almost all of his short stories.
Tom Clancy - The Hunt for Red October, Red Storm Rising, Debt of Honor.
Movies: Silence of the Lambs, Aliens, American History X, V for Vendetta, Glory, Airplane!, Young Fankenstein, Terms of Endearment - that is one movie that always makes me cry...but only when no one is looking.
Music: I'm not a huge audiophile, I'm mostly a talk radio guy such as NPR.
I do like Classic Rock if I'm in the mood. ( I just got burned out badly from it in the 70's ). The Doors, Jimi, Stones, Zeppelin, Pink Floyd.
Nowadays I like a lot of Alternative rock but I can listen to country or contemporary without cringing. What I'm saying is, is that music in no way is a deal breaker for me.
Food: Pretty much anything but I'm really not into Seafood much, but I'll eat it. Also just say no to potato salad. Blech.
Steak: Medium rare baby! If you like your steak well done....hmm, that could be a deal breaker. Not really but I may make fun of you.

The six things I could never do without

My goose down pillow, privacy on occasion, salt and pepper, a hot shower, my sense of smell, the belief in love.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

I don't really know how to answer that without it sounding contrived. Everyday things I guess, the economy, my future, my daughter, my family, pursuit of happiness.

On a typical Friday night I am

At home mostly. I'll sometimes cook something a little more adventurous since I have more time. Mainly just reading or maybe play a game of chess on the computer. I'm also into online spades once in awhile.
Sorry, I know that sounds boring but at this moment in time it suits me.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I scratch myself when nobody is watching. ;)

You should message me if

Well, if you've read this far and still have some interest that probably means you are a fairly secure and confident woman who is willing to take a chance but would dump me in a heartbeat if I were to bs you about what I have written in my profile. And that is cool by me. I'm normally attracted to type A personalities in women. That doesn't mean bitch of course, it means assertive. I have no problem making the decision on where to go on a date for example but a completely passive woman is a turn off for me.

I should say that I'm picky about what I like in a woman, appearance wise. Even though I shouldn't be, I can't help it. ( I've waited this long..)
I do prefer slender women around 5'4"- 5'-6" and around 110-125lbs. Hair color isn't really important, nor is eye color. I know what I'm attracted to but it's hard to quantify.
At the risk of sounding like a perv, I'm a backside/leg man. Breasts are always nice as well but are secondary.
Age... I'm flexible on that. Probably between 40-48 give or take a year or two on either side.
That's about it! Now that I've scared all women in a 100 mile radius away, let the fun begin!

Thanks,
Gravcrash