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gravity7

45 / M / Straight / Single

San Francisco, California

His Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 6:35pm
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m).
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Cancer
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Computer / Hardware / Software
Income
Rather not say
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Speaks
English, German

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My self-summary
I'm looking for a woman with whom to create some time. I'm a long-time local and yet I still enjoy walking the city and taking advantage of its hangouts and sights. I am the kind of person to head out for a solo walk on a weekend -- and make new friends by the end of the day. I enjoy it and it keeps me young -- but I do miss having "a constant." (Variables work, too.)

I hail from Scotland, where I grew up, and reached the golden state by way of Ohio. (Who is not from Ohio?!) Those two factors alone would be enough to explain why I'm still in SF. But I've also taken to the local culture and have been through many of its better (and some of its errant) phases. So from acid jazz to early Burning Man through dotbomb to survival and revival, I've stuck with many old friends, cultivated a web of new ones, and yet managed somehow to remain chronically if not terminally single and unattached.

Emotionally I enjoy a good situation and mood, and I'll go places with people that most will not. I get into human situations; perhaps should have been a therapist. Nowadays I'm learning to manage my managers and read clients. I used to choose nutty to the point I was hanging out at baggage claim. I can wind up my presence to a pretty high level, and I see people, sometimes better than they see themselves, quickly and deeply.

I had a grandfather from Singapore, a grandmother from Spain, and have a mother who is German, and father living in Spain. I have traveled most of Europe, parts of Asia, and dipped into N Africa. I lived a year and a half in Berlin before the wall came down.

I'm funny, easy of spirit, and experienced. Though I have work for myself, preferring the road less traveled, I've gone corporate for the paycheck. I love music, I play guitar, I write, I read philosophy and literature, and I'm a film buff. In the past I've been an avid snowboarder, cyclist, and rock-climber, but this is looking more like a year of tennis, biking, and walking. I'm up for drinks, and especially up for pool. Dining out can be fun, but cooking is more fun. I am self-aware and other-aware, and I see relations among people acutely and with insight. I raised my mother and sister during early and chaotic years, and I love a woman's way. While I love conversation, I can say as much by sitting comfortably in quiet. Women like me.

My sense of humor was genetically designed to open escape routes, and I use it frequently. But capture is equally fun, and a better use of time. So hey, enough about me. I'm looking for a spirit to join me. Get in touch.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm drinking from the firehose, as they say, having just taken my first full-time gig at a ginormous consulting firm. It's awesome, and it's kicking my ass. But I'm building a design studio inside the company, so my job is to deliver for clients and keep my team staffed and happy. It's intense, but we're killing it.

I've started walking to work and back, which is roughly dolores park to downtown, and loving it. Last week I clocked 42 miles. Sweet! Now why don't more people walk? I'm also working out as hard as I can, albeit with a routine that allows me to cook at the same time. I'd like to be fit as I was ten years ago.

I'm busy, but available. In the past month I've camped at Yosemite, been to Cape May NJ for a wedding, delivered 3 projects, been to the symphony twice, Water's Wall concert, sailing for a day, and walked 115 miles (there's apps for that). So come friday I'm at happy hour and then I'm outta there. Rather have a weekend.

Addendum -- Lately I've been on the road and in the air a fair amount. My strolls are now as likely along Venice Beach or Santa Monica Blvd. Interesting, in that What's wrong with this picture kind of a way.
I’m really good at
Cooking, improvisational guitar, people, ideas, world affairs, making shit happen, and other things.

Due very likely to alienating regard received during childhood on account of having a Chinese last name and a German mother growing up in Scotland, mitigated by that country's residual tribal and gang-like tendencies, I'm at home as an outsider but a competent mischief maker. I like airports because we're all equally uprooted. I perform best under pressure — and this has led me to some tragic relationship choices. But I've got better.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes, or so I've been told. My smile and my laughter. I don't know, if I had a bag over my head people would notice none of the normal things but notice me much the better. I question the premise of this one.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Stuff I read/have read... Lolita's Sister, Too Big to Inject with Taxpayer Capital (expanded edition);A Supposedly Funny Thing I Have Done On Occasion; Running Into Scissors; The Kid Who Picks the Kite off the Ground for the Kite Runner; You're Ok, How Am I?; The Girl With the DragonSlayer Tatoo; ; Eating Animals (see my journal on how I got this book), Curious Incident of the Dog in the Nighttime, The world is flat, Gravity's Rainbow, Under the Volcano, Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, Neuromancer, Blood Meridian... Gilles Deleuze Jean Baudrillard]], Adorno, Marcuse, Bataille, Giddens, Goffman, pomo, semiotics, philosophy, psychology, sociology, media theory, but I'm most likely to be reading philosophy, sociology, psychology, and the cultural crit stuff that woke me up back in school.

Music on rotation recently ..
pink floyd, dire straits, cat power, the shins, modest mouse, death cab for cutie, preenders, grateful dead, sasha and digweed, the who, led zeppelin, coceau twins, this mortal coil, swans, devendra banhart, joni mitchell, miles davis, tori amos, van halen, ruthie foster, coldplay, bob dylan, tom petty, genesis, jeff buckley, lucinda williams, norah jones, nick cave, underworld

food -- vietnamese, indian, chinese, pizza, but it's hard to top a good steak cooked just shy of living. i've been on a cooking kick of late and trying my hand at dishes that require frequent tasting along the way... mole, chile verde, chicken tikka masala, roast chicken, wonton soup, egg drop soup, spaghetti & meatballs, baked fish.

films & tv -- off-beat, HBO, british crime dramas, eastern european, french new wave, Breaking Bad, hitchcock, welles, andrei tarkovsky, The Newsroom, bela tarr, wong kar wai, kubrick, godard, altman[, antonioni, but also ridley scott, sci fi, monty python, british crime tv series, sopranos, deadwood, LOST, and stuff i'll watch on tv includes breaking bad, The Right Stuffing; Mission Probable: Statistical Protocol; Carlito Went That-A-Way; soccer, nfl, formula 1, family guy, frontline, charlie rose, tour de france. Some of my all-time favorite films include (and I used to travel to the Berlinale to catch them, so I was a bit hard-core)...
Satan Tango, three women, thin red line, donnie brasco, once upon a time in the west, the third man, gilda, french connection, dog day afternoon, the proposition, red, white, blue, fallen angels, la dolce vita, fight club, klute, naked, true romance, contempt, M, l'eclisse, amelie, the son, paris, texas, damnation, all about my mother, carandiru, kitchen stories, chungking express, cracker, elling, the sea, wings of desire, the mirror, stalker, 101 reykjavik, the right stuff, miller's crossing, barton fink, gosford park, black books, eddie izzard, night of the iguana, ikiru, through a glass darkly, apocalypse now, patton, the holy grail , spinal tap,
the list goes on and on and i used to blog about film
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The six things I could never do without
Key signatures, heat, running shoes, garlic, sunshine, forgetting, instagram http://instagram.com/gravity7/
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What's next. Or how to get there. Or what it feels like as it unfolds. I'm settled into a job now that may or may not last a while, but having been independent for a long time I'm not used to the stability and time a sanctioned life provides. So I think about what to reach for, and how to grasp it.

Or truth be told I think a lot about what I'm making for dinner.
On a typical Friday night I am
What's so big about Fridays? Amateur hour out there. I prefer to drink mid week and use the weekend to get outside.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'd like to be a fish. Wouldn't you?
I’m looking for
  • Girls
  • Ages 33–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners
You should message me if
Spring is here for you, too.