Update: Since I wrote my original profile, I retired, then spent
most of a year in another state taking care of my mother. It was a
good experience and brought us closer. Actually, it brought all of
us far-flung siblings closer, too.
Since then, I've taken up watercolor lessons and have gone to
France for one of the best trips I have ever been on.
I haven't lived an ordinary life. Growing up as an Army Brat showed
me an appreciation for the depth of other cultures. It taught me
tolerance and how to learn and adapt quickly. A hundred years or so
of teaching English to teenagers heightened my skills of
perception, curiosity, explaining, patience, and gave me an edgy
sense of humor.
While I spend time with my friends, I miss having a man in my life.
Closeness, sharing, affection, and laughter are things that have
been missing from my private life for far too long. Men are fun and
brave and sexy and gallant and strong and unfathomable and funny
and irrepressibly boyish and . . . well, I really miss having a
good man in my life. I miss sharing our days whether we've been
together or apart, sharing meals, music, films, books, the daily
news, funny stories, deep thoughts, emotions, and physical
All of that adds up to a woman who is smart, enthusiastic, funny,
caring, and adventurous. As a relationship develops I become
vulnerable, loving, and supportive.
What I’m doing with my life
I retired in June 2010 from public education and am now learning to
be semi-retired. I think that this may mean reinventing myself and
my life. A friend has suggested 'restructuring' as a better word. I
am who I am, but want to learn and grow beyond who I was while
'Thoreau-izing' pretty much everything else.
I'm learning to paint watercolors, gathering with friends, going to
plays and other performances, reading.
I’m really good at
I revel in close and thoughtful conversation about things that are
important. I can make people laugh . . . especially if they have an
off-center sense of humor. I can explain stuff. I can write and
edit others' writing. I can hold my end up in conversations about
pretty much everything. I show affection easily. I'm relearning how
to cook. I like to learn new things . . . what can I learn from
The first things people usually notice about me
I don't really know . . . maybe when we meet you can tell me . . .?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: lately I've been reading light: mysteries, mostly. Good
authors are Barr, Deaver, Reichs, Kellerman. The good stuff? Of
Mice & Men, Cold Mountain, Water for Elephants, The Red Tent, A
Walk in the Woods. I recently read about Hemingway and Hadley in
Paris and that sent me on a round of books about Jazz Age writers
finishing up with Gatsby.
Movies (a partial list): The African Queen, Amelie, Avatar, It's a
Wonderful Life, Chicago, Shakespeare in Love, Monster House, It's
Complicated, Shirley Valentine, Being John Malkovich, Lost in
Translation, Unbearable Lightness of Being, Brazil . . . so many
films, so little time
Music: pretty much everything, but if I had to pick, give me the
Blues, melodic jazz, American Songbook, ragtime, oldies from my
youth, and some newer stuff (Glee and early Lady Gaga come to
mind), some classical, honky-tonk, and rockabilly.
Food: anything that is prepared well (My ancestors were peasants
and any who were picky eaters starved to death and apparently did
not reproduce, so I like EVERYTHING.)
The six things I could never do without
curiousity and intelligence, friends, humor, a close companion and
lover, good food and wine, books and films
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how to be semi-retired, whatever piece I'm editing for someone
else, my own writing, how to start a tutoring business of my own,
what's for dinner, the next gathering of friends, what to do with
On a typical Friday night I am
either out with friends or home with a glass of wine and a film or
a book or (I'll admit it) TV or my computer (like right now)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
After the divorce, I was a hermit for about eight years. In many
ways I came out the better for it, but now I am done with that.
You should message me if
Do you like conversations that make you think or laugh out loud?
Movies or even plays and talking about them after? Books? How about
live music (especially blues)? Impromptu dancing in the kitchen
after/while cooking together? Good wine? Would you consider having
an adventure? Sharing a Sunday crossword puzzle . . . you know, the
really hard ones? A dry and deadpan sense of humor? Someone who is
educated and funny and smart and caring seeks same in a good man.