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  • Ages 26–40
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Last online
Today – 7:12am
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Has a kid
Has dogs
My self-summary
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Teacher, writer, father, artistically inclined generally. Easily defeated by tiny sleds from my childhood. Often covered in paint and sawdust. I'll take the lakes, the mountains, a bonfire, and the Oxford comma any time. INFP, if the Myers-Briggs thing interests you at all.
What I’m doing with my life
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Mostly I'm working (I teach high school English and adjunct as a creative writing and lit instructor), writing, spending quality time with my friends and family, trying to raise a good tiny person in this world, and being grateful to be back home in Dirigo after a decade away.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Recently: Building furniture out of lumber reclaimed from old barns. Partaking in many bonfires and much vitamin d gathering in the backyard to banish the winter. Consistently: Self-deprecation. Listening. Conversing. Trying to inhabit and see from perspectives outside my own. Fighting my natural cynicism, and appreciating all the good I see each day. Rambling hikes. Movie theaters. Lists. Parallel parking. Breaking stuff, unfortunately. Fixing stuff, fortunately. Going down Wikipedia wormholes. Passing a weekend in a book or out on a road trip. Being fascinated by old things, honoring them, salvaging them. History, heritage, the past (both personal and cultural)--these things matter so much, and I think we're all too guilty of forgetting. Being overly fond of birds and trees. Appreciating grammar and the power of language. Understanding who I am and what I need from others in my relationships, whether platonic or romantic. Being verbose on le Internet =).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Some favs across the board. Exempting food--I remain a total fat kid at heart and most everything is fair game, except Jello. Jello is scary. Solid foods should not be transparent.

Books: Andre Dubus, Alice Munro, Flannery O'Connor, Edward Jones, William Faulkner, Denis Johnson, J.M. Coetzee, Michael Cunningham, Anton Chekhov, Marilynne Robinson, Nicholson Baker, Graham Greene, Rick Bass, Cormac McCarthy, Mavis Gallant, Deborah Eisenberg, James Joyce, Jayne Anne Philips, Kevin Brockmeier, Alistair MacLeod, Gallway Kinnel, Anne Carson, good epic fantasy (Game of Thrones) and good detective novels (Walt Longmire!) in general.

Movies and television: Chinatown, Vertigo, Winter Light, Days of Heaven, Five Easy Pieces, The Hustler, Kub, Night of the Hunter, Days of Heaven, Animal Kingdom, The Hustler, Arrested Development, The Wire, Mad Men, Breaking Bad, Parks and Rec., Louie. I'm a complete sucker for the glut of Marvel/DC fare--takes me right back to being a nerdy, comic book-loving kid.

Music: The Band, Wilco, The Clash, The Replacements, The Tallest Man On Earth, Whiskeytown, Gram Parsons, The Beatles (George has always been my guy), Mark Kozelek, CCR, Mark Knopfler, Muddy Waters, Miles Davis, Cannonball Adderley, The Stanley Brothers, Sharon Van Etten, David Byrne, Lightnin' Hopkins, Second Wave Ska (The Specials!), Classical (Stravinsky and Chopin are favs). Never met a horn or a banjo I didn't like.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Books.
2. Seasons (general variety and shifts in the natural world, really).
3. The mountains and the woods.
4. Intelligent and meaningful conversation (small talk is a great way to deflect or evade, and a social necessity at times, but it was never intended to replace real talk).
5. Human connection (real physical and emotional intimacy) and community.
6. Parenthetical references (obviously).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Honestly, decompressing from a long week being surrounded by high schoolers. A book, a movie, a beverage, a bonfire in the backyard. Maybe some time in the barn, with friends, or in the loving arms of some terrible CW TV show on Netflix. I'll admit there was a torrid and shameful recent fling with The 100--dystopian terraforming and young adult drama: what's not to love/hate?