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40 Brooklyn, NY Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 28-44
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 24
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Post grad
Might want kids
English (Fluently), Italian (Somewhat), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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i'm that girl holding a coffee that you're looking at when you're out walking your dog on sunday morning in your charming neighborhood and i'm looking at you too but neither one of us knows quite what to say to start the conversation. yeah, that one. should we have an icebreaker code word?

i recently read that this sense is encapsulated in the word 'Mamihlapinatapei,' a Yagan word (an indigenous language of Tierra del Fuego) meaning the wordless yet meaningful look shared by two people who desire to initiate something, but are both reluctant to start. maybe that's the code word. if I can figure out how to pronounce it.

i seem to have made a life out of doing things that people tell me i'm not supposed to be able to do, it wasn't on purpose but if you have a sense of humor about yourself, it works to walk the line. i like that it keeps me highly optimistic and yet equally irreverent. like a soft dreamy rebel. i'm independent and easy-going and can't stand drama queens but am passionate about my interests and generous with my affection for people and ideas. british by nature but californian by nurture, my two passports keep me on a search for international adventure, design oddities, and with a perspective of humility and fascination. i'm not immune to debauchery and indulging in varying forms of carnal pleasures but i like to think of myself as relatively together.
What I’m doing with my life
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professionally - 1 part robots, 1 part algae, 1 part fashion, dash of installation art blended smoothly into a design paste. i feel lucky that i'm able to work, teach, and research in an idyllic state where art, design, science, and technology mingle and where work and life all roll into one joyful endeavor.

i keep work balanced with keeping fit (running, yoga, volleyball, surfing), and keeping up (with friends, family, culture and the state of the world). this all makes me sound really busy which i can be but i'm actually the opposite of a workaholic, i'm really good at relaxing. sometimes, there really is nothing better than chilling the f. out on the beach for an afternoon of sexy blissful nothingness. in down time, i can teach you how to weld steel and i have good insect stories from 6 different continents.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
losing umbrellas
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
my hair. when i traveled through africa, people sometimes asked to pet it like an exotic animal. it also makes an excellent impromptu silky pillow.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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book: Seeing is Forgetting the Name of the Thing One Sees (biography of artist Robert Irwin)
hands down, best book for inspiration

i'm an artistic and free-thinking individual with tastes to reflect that, but beyond that, this section always seems like a coolness competition and i hate the idea of accidentally triggering someone's traumatic memories of a bad middle school dance with a random 80s reference that incites judgement. although if somebody would actually just write justin bieber in this section, i think i'd have to message them for their cojones.

if this section asked about 'design, art, architecture, and fashion' instead, i'd be pointedly opinionated.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my two passports
cordless drill
i'm leaving one spot open for something i didn't know i needed yet
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
getting a pet turtle which I'd name Logo, and an American Eskimo dog which I'd name Swiffer

why most guys don't understand the power of style and taste. small simple things mean the world in terms of attraction.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
in the roof farm of my studio in brooklyn having a beer with my friends and cohorts.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I live in the future, the part that isn't evenly distributed yet.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you're a rebel with a cause.
you ooze self-awareness, subtlety and style.
you tend to elicit words like 'unique,' 'bojuberous' and 'can't-believe-that-foxy-lad-is-so-f'ing-brilliant' (and know how to turn that into one word in german)
you have a big heart but veins that pulse with a mild cynicism solution
you're humble because you can be.
you're not afraid to be kind.
you can deinstall my air conditioner before winter's onset.
(i'm also a sucker for tall with great hair)