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greenleaf60

54 M San Diego, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 34–56
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:31am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly vegan
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Politics / Government
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Taking a break from OKC for a while.

"It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see."
Me:
New to San Diego and loving it. Friendly people, great weather, clean beaches. What could be wrong with that!
Smart, liberal, irreverent, atheist, verbal, sometimes thought to be cute. My life is entering a brand new, exciting stage. For a long while I've worked in the political realm, which I have mostly enjoyed. Now I'm preparing to go back to grad school in 2015 for Counseling Psychology. Feeling the calling. Grad school will be a load but I'm pretty excited about the future.
For those of you familiar, I scored as an ENTP on the Myers-Briggs, and yep that pretty much nails it.(Extrovert, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceiving). I am deeply attracted to smart women (sapiosexual), and really appreciate tenderness and gentleness. I am looking for real intimacy, not just sexual (which of course is great), but emotional as well. I'm looking for my lover to be my best friend. If this makes sense to you, we might be a match.

You:
Smart, funny, cute, kind. Well that would be a good start. But also I'm looking for someone who is not religious, who is liberal, who doesn't want kids, who is not materialistic ( if you're unsure whether you're materialistic, here's a clue: if you wear makeup and jewelry to the beach, care what someone drives instead of how they live, think the man must pay always, well...you might not exactly be a hippie). I would love to meet a smart, funny, sexy woman for best friend/lover/life partner fun. You don't need to run marathons, or single handedly be saving the whales, or have traveled to 100 countries. You just need to be comfortable being you. If we like each other, that will be more than enough.

More:
Originally from NY, I've lived all over the country and have come to love many different parts of it. I especially love the silence of the desert (CA, AZ, NM), the timelessness of the ocean (Hawaii, CA), and sharing my walks with critters in the woods (DC, yes DC, Seattle). I strongly feel my future will see me living much closer to nature. With sounds of the surf, the woods or the desert filling the house at night.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Clearing away all obstacles so that grad school is as fun as possible.

Wagging more, barking less.
Staying open to possibilities.
Following the passion, not the path of least resistance.
Forgiving, loving, laughing.
and being grateful...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm intuitive and perceptive about people, and really good about separating the essential from the non-essential.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Some people have mentioned that I'm easy to talk to, usually after they've told me their life story.
Often I get mistaken for being much younger, sucked when I was in my 20's but not at all bad now.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
All time favorite books: 2 that really changed my life were Walden (he was right about so much, it gives one hope to find one's own path) and the Sherlock Holmes short stories (he always knows what the right thing to do is, and never lacks the courage of his convictions). Raymond Chandler. Stieg Larsson (almost makes me want to move to Stockholm). The Time Traveler's Wife. Such an emotionally powerful book, the fastest 500 pages I've read in forever! So sweet and sad at the same time, like life.

Movies: too many to list. Last one I saw that moved me, "Night Train to Lisbon". A fantastic story of a man who follows his curiosity, without caution for once, and winds up finding himself. The final scene just nails it. It poses the question that we most want to hear from another, and from life. Terrific. "All is Lost". An oddly gripping film, with one of the most underrated actors, Redford, if you sit with it and let it tell it's story it will take you somewhere. The ending was sensational.
Last Call at the Oasis. El Secreto de sus Ojos. The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, both the American and Swedish versions.
To Kill a Mockingbird (all-time best film Dad). Tons of road movies. Ordinary People. The Professionals (a little seen Western, Burt Lancaster, Lee Marvin and Robert Ryan). The Cincinnati Kid. Rear Window. 12 Angry Men. The Best Years of Our Lives (big Myrna Loy fan). Curtis Hanson (LA Confidential, The Wonder Boys, Lucky You). The Alien films. Amelie. A Very Long Engagement. The Seven Per-Cent Solution. The Big Lebowski (nice Marmot), V for Vendetta, From Here to Eternity (had to include one film set in Hawaii, and this is really the only good one) and the list goes on forever.

Music: anything that makes me want to dance, but especially the Clash, X, Iggy, Bowie, ska, punk, some Stones, English Beat, Specials, PJ Harvey, Talking Heads, The Specials. Also Neil Young, Jack Johnson. And of course the Grateful Dead, first song I heard on the radio that I REALLY wanted to hear again was "Uncle John's Band". One thing I really want to do is update my musical tastes. The Killers: "All these things that I've done". Truly must update my listening habits.

Food: Italian, Mexican, though I'm expanding my repertoire.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Hope
Self-confidence
Love
Laughter
a little help from my friends
The ocean
Hot showers (I CAN count, but this last was just too important to leave off)

and now for some things I could do w/o in our world:
greed
mean people
organized religion
thinking violence makes you a man, but human sexuality is dirty
creationism
people who think life is so sacred they bomb family planning clinics (wow, if there is a god, are they in for a surprise)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to create the life I want in this the second half of my life.
Whether we can be free of those things that imprison us.
Grad school.
How to give up sugar, when most food tastes terrible without it. :)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Could be found doing almost anything, I march to my own drummer.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Hmm, such fertile ground. Let's try this, although I have mainly lived in big cities, I strongly feel the pull of living away from the noise of modern life. There is something fantastic about hearing only nature. The sounds of the woods or the beach are like music to me, and the silence of the desert is downright spiritual. When I lived in Honolulu, I would walk to the beach late at night and it felt as if I had the island to myself. When in Albuquerque I would drive outside the city, to the desert and just watch the stars. When I lived in D.C. I'd take the dog for all day, or night, walks in the woods. Moments like these made me feel the connection to our home (nature) that is lost in the city.
My ideal for the future is to live somewhere that allows the excitement and the culture of a city, but also the quiet and nearness to nature that is increasingly hard to find.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
1) You like anything you've read, because I'd love to hear from you.

2) You are serious about eventually meeting in person.

3) You are emotionally open and ready to meet someone. This is necessary. I have met too many women on this site who were not ready to date, or too emotionally guarded to have a relationship. Please be sure you're ready.

4) You've been honest in your profile. I know it can be hard, but take that leap of faith with me. Honesty is where it's at.

5) If you are looking for a deep connection, because so am I.

6) If you are more Susan Sarandon than Sarah Palin.

7) You are young in mind, body and spirit, regardless of age.