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Books: Three of the books that had the biggest impact on me were
"Care of the Soul" by Thomas Moore, "The Writer's Journey," by
Christopher Vogler, and "How to Argue and Win Every Time," by Gerry
The title of the last book is misleading: it's not about destroying
your opponent, it's about figuring out what you need from the
negotiation, what your opponent needs, and how to find a middle
ground. In other words, winning doesn't always have to be a
Vogler's book is a more accessible version of Joseph Campbell's
Hero's Journey, but geared toward writers, and Care of the Soul
might best be described as an owner's manual for humans...it can
help you appreciate life's gifts and life's tests more than you can
I quit reading "The Tao of Physics" about 20 pages from the end,
but I have a good excuse because my prefrontal lobe exploded...I
read mostly new-age, spiritual, kaballah, magickal, etc., though I
also read biographies...I've compared the writings of Aleister
Crowley, Norman Vincent Peale, Deepak Chopra and Shakti Gawain and
found it fascinating to contemplate the relationship between
Peale's Protestant "Power of Positive Thinking" with Crowley's "Do
as you will" and Chopra and Gawain's eastern bent...A friend
recently turned me on to Tolle and he reminded me of a lesson that
I thought I had learned already...
I'm proud that I'm one of the few (apparently) who finished A Brief
History of Time (i'm stubborn like that)...and surprisingly I
understood...uh some of it. Like the verbs. Yeah, most of the
verbs. A lot of the nouns, too.
Also, the Junie B. Jones series rocks.
Movies: Love and Death, Holy Grail, Bull Durham and North by
Northwest are the greatest movies ever. Mississippi Burning,
Nightmare Before Christmas, It's a Wonderful Life are all
brilliant...I love movies that can fool me.
Shows: I don't watch much TV, and I got rid of cable in
February...not out of any sense of elitism but I just wasn't
watching anything on it...mostly MLB and NFL games, though I've
enjoyed Jon Stewart's Daily Show, Scrubs, and 30 Rock...usually in
syndication or on Netflix. I like live theater (except musicals,
and of course my kid is doing them for a career, sheesh) and I
generally hold the same standards for theater as I do for film. I
like an active, inventive plot, with engaging characters who change
(hopefully grow) during their journey. I end up supporting a lot of
avant-garde and experimental theater, though frankly a lot of it is
lacking in plot and characterization.
Music: most types, with the exception of the whiny kind of country
and hard rap. Favorites are classic rock, especially the Beatles,
and New Orleans jazz/ragtime. Hendrix's version of "Watchtower" is
the greatest song ever. Elvis Costello's "Allison." Blink 182's
"Feelin This." Fats Waller's "This Joint is Jumpin'". Corr's "I
Know My Love." Proclaimers' "Role Model." Warren Zevon's "Lawyers,
Guns and Money" Clash's "The Call Up." Eminem's "Lose Yourself."
Food: Spicy. Very spicy. Meat. Mac 'n Cheese. Scallops. The end cut
of a prime rib. Soylent Green. Nuts. Crunchy peanut butter.
I am as adventurous in my food as in my other appetites and love to
try new restaurants, foods, or cuisines.