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45 M Portland, OR

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:18am
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Atheism, and laughing about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Banking / Finance
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more

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My self-summary
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I'm tall, fit and I have a job that I don't hate.

I grew up outside of Washington DC. I've lived in Aspen and St Croix and backpacked through costa rica. I've seen Fugazi many times, played D&D with Spike Jonez, and almost hit Dan Quaile with a golf ball. Oh yeah, I also shook Hunter S Thompson's bathroom hand.

Looking for adventure, or a date to the movies.
What I’m doing with my life
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I help people save for retirement. I've been in the financial services industry for the past 10 years. I get to sit down with people and tell them that they will never be able to retire - I love it! I also volunteer on a finance committee for a nonprofit which helps Portland's most financially vulnerable keep their homes.

**update** after 2 1/2 years I resigned from that non'profit.

I have two kids, they are amazing, I love them, don't worry about it.

I also have been creating songs for many years with guitar/voice/4-track. No, I'm not a brooding sack of sorrow. In fact, I'm a total laugh riot. You like laughing? Me too! Especially since we're all doomed.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I can do some things very well and with other things I'm a total disaster.

Question: why do so many women mention that they are excellent at parallel parking? Is this code for something much more interesting? If that's the case, I am also excellent at parallel parking.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm invisible.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Paul Auster, Kurt Vonnegut, Cormac McCarthy, H. Hesse, John Irving, Stephen Crane, Will. I. Am Faulkner and Steinbeck have wired my brain and ruined most other lit. Although, I have been digging Raymond Carver these days...

Music is very important to me, so I'll name a few:

Band of Horses
Pavement ~
Leonard Cohen
LCD Soundsystem
Elliot Smith
TV auf der Radio
Echo & the Bunnymen ~
Broken Social Scene ~
Cornershop (!)

My favorite comedians are: Louie CK, Jim Gaffigan, Brian Regan, Patton Oswald and Sarah Silverman.

Movies: I like the Coen Brothers and Stanley Kuberik. Ever seen "Dead Man" with Johnny Depp? Or "Moon" with Sam Rockwell? How about "Dancer in the Dark" with Bjork? I loved that movie, it'll be with me forever, I'll never watch it again. I also like stupid comedies like Anchorman, Zoolander, Step Brothers and Monty Python.

Got any recommendations? I'd love to hear from you.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The 7 unimaginable possibilities of tomorrow. I know that's more than 6, but I just couldn't leave one out.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The funny trees outside of my window.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Completely different, totally the same
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am seeking authentic connection. I don't expect perfection, I am grounded and mature. I also want you to be total fox.
I’m looking for
  • Straight girls only
  • Ages 35–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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I have the free version of okcupid. So, if I show up on you're Visitors list more than once or twice, it's just because I think you're either foxy, interesting, and/or totally strange. I cannot hide. But what's the point of hiding?

That being said, apparently I'm using 0% of my message storage, so feel free to say hi.

If you understand that the whole point of a relationship is to set your partner free. Goddamn, Sting was right!